Im getting really desperate. An old lady from down the road who just moved in around 7 months ago started coming to my door asking for money on wednesdays, for cigarettes, and always brought it back round on mondays when she got her benifits. Now shes started coming around more than once a week asking for money, and not paying me back saying shes getting a loan at Christmas to pay me back with. She now owes me around $70-$80 and by Christmas it will be a lot more, I just cant afford it anymore I need the money for other things like gas for the car and bills and food. I dont want to be mean because she might stop speaking to me and not give me the money she already owes, I just want to stop lending her it because its getting too much. Any friendly advice?
2007-10-12 04:26:29 · 8 answers · asked by :] 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes tell her lok honey iam not a walk in bank- go too work at burger king fliping burgers. earn it. if she can walk to u and some of them know how too use the systemm- shes using you big time smart cuning street smarts, and we bet she drags her suitcase all over the country. you wait watch she will move on agaion oldest trick in the book. refuse her requests. you will probably never see your$$$ again sorrie--
2007-10-12 04:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving her money! Tell her simply that you can't afford it and your sorry. She is taking advantage of you. Believe it or not, old people do this also. They use their elderly looks to get over on people to make them feel sorry for them!
I say cut your loses now and forget the 70 or 80 bucks before it becomes 7 to 8 hundred bucks your out! Your choices
1.Keep allowing yourself to be maniulated by a crafty old woman and lose alot of money because of it
2.Don't answer the door when she comes over
3.Tell her you can no longer afford it sorry!
2007-10-12 11:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is she senile? Do you need to call the local welfare office? Its not unheard of for someone to not have anyone checking on them... they can become totally overwhelmed by the simplist of things... Do you know how many news articals I have read about elderly people dying in their homes and it being weeks or months before anyone notices? Thats how these things happen... so just look out for her...
Call the local welfare agency, seniors organization and see what to do... maybe they will provide you with a box of food for her? Maybe they have a home for her that is more affordable... I know it isn't any of your concern, but maybe we need a few more people on the planet to start making that extra step for someone who needs it...
God Bless you for helping her with what you have... next time she comes to your door, hopefully you'll have a number for her to get help. Although, when it comes to food, maybe you can go to a food pantry for the elderly and get food to dish out to her...
anyways, hoped this helped.
2007-10-12 11:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just politely tell her that you don't have it that week. Continue it on until she gets the hint. You don't have to be rude about it, but I wouldn't continue loaning her money. It sounds like she's taking advantage of you and that's your reponsibility to stop.
Examples of excuses:
"I'm sorry, it's been a rough week and I really don't have any extra money this.
"I'm sorry, I forgot to stop at the ATM and spent my last $10 at the store when I got milk and bread."
"Sorry, my kids needed money for lunch. I gave them my last $10."
"Sorry, I spent the last of my money at the store today buying groceries (Christmas presents, gas, etc)."
2007-10-12 11:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. Sounds like she is desperate if she is asking neighbors for money. But if you can't afford it, you can't afford it. It is what it is. Loaning money for cigs is never a good idea anyways. Feeding someone elses addiction.
Just tell her that you are sorry but you can't help her. It's really all you can do.
2007-10-12 11:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her in for coffee/tea, explain very politely (but firmly) that this has became a way of life for her! She'll need to budget better, because of the financial strain its putting you in!! And stick to it!! You're enabling her to be a MOOCH, good luck
2007-10-12 11:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her an application for public assistance, not your check book.
2007-10-12 11:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by SadToday22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain everything to her in a nice way or heart to heart talk.,am sure she will understand.And if not,don't mind at least you been honest.
2007-10-12 11:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by kugay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋