My husband and i recently got married. We dated for a little over 2 years, it was a long distance relationship where he would fly once a month. And everything was great. Since we got married however, somethings have dramatically changed. When it comes down to sex, he is either too tired, his back is hurting or something else. However, none of those things are a factor when he decides he is just over frustrated and wants to just masturbate or for me to give him oral sex. it has gotten to the point for i am always accusing him of cheating on me, or not being attracted to me. I even think he has erotic chats online, because our computer is in our room, and he always asks me to leave the room when he wants to take care of it himself. I dont know what to do.
2007-10-28 09:01:23 · 6 answers · asked by Help!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communication, communication, communication. The wonders of actually being honest in a marriage are constantly taken for granted. We are taught at a young age that is it fine to lie a little, that a little white lie is fine, when no one gets hurt. Well, that was fine when your mother tells the next door neighbor that she doesn't have any more sugar, but those little white lies add up in a marriage. I'm not saying necessarily that he is lying or you are lying, but the underlying reason for mistrust is either a lack of communication or a lack of honesty. If you can't be honest in a marriage, then better get a plan B, which is usually a lawyer.
2007-10-28 09:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what exactly did you think he was doing in the time he wasn't spending with you? It never pays to marry someone you don't actually know and apparently, your once a month boyfriend, isn't a day to day husband.
Think about it this way. You married someone you have seen about 24 times give or take a few days.
2007-10-28 16:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but this sounds just like the joys of married life. I`m sure it was a lot more fun when it was long distance and you just got together once a month. This is what it`s like when it`s day in day out. Learn to go with it or bail out now.
2007-10-28 16:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by vivi-mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's got some real sexual hangups. I would be inclined to think your problems are a lot bigger than you suggested. He needs professional help, but I doubt he's going to agree, so maybe you should weigh your options.
1. stay with him and ignore it.
2. get help from a professional for yourself
3. get out while the gettin's good.
2007-10-28 16:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be tough, but it is better to leave now than to wait and leave latter. The longer you are with him the more you will be hurt, and you deserve far better. We all deserve a loving relationship.
2007-10-28 16:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is more pleased masterbating then he dont need you.and oral sex yuck no way .get out now asap.
2007-10-28 16:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋