First off she was mad because I could not be in her wedding because I was pregnant...Now she is mad because I delivered on the same day as her wedding. Its not like I was enduced or anything...I didn't plan on giving birth...I wasn't due for a couple more weeks.
My hubby was a groomsmen and had to bow out because I went into labor...Not really a problem because he had been bumped to the end of the groomsmen line since I had dropped out. She is claiming I wanted all the attention to myself because I don't want her to be happy. (So far from the truth, I'm glad she finally settled down and found the person she wanted to be with, after 3 failed engagements I'm extreemly happy for her.) Anyway, some of the guest didn't stay for the entire reception, because they came to the hospital to see me and the baby..my parents didn't stay to attend the wedding, and some guests did not attend the brunch that was hosted the next day for the couple.How is this my fault? What did she expect me 2 do?
2007-09-26 08:38:40 · 42 answers · asked by !s@b3l@ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Aside from my hubby and my parents I wasn't expecting others to come see me in the hospital...Why isn't she mad at the people that left early instead of me?
2007-09-26 08:40:03 · update #1
We've been friends for over 7 years so we share a lot of the same friends
2007-09-26 08:41:15 · update #2
There is not much that you can do. Your "friend" is being selfish, and petty...come on its not like they could have sewed your legs closed or something. Having a baby just happens and when its time, its time. Since she "bumped" your husband to the end of the groomsmen line, I'm assuming you bowed out sometime before the actual wedding date. Therefore, she knew there was a possibility of going into labor. As far as your parents and husband leaving, they aren't her parents so why does that really matter, and unless your husband is her brother or something, I would have expected that he would be leaving. If she wants to be angry at anyone it should have been at the guests that left her party to attend yours, so to speak.
I say cut the ties now...You don't want the years to come to be filled with resentment every time you send out an invitation to your child's bday party.
2007-09-26 09:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she is just using this as an excuse. Now, having said that, I know that for many pg women, by the 9 months time you are ready to get it over with. Me. only my opinion, if it were my best friend, I would find a dress or caftan of something decent even if flip flops were the only thing I could get on my feet and sitting in a pew for no longer than the ceremony takes, I would make the sacrifice. If by some off chance her water breaks, then she can leave, it happens all the time, pay for cleaning of the seat and just go on with the ceremony and maybe she will name the baby after you. So answer, she no matter how uncomfortable is being selfish, babyish, yes all pregnant women want all the pampering, etc. but in the case of my bf, I would be there, no matter how bloated from water retention, unless I did have serious back problems or if for some reason the doctor has ordered bed rest for the duration of the pregnancy.
2016-05-19 01:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, here is my two cents. When I got married , I had a family member who was due already. Anyways, I was dreading her having the baby the same day because that would have meant my maid of honor and one of the groomsmen leaving for sure. But I did not sweat it, .Thankfully it did not happen, but if it would have happened I would not have been mad, because most of the people that I invited cared about me and the groom a lot, and they knew that they could see the baby the next day. Probably all the people that left liked you better anyways, and they were propably bored or something at the wedding. It's not your fault for having a baby that day, it's her fault for planning a sucky wedding.
2007-09-26 08:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't know what to say, except I'm so sorry.
I'm getting married in just a few days and we just learned a friend of ours and her husband can't come to our wedding because she is about to give birth. I think that is the most joyous reason not to be able to go to a wedding.
As for your friend, I suppose it's easy to lose perspective when you're a bride and planning everything. Perhaps it's just temporary insanity - lol - for lack of a better term. You know you didn't do anything wrong. And I suspect she knows it too. Sometimes in moments of high stress (like a wedding) I suppose someone can misdirect their anger.
This is in no way meant to excuse her for her behavior - I'm just trying to make sense of something that sounds so completely irrational.
Congratulations on your new baby! Try not to take your friends words to heart, you know you had no control over how events turned out and have done nothing in the least wrong.
2007-09-26 09:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by clawofiron 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's amazing to see how a person can get when they're getting married. I bet she hasn't even thought about how stupid she sounds. This was something completely out of your hands and she has no right to express any type of upset feelings for this. She should have had a "back up" bridesmaid just in case you did go into labor. If you ask me, it's her fault for not better planning the known possibility that you could have gone into labor anytime around her wedding.
I can't understand why you are allowing yourself to get so upset about this. You shouldn't be allowing anything she says to affect you because you shouldn't be friends with her anymore. She sounds selfish and that isn't something you need around your or your new family.
2007-09-26 08:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were very selfish to have a baby on your friend's wedding day. Jeez, I hope you know I am kidding. Congratulations.
This is what happens when girls are told from the age of four that their wedding is all about them. Wedding or any other party, the most important people in attendance are the guests.
2007-09-26 09:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Adoptive Father 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is being selfish and a bridzilla. It is all about her. What did she expect you to do?? Cross your legs???
She is being so rediculous. Just wait her out, eventually she will calm down and come around. If she doesnt then she was never a true friend anyways....you have no control over what other people do.
Good luck with the baby.
2007-09-26 09:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case of Bridezilla! Please, like you ASKED to have the baby early, like you ASKED people to leave her wedding to come see you. Congratulations on the baby--I hope he/she is healthy! How long ago was this? If it wasn't too long ago maybe she just needs time to blow off some steam... Has she seen the baby--I know I can't stay mad at my friend when I see those cute little kids of hers--and they're 6 and 2 now, man I'm a sucker....
2007-09-26 13:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by carebearny1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that Weddings and Babies do very strange things to people...it is like a whole new world with different rules on the correct way to behave. Anything goes and unfortunately your friend has behaved like a child in this circumstance...enjoy your baby with your husband and family. Her chance will come to experience the joy that you have and she will see then how silly she looked!
2007-09-26 13:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to laugh at this. Oops, sorry, I had a baby on your wedding day! Seriously. Doesn't she realize that nature has its own course? If it was my friend, I do have to admit, it would suck and I would probably be a bit upset having people leave my wedding, but I would have to understand. It's a crummy situation for you to be in because she feels like you stole her thunder. It's not your fault at all, and she's going to have to get over it. If she doesn't, as much as I hate to say it, she wasn't much of a friend in the first place.
Congratulations!
2007-09-26 08:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Smith 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋