Something went wrong last weekend and I just can't figure out what, he says nothing happend and that he is just precoccupied and busy as he has almost deminshed any contact with me. He has stopped sending me txt like he used to or calling. He even vanished for two days without any news. When I enquired he said he was out with friends. I am really scared about my relationship's future, am I just thinking too much or is he legitimately bored with me, please advise. :'(
2007-10-28 03:10:35 · 11 answers · asked by pabalu.. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess i'll give him sum space i've been bombarding him too much and then speak 2 him and learn of what is on and then decide what is to be done, thanx guyz! love u all! :)
2007-10-28 03:36:23 · update #1
this is what he wrote to me 4 days ago:
"acha, can you smell that in the air, is it.......... a flowery smell, a fruity smell, fragancy smell, 'NO' its LOVE!!!!! thats what i smell LOVE"
after that conversation..he vanished for 2 days only avoiding me..i'm so heart broken :'(
2007-10-28 04:04:17 · update #2
Well there's two ways to look at it. Way 1. Trust him and believe him since he is your fiance. or Way 2, (a little more complex) You decide on your own and confront him. This is a little more risky than way 1. You have to be prepared to face the consequences of action #2. He might get offended that you have trust issues with him.
2007-10-28 03:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's avoiding you like the plague, probably either to get his mind straight, or in hopes you'll just dump him. Sometimes guys can feel overwelmed, they start out doing tons of crap they wouldn't normally do to woo you, then once they've been with you for a while, and know you more, they feel it either isn't necessary, or they're burned out and it's become a chore. I would give him some space and then try to talk to him about it. Be blunt, tell him exactly how you feel.
The other thing is, you may have slacked off and not noticed. Maybe you don't do a lot of the things you use to. You said he's your fiance so i'm guessing you've been together for a good while. Try to spruce things up yourself. Women have a good habit of dong the same thing, they do a bunch a of crap initially when they hook up with a guy, but as time goes on they back off. The puppy dog love type stuff.
My guess is it's a little bit of you and him... and he probably things the same about you. He probably thinks you're bored with him... i don't know, i'm no Dr Phil.... but you need to tkae control of your situation for yourself... it's up to you
2007-10-28 10:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by dwa_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It needs to be address; actions that go unaddressed are the ones that are taken for granted..they will "assume" that you were ok with it. I give my partner their space, I expect the same in return..Being open and honest from a start does work..Yes and I am aware of the "bumps down the road" We all go through something and if not handle from a "get -go" than we too are at fault or afraid to lose him or her. Start being a bit more vivacious, new things to do etc..
2007-10-28 11:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by !@#$% 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some spice back into the relationship. Just because you are engaged to be married, doesn't mean you can stop having fun like in the beginning. Go on a moonlit picnic or cook him something special at your house. Don't get stuck in the same rut!
2007-10-28 10:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mads 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could be getting scared especially if the date is coming real soon. most men are terrified of getting married and may be trying to get out of it. think about the cirumstances of your engagement. did he feel obligated? did you nag him with hints? or did he ask you on his own? if the answer is one of the firs two then maybe you should talk to him about postponing it or asking him what he really wants. if you do get married, never get too comfortable. dress and have sex like you did when the relationship was fresh and new. good luck! :)
2007-10-28 10:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by bilkmilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation. Have an honest, heart2heart with him. If he doesn't see that you're trying to make the relationship work, then give him his space. He'll come around then, and if he doesn't, it wasn't meant to be. Leave him at that point.
2007-10-28 10:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Loving Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Checkers is right, the two of you need to sit down and discuss the situation. I hope things work out. Good Luck.
2007-10-28 10:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key.
if you think that he is bored
with you than change that
do fun things that you both like
to do.
good luck.
2007-10-28 10:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by GottaLoveDancin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should talk to him. It will make you feel better and he'll tell you what's up.
2007-10-28 10:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe :) 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you sat him down and asked him has he someone else
2007-10-28 10:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by starlight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋