Family & Relationships - 26 September 2007

he got mad at me for the way my friend treated me, even though she didnt do anything. he's mad im friends with her cuz he says she treats me like crap. we got into this big argument cuz i told him shes helped me through alot and he wouldnt believe me. finally he said im not talking to you. after me texting him for like 10 minutes, i said what do yu want me to say, and he said i hate _[my friend]_
love _[me]_
so i said okay love _me_ and he got mad. then i asked him what i ahd to do and he said give me the answers to homework, and i told him i couldnt go downstairs and get it or i'd be in trouble. he got all pissed off and wouldnt talk to me except to say goodbye. for the first time in like two weeks he didnt say goodnight...then this morning he text me and was like i need those answers and i told him i was late and couldnt...but then i had extra time and gave them to him, and then i said youre welcome and he said ya. what should i do??

2007-09-26 08:53:40 · 1 answers · asked by kaylieandkyle 2 in Singles & Dating

He is a man to take charge and navigate during trips and he is very resourceful in many ways. He smells bad even after taking a bath and he really has no sex appeal and he doesn't seem to need sex anymore. I wish that he would take charge in the bedroom but even if he did, I would get so grossed out from his breath!

2007-09-26 08:51:22 · 19 answers · asked by cheery 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What is so intimidating about us? What are you so afraid of? It's not like we will eat you alive or something.

2007-09-26 08:49:16 · 20 answers · asked by possessed Regan 4 in Singles & Dating

My husband pays child support (on time and in full). In his divorce decree he pays 1/2 of copayments, medicine, daycare, ect. but it says nothing about lunches. It does say that he has to pay for post secondary education but that is college. Does he have to pay for 1/2 of school lunches. He thinks not, but his ex says yes. I thought that child support covers food, shelter, and clothing the necessities. School lunch is food, a basic necessity so what do you think.

2007-09-26 08:48:58 · 15 answers · asked by Julie2008 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She has been married before and has three children. Everyone she dates isn't good enough for her and she constantly compares their negative qualities to her ex. She calls me constantly wanting advice or sympathy. I really don't know what else to say to her.

2007-09-26 08:47:30 · 4 answers · asked by Junebaby 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Unable to remove her d/t her weight; she had no pulse. I called 911 & she was pronounced dead.
Any words of advice? It is being ruled an accident. She was an elderly Diabetic.

2007-09-26 08:46:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-09-26 08:46:26 · 24 answers · asked by Monica 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My bridesmaids will wear navy with gold sashes and the men will wear black tux's with black shirts and gold tie/vest. My dress is light gold and I need major help with flowers! I would like something very affordable and elegant, hopefully something with a little blue in it and possibly incorporate some ivory roses. I would love all suggestions!!

2007-09-26 08:45:29 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer T 3 in Weddings

Would this man be guilty of sexual abuse?This happened several times& he would put her his belly & go up & down like riding a horse. This made her very uncomfortable. She told him that she was going to tell her mother,& he told her if she did he would leave & they would starve to death. So she didn't tell her mother untill she found out they were getting divorced, 2yrs. later.

2007-09-26 08:44:32 · 23 answers · asked by GREGORIOUSITY 5 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-09-26 08:43:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm a college freshman so i'm pretty young. I have a rather full bust and sometimes i think that that is the only reason why guys even pay attention to me, I don't have very many. I always seem to get attention from guys who are way older then me like in their twenties or above and very little from guys my age and I'm tired of that. I hate wearing too revealing tops like tank tops and low-cut shirts bc I'm afraid I'm going to expose too much of myself to the wrong kinds of people, or the people I don't want to attract. Should i be so self-concious of myself or embrace what I have and just tell all the people I don't want attracted to me to back off?

2007-09-26 08:41:31 · 14 answers · asked by hchornet07 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife is obessed with weight... mine, hers, the kids. It's driving me nuts. She is a recovering anorexic and works out 2 hours a day, doesn't eat after 4, doesn't eat sweets, counts every calorie. That wouldn't be so bad but she hounds me and the kids (twin 4 year old boys) even though no one in our family is even close to being overweight. She wont let the kids have ANY sweets or desserts and bitches to me if we go out to eat and I order something fattening or if I skip a day at the gym. We got in a huge fight yesterday because my son was hungry at like 8 so I gave him some crackers and cheese and she freaked out and said they can't eat between meals. . Outside of this, our marriage is very happy. Is this an unhealthy obsession and should I encourage her to get help, or is she just a health nut? I don't think our boys should even be thinking about "getting fat" at their age and it bugs the hell out of me. Plus, I don't want them to see overweight people as weak or bad. Suggestions?

2007-09-26 08:41:09 · 22 answers · asked by Yogi 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't know if you believe in ghosts,but this video is pretty convincing!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQQS-0ZOMcg

2007-09-26 08:39:12 · 11 answers · asked by Lady Luck 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

First off she was mad because I could not be in her wedding because I was pregnant...Now she is mad because I delivered on the same day as her wedding. Its not like I was enduced or anything...I didn't plan on giving birth...I wasn't due for a couple more weeks.
My hubby was a groomsmen and had to bow out because I went into labor...Not really a problem because he had been bumped to the end of the groomsmen line since I had dropped out. She is claiming I wanted all the attention to myself because I don't want her to be happy. (So far from the truth, I'm glad she finally settled down and found the person she wanted to be with, after 3 failed engagements I'm extreemly happy for her.) Anyway, some of the guest didn't stay for the entire reception, because they came to the hospital to see me and the baby..my parents didn't stay to attend the wedding, and some guests did not attend the brunch that was hosted the next day for the couple.How is this my fault? What did she expect me 2 do?

2007-09-26 08:38:40 · 42 answers · asked by !s@b3l@ 1 in Weddings

Why do you think my boyfriend keeps looking at lingerie on the internet? He gets emails from some companies and says he's just looking because he likes it, and in case he sees something he might buy for me. He also collects catalouges... Is this normal? I welcome guys opinions too.

2007-09-26 08:36:36 · 19 answers · asked by violet 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

Hear me out before judging: Isn't it (most of the time not all of the time) pathetic that people take their ex's back? I mean, there are only 2 reasons you would take someone back. 1)You lacked the intelligence to realize who you really loved. You let yourself get so caught up in everything that you foolishly threw someone away. 2) You are so lazy in a relationship that rather than work through something together, you dump them and take them back after you get over yourself.

I mean I realize sometimes people just need to grow and I am not talking about them. I mean, if you are careless enough to dump someone, remember you don't know if you could get them back down the road, shouldn't that person you dumped not want to be taken back?

If someone you loved didn't want to work things out or lacked the vision to realize that they want you, do you really want to marry them and trust them for the rest of your life? They dumped you once, maybe next time it will be worse...

2007-09-26 08:36:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 18/m and my brother is just 21, we've been best friends forever, we share everything, we tell each other everythingand we even share a room.Now there in lies the problem.we ARE quite open with other, we can walk around the room naked in front of each other, sleep in the buff, and even masturbate while the other is in the room, no poblem. we share tips and everything, but, the other day i felt like the line was crossed.see my girlfriend was round, we were on my bed, in the buf, just getting into the business, and my brother walked in shut the door,and started using the pc.she and i were a little shocked, i pulled out and frantically covered her up in bed sheets, got up and asked what he was doing.he said he was just using the computer and i could keep playing with my friend.I just said no, pulled him out into the hall on the rolly chair, trying to cover myself with one hand, told him i wanted 10 mins in private, i went back, helped my girl dress, and she left. IS NOTHING SACRED??

2007-09-26 08:28:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have been talking to this guy that I met online. He seems really nice, and I like him a lot. We've exchanged pictures, and phone numbers and talk quite often. How soon is too soon to meet in person?? We exchanged phone numbers only a week after email each other back and forth, and he is already talking about coming into my town (he lives about 35 mins away) and meeting up with me somewhere. What do you think? Is it too soon? Should we talk on the phone more?

2007-09-26 08:26:44 · 10 answers · asked by Ray Ray 4 in Singles & Dating

How do you deal with these things when it comes to loving others???

2007-09-26 08:23:58 · 24 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife of 14 years,(recovering alcoholic) has replaced her booze with pills,through perscriptions with several different docs or stuff available on the street. Her favorites seem to be vicoden, clonapin, and percocet. She does suffer from long term depression and is on meds for that as well. Through the years I've done the cat and mouse thing, removed her access from bank accounts (which she previously raided numerous times) tried to be "supportive" and attend meetings, counceling sessions with her , ect. Recently she spent time in a rehab/physc. center for an overdose/suicide attempt after a fight over her taking $2000 in cash, and deniying it. We have 2 children in their early teens that are mostly sheltered from the chaos and doing well, but it will start to affect them if she doesnt get her act together. I'm contemplating a divorce but have a sizable salary and assets and am worried that if she gets kiddies and access to cash the results will be disaterous. I feel trapped

2007-09-26 08:23:19 · 15 answers · asked by basketone 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We met about 3 years ago. We started dating and soon we had a relationship. SEx was never that great, he was 24, and i was 20, which i thought it was odd, since he was in a relationship with a 27 year old when he was only 19, i thought he had experience but i soon founded out he didnt. To make the story short, we started having sex like 2 a week, and honestly for me that was very little, im a very senxual person so i understood that he was not like me. Umm 2 years after we got engage and we currently are, during those 2 years i noticed that sex was not important to him, we would do the same things, so i suggested we should do different things. That worked out for a while, then from 2 a week went to 1 a week, and now is like 1 every 14 days. I mean we are getting marrie in a few months and i think this is really breaking up things, i have talked to him and he says is not me, is him that he is happy with the things we have now, i dont wanna think is me, i mean im 5'5 and 125lbs,

2007-09-26 08:21:52 · 22 answers · asked by mel 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I just had a baby 8 wks. ago, and whenever the baby cries too much my boyfriend gets so angry that he can't stand it anymore and takes it out on the first thing that he see's, which is usually me since we live together and I'm the one in charge of her. I'm only 18, I'm a first time mother, and he just doesn't get it. He thinks I should know everything about babies but I don't, naturally. How can I keep my boyfriend from getting angry at me when the baby cries? Please help me. I don't want to end this relationship if I don't have a good reason.

2007-09-26 08:21:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I found out a couple of months ago that my husband cheated on me with and ex-girlfriend, but he is still doing it! He told me then that they didn't do anything, they just talked, but I beg to differ, from what I know, found out, and have seen, I know different, he says he is a man and has no reason to lie about anything, but obviously he does, cause he is!! How do I handle a situation like this, I have debated leaving, but I love him so much, I cannot imagine my life without him.

2007-09-26 08:20:00 · 35 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Marriage & Divorce

An old friend of mine died in 2002 and I need to know how. I already know the exact date through geneology websites but I do not know how, & the SSI death index does not say HOW, only where and when. Asking family or friends is not possible. Any ideas?

2007-09-26 08:19:13 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Well, here's the situation.
My boyfriend is an .. errr.... okay guy, but I can't stand him constantly wanting other women (being a guy...)

Can't live with that, no no.

We live together, I don't drive, my family is 500 miles away, and I have no money. In fact, he's paying our rent.

What should I do?

"funny" asnwers will be reported.
I'm asking for advice, not trying to hurt him.
Thank you.

2007-09-26 08:17:39 · 22 answers · asked by 光 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm 5'11" and im 18. I hold my head hi when I walk and strut my stuff. I walk with confidence and i think it's to mask the fact that it makes me uncomfortabble when people stare @ me. I used to be selfconcious abotu my height, but i no longer am. I like really tall guys because I want someone to be able to hold me, but it seems that the tall guys i like, arent interested in tall girls. Also, ive noticed that black guys who are tall or short are interested in me, while tall white guys are not interested in me or dont show it. ALSO im not "ghetto" or anything so that cant be a reason for it. Could it be that Im intimidating b/c im black, or could it be that they dont like tall girls, or could it be that they prefer super skinny girls? (i have boobs and a butt and am not chubby but im definitely not skinny) How do i get a tall white guy whos interested? or should i make the first move? PLEASE HELP ME..I see some cute tall white guys at my college-how do i talk to them?

2007-09-26 08:17:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-26 08:16:23 · 32 answers · asked by pinkparadiseforever 2 in Singles & Dating

i made my joice it is i not going with anyone if they ask because the only thing is just have fun

2007-09-26 08:16:13 · 3 answers · asked by Daniela T 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Well, after months of discussing assisted living with my grandparents and visiting the facility we finally got them moved in. They loved it the first day. We came to visit everyother day. Now it has not even been a week and they told us they hate it. She cant move back into her house because they both have dimensia and he had a stroke. He was overdosing and skipping his medication at the house. Last night we dropped in to say hello and make sure they had some ice cream and she just yelled at me. My sweet little 80 year old grandmother told me that she hates me and she is moving back into her house and I can stay the hell away from her. Of course this made me cry which she just said "Why is she crying?" She thinks he agrees with her that they should move home, but she cant understand what he is saying either. They will have to be split up if they leave and he will go into a nursing home. She has lodging a complaint and wants a lawyer. What do we do?

2007-09-26 08:16:07 · 9 answers · asked by Bridget 3 in Family

My wife and I separated 6 months ago and our 3 children live with me in the family home. While she has contact with the children she does not provide any support for them. Our 2 eldest are at university and working and do not need financial support from their mother but I am not sure whether I should ask for some financial help for our daughter

2007-09-26 08:15:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce