Family & Relationships - 16 September 2007

i went on a date today with a guy i liked and we were talking and all. It was all nice and i felt good but then towards the end i started thinking about the goodbye. I got nervous and i really wanted to have a nice goodbye. So we were standing looking at each other and i definitely felt something between us. but then we did this thing where we sidestepped and instead it was A DISASTER! we didn't even hug and i felt soo embarrassed and a little disappointed. I wanted to hug him but something held me back and i got cold feet! and we just parted ways.

So what do i say to him when i talk to him later? I get so stupid when it comes to things like romance.
I think i have issues. I get worked up thinking about the kiss and i want to do it but the when the chance comes i don't do it and im actually relieved and i get thoughts of 'Good...' and its like im actually repulsed by lips! What should i do about that issue too?

2007-09-16 15:33:49 · 54 answers · asked by DiDi N 1 in Singles & Dating

I am divorced and i occasionally talk to mine and my ex's mutual friends, but i hate it. i talk to them and then they report to my ex. part of me wants to talk to them so i can hold on to the past but then another part of me says they chose there side and since they turned there back on me when i needed them most i should do the same. I am not a mean person but i think the most healthy thing to do is cut all ties, but i don't know how. They sometimes call, text and there on my myspace friends list. I just want to disappear without them noticing. any suggestions?

2007-09-16 15:33:45 · 34 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i've had a rough life. i ran away from home when i was 23...my parents just didn' t understand me. too many rules and restrictions. the final straw came when they wanted me to pay $25. per week for rent!! wtf???how am i supposed to pay that with no job? i want to go to school so i can have a great career when i'm older. what should i do? how can i get my parents to pay for my schooling? we haven't spoke since i ran away six months ago. i don't think they are even trying to find me. what should i do?

2007-09-16 15:33:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

well i was kicked out of my birth moms house and was adopted...i lost contact with her when i was 2...i am 17 right now and still havnt had a call or an email from her...i got into contact with someone on her side of the family...they told me she lives in korea right now...they say that i also have other family in korea..they want me to go with them to korea to see my other family....but if i go i might see my birth mom too...they told me that when i am ready to go that we would go...but i am scared that she is goin to hate me and push me away...another thing i found out is that i have another brother that i have never met b4...she gave up custody of him and left him behind to....so i am scared what should i do?

2007-09-16 15:31:56 · 3 answers · asked by HELPFUL 1 in Family

I was a companion to an old woman Feb thru Jul & I got to know her son, whom she lives with. He is terminally ill, 1 - 3 years to live. He's 40ish , broke, never married, no kids...often depressed/angry he is not old but not well enough to live life. We sometimes spent time together talking. I enjoyed it but always acted professional and didn't say much about me. I moved 1000+ miles away in Aug. I wanted to tell him how I felt, but didn't. I felt strongly drawn to him, but cuz he had his own issues + my job was to care for his mom + I am married, it felt awkward. He told me to send a postcard after I moved to let him know I was ok, but said he probably wouldn't write back. I sent a postcard w/ my return address but he hasn't written. I can't stop thinking about him. I am thinking about writing a letter and saying how I feel, but maybe he only talked to me cuz he was bored. I don't want to be pathetic but I can't stop thinking about him. Should I write/call, or try to forget him?

2007-09-16 15:27:51 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm just so sick of the favoritism with my family & them honoring friends & hating me. If I died today or tomorrow, they'd joke about it laugh, but they're quick to run to a stranger's funeral & cry.

2007-09-16 15:21:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

There is this long marriage problem of our neighbors/friends. Trying to keep it short she cheated and he found out and he even knows details. At first he was trying to get through it as she said it was over. There have been many fights and the poor kids see and poor kids know everything. I have always said I didn't want to be in the middle but have still been told tons of stuff. I do however want to be there for the kids (mine play w/ them and have for 7 yrs). Yesterday the hubby has said it is over finally and he wants a divorce which he hasn't said yet. He believes it is not over from phone bill evidence. Anyway he came to my door tonight,after several fights you can't help but overhear and police cars 3 times this weekend; and he wanted me to drive him around the block to meet a friend and she was walking in front of my house in the dark. I didn't want my kids to hear and he was beggin me to take him as he said she attacked him in my front yard.
I know this is long but hold on ---

2007-09-16 15:21:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok os i've been goin out wiht my bf for two years now..i love him more then anything else in the world...he's never lied to me about anything before but this situation jsut came up were i'm tied down to think he's not telling the truth this time..well one of my friends called and there like omg i'm so gonna kill ur bf he jsut did the stupidest thing.he told (a girl(on of her friends)) that he was gonna break up with me and that he's done with me.so i immediatly hung up and called him...i told him everything and he said if he was he wouldn't tell her and that he would tell one of his friends..and he keeps saying he didn't say that and that i just need to believe him...but idk wut to do..who to believe or who to turn too..please help me.. :'(

2007-09-16 15:18:03 · 12 answers · asked by kkdej89 2 in Singles & Dating

Does he like you or not?

2007-09-16 15:17:00 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This won't happen this year, but odds are, it will happen next year because I graduate college and move on to law school. My parents seem to be approvng of the idea as well as I am. What can I do now and leading up to that time in order to smoothen the transition between living in my house and living somewhere else where I won't have my parents to help me all the time?

2007-09-16 15:16:31 · 4 answers · asked by ravensfan172003 3 in Family

So here it is . . . I have just gotten married, again. And my hubby has two daughters {who have no contact what-so-ever from their biological mother.} We need something for them to call me other than by my first name. However, my daughter is not ready for them to call me Mom, or Mama. I have looked into Mother in other languages, but they all sound to similar to English for my daughters comfort.

Anyone have any suggestion of nicknames?

2007-09-16 15:15:58 · 17 answers · asked by dolli_t 1 in Family

Men, can you please tell me how hard it was. How long did it take? Did the guilt keep you there longer than you would have liked?

2007-09-16 15:15:22 · 9 answers · asked by R 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-16 15:10:45 · 30 answers · asked by Patches 5 in Weddings

it takes him 10 mins to eat crackers and drink a can of pop. At home he can eat that in 2 mins? He said that he can be his self with me and wants them to think he has manners. I want the manners and him being polite to.

2007-09-16 15:03:15 · 41 answers · asked by judith s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

every six months i move from tahiti with my aunt, 2 california with my dad. i've been doin this since i was seven, cuz my mom died, and now i'm 14. now i hav 2 choose rather 2 liv with my aunt in tahiti, or my dad in cali, so i can stop movin 4 good.
how can i possibly choose!
i luv both people,
and both countries!!!

2007-09-16 14:59:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We are both hard working responsible mature adults in a loving, caring, long term relationship. by the time we're 22 we'll have been together for 3 years and best friends for 5 years. we are very dedicated to each other, and dont belive in giving up on our relationship if it gets a little rocky (which happens to the best of us and usually people give up when it happens more than once)

after being married hes going to finish graduate school and im gonna finish school as well and then im going to work for 3 years until im 27 or 28 before having kids

does anyone feel this is a good plan? or a reallllly bad idea?

2007-09-16 14:58:47 · 27 answers · asked by Blondie131 4 in Marriage & Divorce

please share to me your thoughts.... thank you....

2007-09-16 14:58:32 · 8 answers · asked by not_a_geek 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm just wondering.. if you have sex with a guy on the first date, would he still love you will he still love you in the morning?

2007-09-16 14:55:02 · 27 answers · asked by ♥Chamillitary Amberleé♥ 5 in Singles & Dating

Why is it so hard, to talk to someone in person after you have talked to them online for so long or in a text?
Why is it so hard, to talk to someone in person after you have talked to them online for so long or in a text?
i need advice on avoiding, the ackwardness of not being able to talk to them in person. also, at my lunch table i sit with mostly all guys and my two firends angel and skye. we find it really hard to find something to talk about, because we not all from the the same school or have the same classes. can someone help me resolve this issue too. THANK YOU SOO MUCH

2007-09-16 14:53:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just a quick back ground on me..but I grew up in abusive family where earliest memory was my mom punching my bro in the face. Then whining to my dad about how bad he was when Dad came home from night shift, I still wake up with those nightmares. It wasn't so bad for me but emotionally I suffered hugely and was sabatoged by my mom throughout my life and told I was never good enough.

When I had my children, she didn't like my daughter, I lost a child and yet again no support when you'd hope for it. I always swore she wanted me to be an Andrea Yates. Well, when my third child was born, she decided to dote on the first child and ignored my son. I kept up with it all b/c I believed Grandparents should have rights and maybe they would both be better Grandparents than Parents.

I am not going to go further into details as It's really personal but my wonder is why are there grandparent rights when , if you as a parent don't see a grandparent fit why should they have any rights!?

2007-09-16 14:48:13 · 5 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6 in Family

Okay, well I liked this guy forever.... But he asked out my best friend and she said yes! I'm really hurt and down. I just can't believe it. What do I do?
And do you think my friend was being a bad friend? She didn't even ask me if I was okay with them going out. She knew all along I liked him. I'm extremely sad. Advice needed please!!

2007-09-16 14:44:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm Lonely i have prayed to GOD and prayed to god to send me my Soul Mate, I belive God has givin up on me I'am Good Hearted, God Fearing Woman, and My ex did me so wrong@ the end of our relationship and got married on me, I got passed that part of it i mean i wasnt hurt about that @ all @ all may sound crazy but hey i wasnt for that person may the best man win , ok but i'm still lonely and single its been a year. I'm 30 with no kids educated have my own small real estate firm. And very beautiful not tryin toot my own horn. I have my own, but still lonely and its bothers me that the Lord blessed my Ex too have someone rather she is his soulmate or not and Left me not only Hangin but lonely as hell. Can someone help me with this please.

2007-09-16 14:44:31 · 20 answers · asked by Red Soda B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

do you prefer blondes redheads or brunettes or crazy colours like pink, blue etc?

2007-09-16 14:43:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There is this girl who when i was in high schoo in Californial i liked i was in the 12th grade and she was a junior.I wasn't confident enough to tell her by then that i liked her.After high school i moved to a different state where i am now and she is still in California.I recently found her profile on hi5 a site for friends made a friend request and she accepted, she even knew that i liked her i now have her email address and cell phone number two weeks ago she asked me when i was going to come back to California and i said next year, she sounded excited and said she couldn't wait to see me, I felt like maybe she likes me too hence the question.On her profile page i left some comments on it but she wouldn't even give me one comment, to her other friends she leaves comments ,then the last time we chatted online when we finished i asked her when next we will chat and she didn't even reply, so i'm really confused, please help me out and tell me what to do

2007-09-16 14:41:33 · 8 answers · asked by niceguy 2 in Singles & Dating

Ladies feel free to share your tips as well. lol XD

2007-09-16 14:38:13 · 2 answers · asked by nenn 3 in Singles & Dating

There is this girl who when i was in high schoo in Californial i liked i was in the 12th grade and she was a junior.I wasn't confident enough to tell her by then that i liked her.After high school i moved to a different state where i am now and she is still in California.I recently found her profile on hi5 a site for friends made a friend request and she accepted, she even knew that i liked her i now have her email address and cell phone number two weeks ago she asked me when i was going to come back to California and i said next year, she sounded excited and said she couldn't wait to see me, I felt like maybe she likes me too hence the question.On her profile page i left some comments on it but she wouldn't even give me one comment, to her other friends she leaves comments ,then the last time we chatted online when we finished i asked her when next we will chat and she didn't even reply, so i'm really confused, please help me out and tell me what to do
Thanks

2007-09-16 14:38:02 · 1 answers · asked by niceguy 2 in Singles & Dating

My best friend is going of to university soon, and I love her so much, but I dont want it to stop our friendship dead in its tracks.

Anyone have any advice about how to stay best friends? Otherwise i'll be heart broken :(

(p.s. She's going to Bournemouth, and i'm living in Guildford.)

Thanks

2007-09-16 14:37:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

yay the sweetest nicest cutest guy likes me! but he goes to a diferent school and soemtimes he jokes about liking guys...i think he is joking but he likes hannah montana and highschool musical..he plays base ball and his team won the world series (haha yay) but should i be worried?

2007-09-16 14:36:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I lost a football bet to my sisters best friend that requires me to wear a pink bra and panties for a whole day and nothing else. She would of had to do the same thing but it's much worse for me as a guy. I was drunk at the time so how do I get out of this?

2007-09-16 14:34:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anthony W 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

When you look into the mirror lately, do you see yourself turning into your mom/dad? How do you feel about that? How do you feel about getting older?

2007-09-16 14:31:27 · 5 answers · asked by WHOISTHEPUPPETMASTER? 5 in Family