i have a new boyfriend and my ex has said thing like he will kill him if he was to hurt me and other stuff besides that he wants to still be my friend and my boyfriend does not want me still talking to him cause he feelis that my ex wants me back which is true but my ex said that he knows i have move on should i talk to my ex still as a friend which was also my first or should i respect my boyfriend descion that i should not talk to him plus my ex talk to my brother and sisters so wat should i do!!!!!?????
2007-10-28 09:05:51 · 27 answers · asked by tati7128 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
plus i love my boyfriend and if my boyfriend had his ex around i would be VERY UPSET.
2007-10-28 09:31:07 · update #1
if you and your ex can remain friends without it interfearing with your current relationship i dont see why not. it neva hurt anyone to just be friends.
the situation ur in is the one im in with my ex.... dont make your desicion based on ur bf. do wat makes you happy. if your new bf cant except the fact that you 2 are goin to remain friend then u might want to question the current relationship ur in
2007-10-28 09:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by TwoTimes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is such a thing as being a friend to someone with whom you've had a romantic relationship. There's just too much baggage. Besides, your ex has threatened your new boyfriend, and that's not saying much about his character. If you were to continue a friendship with him, he would become more and more possessive, jealous and even abusive. His request for friendship is merely a coverup to get you back. Unless you want him back on his terms, I'd say you're better off to move on, and show respect to your new boyfriend. You can't play both sides against the middle, so you'll have to make up your mind. Which man will make you the happiest? Good luck!
2007-10-28 09:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u cant let ur ex hold u back from moving on to other boys... if u were to choose ur ex then what would that do to ur relationship with ur bf if you think about it the choice is not that difficult see what happens with this new relationship and something tells me ur ex will always be there for u when u need him but tell him that u need ur space right now {not hurting his feelings} and that you have a bf that is not that comfortable with u hanging out with ur ex hopefully he will understand and if not...then well make sure u get ur point across that you want to be with ur bf right now and that u cant be friends with him at the moment.
if you ever want to get anywhere in life..u need to move forward and be with new people, not look back and go back to where you started. good luck.
2007-10-28 09:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally you should make your boyfriend just a friend because your ex seems to care more about you than your boyfriend so I think you should think about and maybe you should get back together with your ex and dump your boyfriend.
2007-10-28 09:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by heyjeniceko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friendly towards each other. You don't have to stick on the "friend" label, just chat and say hi to each other in the halls at school. If your boyfriend has a fit, then explain to him that you are only being friendly, you are not gonna get back together or anything. Then make out with your bf to make him feel better. That usually will make it clear who you love.
2007-10-28 09:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your current boyfriend sounds just as controlling as your ex does from what you wrote. I'd avoid being "friends" with your ex because YOU have a feeling that he just wants to get back together, not because a controlling male is feeling threatened by the possibility of you befriending your ex.
2007-10-28 09:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should Tell your new boyfriend that hes the one you want and your through with your ex. That you don't love him anymore and there's no way in hell you would leave your new boy for your ex. Just explain to him that you want to be friends but thats strictly it.
2007-10-28 09:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Hrscrzy4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. kinda difficult. Stay in the middle first, then weigh things up.. write it down in two columns for New BF and Ex... but each person has two sub-columns to show: Pros and cons. list down the good and bad consequences of staying with either person. Get what I mean? Bottom line, go where you heart is.. the list you made is just a tabulation to open up your eyes on who hold dear to you.
2007-10-28 09:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by foxy123magenta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, what a dilemma your in.
My Ex broke up with me as he was cheating on me with a girl from work. We tried to be friend's but it was impossible.
If you and your Ex can be friends, then why is it bothering your new boyfriend so much? It is totally up to you and not your boyfriend as to whom you can be friends with. If you want to be friends with your ex then be friends with him. Your boyfriend might not like the decision but your ex can see that you have moved on in your love life and he should respect that. if he doesn't respect that then don't be friends with him.
Also as he is friends with your brother and sisters, then why shouldn't you be friends with him too? speak to your new boyfriend about that he is friends with your siblings and you cant exactly tell them not to be friends with him, let him know that you don't love your ex but you have to be nice to him as he i friends with your family.
Hun, it is totally up to you and no one else.
Hope you come to a good decision.
Take care!
2007-10-28 09:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him like a friend. It doesn't mean you have to spend time with him. Just watch for game. Your ex may be trying to cause friction between you and your new boyfriend.
2007-10-28 09:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...he's your EX for a REASON!!!
I personally never cared to "be friends with" any ex I have, so I don't even GO there. As for your ex threatening your current boyfriend, that's been overdone for time immemorial. Tell your ex to butt out and go find someone else to focus on.
And tell your brother and sisters to ignore him.
2007-10-28 09:09:56 · answer #11 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋