Please help me decide what to do?

Question

I was a companion to an old woman Feb thru Jul & I got to know her son, whom she lives with. He is terminally ill, 1 - 3 years to live. He's 40ish , broke, never married, no kids...often depressed/angry he is not old but not well enough to live life. We sometimes spent time together talking. I enjoyed it but always acted professional and didn't say much about me. I moved 1000+ miles away in Aug. I wanted to tell him how I felt, but didn't. I felt strongly drawn to him, but cuz he had his own issues + my job was to care for his mom + I am married, it felt awkward. He told me to send a postcard after I moved to let him know I was ok, but said he probably wouldn't write back. I sent a postcard w/ my return address but he hasn't written. I can't stop thinking about him. I am thinking about writing a letter and saying how I feel, but maybe he only talked to me cuz he was bored. I don't want to be pathetic but I can't stop thinking about him. Should I write/call, or try to forget him?

Answer 1

By "strongly drawn" are you meaning you felt an attraction to him, or you felt like you had something possitive to offer him, as a friend, on his death bed? If it is the latter, a nice thinking of you card would be fine, give him an update on yourself and let him know how your husband is doing as well. It would also not hurt to let him know you think about him and his situation and wish him the best and hope he finds the peace he is looking for. Do not expect a reply...... perhaps all you need to know is that he received your letter knowing someone cares about him.

Answer 2

If your married and have feelings for another person you owe it to your partner not to CALL,WRITE OR VISIT this person.In my book the thoughts your having is close enough to to say you are actually cheating.It is a form of cheating, if you ask me.The thought will lead to the action.

Answer 3

why ruin a dying mans life
you're married, remember your vows