Family & Relationships - 12 October 2007

My fiance and I have both been married before, but his first wedding was a small Justice of the Peace wedding. He wants this one to be done right. (I would actually prefer smaller, but I compromised on this). We both already have children, I am finally puruing my dream of going to college, so money is tight. We mostly have the wedding planned, and due to wonderful friends and family, are able to have a very nice wedding for a budget that is manageable. The only question I have is, is it ok to use diposable plates and silverware, should I wrap the silverware in the napkins, or with a ribbon, or just leave them for the guests to grab individually, and what plate should I get, paper (real good, thick paper) or plastic?

2007-10-12 04:31:31 · 12 answers · asked by JENNIFER G 2 in Weddings

I mean, some of you spend hours answering just one question. are you that caring? do you not have anyone to care for, so you find someone to care for, even you don't know the other person? are you that bored? what the heck do you get out of it?

2007-10-12 04:30:24 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

their mothers attitude about your relationship.....if your new wife was good and kind to them....would you leave in order to have a better relationship with your kids?

2007-10-12 04:30:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, this house used to be her mother's, who smoked and then died in June. So they would sit in the kitchen and smoke together. Now that she has passed away we are renting the house from his grandpa. My boyfriend's mom comes over all the time to go through her moms stuff and lights up cigarette after cigarette. It's not just a couple, it's like over 10!!!

She even brings the cigarettes in the bathroom and smokes in there and you cant use it for more than an hour to let it air out. She knows that both me and her son don't smoke and she knows how we feel about it. But she does it anyway!

I don't want to ask her myself but I think I'm getting to the point where I'm going to have to say something. I'm kind of shy and she gets really really defensive if anyone says anything about her cigarettes. Ive seen it happen. But I'm worried about our health, and thats more important.

What should I say to her? And how can I go about saying it so it doesn't hurt her feelings?

2007-10-12 04:29:08 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I get really happy over little things, like someone opening the door or a song, but I also get depressed really quickly too, and I tend to stay depressed for a really long time...but the thing is I tend to hide it from my friends and family, so is this a bad thing? I don't have any control over my emotions and it is driving me crazy? Is this normal? And how do I explain this to my friends?

2007-10-12 04:27:51 · 9 answers · asked by Sellie 2 in Friends

mum or dad or sister or brother or aunty or uncle or friend

so who???

2007-10-12 04:27:11 · 12 answers · asked by yaz 2 in Family

Im getting really desperate. An old lady from down the road who just moved in around 7 months ago started coming to my door asking for money on wednesdays, for cigarettes, and always brought it back round on mondays when she got her benifits. Now shes started coming around more than once a week asking for money, and not paying me back saying shes getting a loan at Christmas to pay me back with. She now owes me around $70-$80 and by Christmas it will be a lot more, I just cant afford it anymore I need the money for other things like gas for the car and bills and food. I dont want to be mean because she might stop speaking to me and not give me the money she already owes, I just want to stop lending her it because its getting too much. Any friendly advice?

2007-10-12 04:26:29 · 8 answers · asked by :] 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My girl friend work from 2pm to 10pm,so i call her at 10pm and she sad that she had to stay and help.so before 11pm she call me at 10:56pm, and she sad that see was leveing her work plays and will see get home we was on the phone in to 3am and ween we got off the phone I call her cell phone back to get into har voice male to see if she is playing me. and she had one voice male and it was a boy. so I call her house phone and i was like how is that and she was like I cant have friends but ween i say is you talking to someone she was like no But she in texas and iam in Alabama But iam going back to her but ya hlep me.

2007-10-12 04:25:26 · 22 answers · asked by jlandg 1 in Family

I am having some serious problems in my marriage and need some third party advice. I have just about had it with my husbands behavior, our living situation and financial situation. I stay at home with our 10 month old and since my husband won't work with me as far as taking care of the baby while I work, I'm unable to get a job. He refuses to agree with daycare also. Since he is the only one bringing in income we live with his family. His mother, father, sister and her two 18 year old sons. They are all out of control alcoholics, drug addicts, slobs and big mouths. They have no respect or care for anyone but themselves and they are constantly making my life more difficult. They wake the baby all hours of the night, leave disgusting messes that I have to either clean up or risk my baby getting sick or hurt from it. My husband is very unhelpful. He won't get a second job, let me get any time to myself worth talking about or get his **** together with the bills.

2007-10-12 04:24:10 · 13 answers · asked by Ruby Tuesday 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-12 04:23:51 · 13 answers · asked by tony s 5 in Singles & Dating

Why is it that when you really like a person, they dont want you, but when you are not interested, they like you and would really treat you nicely???Whats up with that...Also why is it that player guys that dont really care, come out ahead

2007-10-12 04:21:02 · 1 answers · asked by ms.mary 2 in Singles & Dating

likes u more than a friend

2007-10-12 04:20:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

M11 year old daughter is going through puberty and my husband is asking her if she wants to go buy bras with him? We just got married and she is not his child is this something to worry about? We did not live together before we got married and after a month of marriage he is saying this

2007-10-12 04:20:23 · 30 answers · asked by me 2 in Family

the couple is around age 20
this is not a sexual relationship

2007-10-12 04:19:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i just answered a q?, and it seemed interesting to keep asking about this matter.
lets say the child has misbehaved, and the step parent has punished him, what would you do? the child is crying at this point and is yelling " ur not my mom/dad" would u back ur spouse, and tell the child to to his room or would u under mined what ur spouse said and let the child off the hook?

mature answers please!

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2007-10-12 04:19:12 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I decided to divorce a few days ago.
This morning he handed me a w4 and told me to change
it to single claiming my kids.
Should I change it yet. no papers have been filed
for anything....seperation or divorce.
Will this mess up my child support?

2007-10-12 04:18:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-12 04:18:52 · 4 answers · asked by KiSs KiSs 2 in Friends

This is an awful question, but I can't get it off my mind. I dated a guy for a couple years and was head over heels in love, I believed with my heart and soul that he was the one. He hurt me really bad by walking out on us when it got tough, it bothered me that he wasn't willing to work on things/fix them with me.... I knew what we were throwing away and he didn't at the time. 10 months later he is writing me emails, telling me he believes we are soulmates and belong together, etc. I feel the same.

Trouble is I am with someone else. I like this person a lot, but I don't know if it's love. He treats me well and has all the qualities to make us last. I'm not nearly as attracted to him (he's on the skinny side) and I don't think I'm quite his type physically either. I am pregnant (unplan) with his child and therefore want to make it work, plus he is a good man and more mature. What's going on with me? I can't even bring myself to be intimate with him anymore. I am so mad at myself.

2007-10-12 04:17:49 · 12 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Not my colleagues...

2007-10-12 04:15:58 · 14 answers · asked by Aatami 3 in Singles & Dating

and if you do, do you reread them sometimes.i saw my bb had some postcards from his pass relationship and when i read them i felt so confuse, because it was really nice loving ones . so i wonder if he sometimes read them and old feelings come bk . ps he was married for 12yrs.

2007-10-12 04:15:42 · 7 answers · asked by ms attitude 2 in Marriage & Divorce

hi
there are two girls in my year and they are both single.
i fancy them both and m pretty sur they fancy me. the problem is i dont have a clue of what to do. please help
by the way i dont know which one i love the mmost.

2007-10-12 04:11:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Would a female tell the truth about this? Are there female that really perfer phone sex over the real thing?

2007-10-12 04:10:04 · 9 answers · asked by Tim 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you think that God has created someone special for you or would you rather just marry anyone who may end up divorcing you? Like what do you think?

2007-10-12 04:08:54 · 33 answers · asked by ~Living4HIM~ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My GF has a shady past and cheated on her ex husband. Now I found out, not from her, that this guy who is the brother of one of her best friends who she grew up with asked her out tonight for dinner and drinks and she had declined saying she was busy. Now another guy, who she cheated on her husband with, and recently came into her job, where he use to work and lives only 2 miles from her work, came in and told her he was moving to California. Now today is Friday, the same day that one guy asked her out, and she told me twice yesterday that she was going to a 3pm outing at a casual fine dining with her boss and some co workers to go over an upcoming event. Now she said they were gonna be drinking and some like finger food, and that she would have a light dinner later on with me. Is it possible that she could be seeing one of these 2 guys instead.

2007-10-12 04:07:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

And what do you think is a high number for a girl to have?

2007-10-12 04:04:42 · 25 answers · asked by M3g@N D3lil@h 1 in Singles & Dating

When they are in their late twenties/early thirties and no longer want to freak dance to rap music in some club with a bunch of college kids, where do they hang out at?

2007-10-12 04:04:30 · 10 answers · asked by AJ 1 in Singles & Dating

Maybe my partner and I should have talked about his more before we actually got married, maybe not. He knows that I've been cheated on and grew up in a house where my dad cheated on my mom constantly. So he knows I have trust issue. He does to. But lately and maybe its just where I'm pregnant b/c before the pregnancy horomones hit, I never had a problem with him chatting with girls on line (nothing to bad or for to long) hanging out with co-workers. But since I got pregnant I"ve been really jealous and yes he has crossed the line a couple of times (see other question).
I don't want to push him away from me, our children need thier father. We have a nine year old together as well, but have only been married a few months.

Does anyone have any advice about how I can learn to trust more?

2007-10-12 04:03:48 · 19 answers · asked by his wife 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My date is the brother to the groom, and while he is not in the wedding he is wearing a black tux.

I cant remember but isn't it an old tradition rule there are 3 colors a women never wears to a wedding :
White - it's the brides color
Black - is worn at funerals
Red - is unholy sign of promiscuity

I'm going dress shopping as the wedding is in 2 weeks and I want to look fabulous, just not while sending an inappropriate message!

Thank You in advance for all your help!

2007-10-12 03:59:26 · 22 answers · asked by *Mrs. Butler* 2 in Weddings

What would you do? Leave it alone or press charges? The point is not the amount of the check but that she signed my name and who knows what else she has put my name on. -Indiana-

2007-10-12 03:56:25 · 33 answers · asked by B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is no where near as interested as me. He was when we were dating. NO I haven't gotten fat. He can't get turned on if you know what I mean and I am going crazy. He is absolutly the sexiest man I have ever known and I can't have him enough. I figure can't beat them join them. So How do I reduce my libido?

2007-10-12 03:55:00 · 16 answers · asked by Beth 2 in Marriage & Divorce