Well, here's the situation.
My boyfriend is an .. errr.... okay guy, but I can't stand him constantly wanting other women (being a guy...)
Can't live with that, no no.
We live together, I don't drive, my family is 500 miles away, and I have no money. In fact, he's paying our rent.
What should I do?
"funny" asnwers will be reported.
I'm asking for advice, not trying to hurt him.
Thank you.
2007-09-26 08:17:39 · 22 answers · asked by 光 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I mean, I need to take my stuff with me, but not sure how to.
2007-09-26 08:19:02 · update #1
If you want to leave, then you are going to have to acquire either money, or people to help you. Maybe if you alert your family or friends from home about how bad the problem is they will be able to help you- either financially or physically. If you are desperate to get out, you may have to leave your things behind.
2007-09-26 08:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kristi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, sorry but wanting other women is not "being a guy". I have been married to the same great woman for 13 years and do not want anyone else. Do not lump us all into his catagory. Second, unless you are physically tied down to something, you CAN leave. You can get a job and support yourself the best you can or move back with family, asking for them to pay or loan you the $ to get back home and start again. No easy way to make a break but if you really want to you can.
2007-09-26 08:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by pbaker4us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
To be honest you have already mde up your mind. You cant live with that and him any longer. First turn to the only ones that never turn there back on you your family. Secretly ask for help moving. It would be easy but you can either pack up and have the stuff moved before he gets home and then have one of the family wait for you and tell him when he gets home. or 2 just tell him and watch the fire works as thing can get nasty. As for hurting him there is no really easy way not to hurt eachother.
Report what the truth ..
2007-09-26 08:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make some tough decisions. First of all, will he get violent? If yes, you need to seek the help of a women's shelter. If no, then proceed...
Second, is everything you want to take with you absolutely necessary? Is it worth it to leave a couch behind to get out of the situation? Is there anything you can sell or ship home without him noticing?
Third, will your family take you in when you get home? How are you going to get there? Would anyone back home come to get you?
There's a lot to think about and in the end you're going to have to be honest with him about the fact that you're leaving. But for now, keep it quiet and start making preparations.
Find a reason to use a condom with him (like say you're getting infections after sex and you heard a condom would help prevent that). No reason for him to leave you with bad memories AND an STD!!!
Hang in there and good luck! :)
2007-09-26 08:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a friend or your family,,,Most will help you out best they can...500 miles seems far but if they LOVE and know you need them ASK... But I would try to get away if you aren't happy,,, WHERE THERE IS A WELL THERE IS A WAY<< GO FOR IT,, the sooner the better..You are just prolonging the situation and will NEVER be happy ,,,,,,look into a shelter or a church if you have too., if they can't help you they may know someone that can.. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-09-26 08:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Eileen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provided that he's not abusing you (mentally OR physically), your best bet is to first save up some money, then move out. You really don't want to move out until you can fund your own life. If abuse is part of the picture, you should call a women's shelter and they can help you formulate an escape plan.
If you have someone in your area that you could stay with while you save up, you could move out earlier - but if someone offers you a place to stay, please set up an agreement as to how long you will stay, what you will contribute to the household (rent, chores, etc.), and set a deadline for moving.
Please understand that, if you don't have a job already, you NEED to get one, and it may not be glamorous - but you'll be earning your own money, and supporting each other.
Find someone who will teach you to drive, and get a license.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 08:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by ill_be_phd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find the way to get the money. Pack your things. When you get the money hire a moving truck to deliver the things where you will be going. Take a bus, train, or plane and meet up with your things when you arrive. I am not being funny.
Good luck to you. Uh, and tell your boyfriend you are doing so, maybe he will change his tune if not then he should be willing to help you move if he is willing to pay the rent
2007-09-26 08:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. are you still talking to family like are you all in good terms? cause then someone could help you move out and maybe let you stay with them until you get a job and where you can take care of yourself. if not then its harder do you have any friends that can help you out like that. But not to be mean but if you thought you were grown enough leave and move in with him on your own you should be able to tell him that you want out but you have to have a back up and family and friends could help you. if not then you might have to find a job save some money and put up with his crap until you can leave but that comes at a price cause you wont be happy. good luck =)
2007-09-26 08:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by mely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) no guy should let his gf feel like he wants to be with other women
2) no you should not stay with him under the circumstances
3) you need to get a job & save your'e money until you have enough to go back home or get a place of your'e own......then you should leave him
4) you should never follow a guy anywhere that isnt close to family & friends because then, they can make you rely on them & you should never rely on anyone, let alone a man
you should watch MADEA movies by Tyler Perry because his movies have drama that real ppl go through, like you
5) one of his movies was about a woman living with a rich man & not having a job or living close to family & friends. she had a prenup. one day she came home & he had her stuff being packed away & she thought it was to get new things, but the new things were for another woman. she got thrown out of her home & left with nothing but the clothes on her back & a guy payed to take her & her things anywhere. she was mean to him & later got to like him. he treated her with alot of respect. one day, her ex-husband got into an accident & his lil floosy took his money & left him. the ex wife helped him & he changed his ways & tried to get her back, but she was in love with the other guy & they got married.
2007-09-26 08:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by PinkLove6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,but it's not him just being a guy... that is being an ****. You don't have to take that and if it makes you uncomfortable, LEAVE... that 500 miles is nothing. If he accidentally gets you pregnant while you want to leave is another.
Make some phone calls, there are always ways to get out... just excuses to stay.
2007-09-26 08:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋