Family & Relationships - 10 September 2007

my ex harrasses us.my sons b-day was friday(the son i have w/my new husband.)
i was at toys r us w/him on friday buying last minute stuff for his little party that nite. my cell rings i answer it thinking it was my daughter (from my ex) but it was the tricky controlling abusive ex. he said oh can shelby go with us to disneyland (shelby is my daughter no his but he wanted her to go w/them (my ex and our daughter)and invite my daughter that is not his...i said no because today is my sons b-day and the girls and him r supposed to have cake n ice cream n dinner here for tonight. he said tough sh!t u can bump ur party plans for later. i said our lives do not revolve areound ur life dale! he said look shut up let me tell u what plans we have n u need to do it this way or else i will get revenge on u. i hung up. then he called n said i am gonna call the cops on u and make something up just so to ruin ur party w/ur son. i hung up. then cherie called n said mom pick us up now. i said ok ...

2007-09-10 08:06:28 · 7 answers · asked by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i shared my house with my man and all 6 of his closest friends on a daily basis and when i complained over and over it never made too much of a difference.
well my bestfriend introduced me to 3 of her coworkers that she would go and have drinks with and i joined them a couple of times. soon 1 guy started to tell me how it was a shame that i spend everyother day with them instead of home. from that day, he started to tell me all the things he would love to do with me and to me. i never took him up on it but he kept going.
when he brought a new car, he came to my house alone and tried to take me out and my bf got mad and broke up with me because he can tell i like him and he likes me. being involved with him is what made me not persue any other offers but he broke up with me and moved in with his best friend. i later being single, took him up on his offer to show me a night a will never forget. he did, but now after getting back with my bf,he calls that cheating.WTF? i wouldnt have!

2007-09-10 08:05:33 · 4 answers · asked by badbitty101 2 in Marriage & Divorce

we live in USA.last days we were out country for visiting my parents in pakistan.in my absence my husband did sex on internet n one day he called prostitute for overnight.he didnt tell me anything.he came to pakistan n we came back. we have 2 daughters.our marriage has completed approx.7yrs.when came back to our home i saw credit cards statements in which my husband used these credit cards "tickets clubs"i go through net n find what is this club n i knew that its club for mens. i asked my hubby what is all this??first he refused but after cold war between me n hubby he admitted all his behaviour....i dont want to see him but for the sake of my kids we live together.he asked forgiveness several times but my heart is not melting.so plzzzzzzzzz tell me what should i do.i love my husband

2007-09-10 07:57:21 · 27 answers · asked by maani 1 in Marriage & Divorce

mostly men says that.. and i'm like 26 .. is it a turn off for men thats why i have non interested in me

2007-09-10 07:55:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

How short is too short? What is a good average height you girls prefer for a guy?

2007-09-10 07:55:40 · 10 answers · asked by koodle0101 4 in Singles & Dating

my sweety went out with his friends, yes drinking, and came home telling me that they went to check out a gay bar. Now I know without a doubt that he loves me very much, as I do him, but was this one of those ' I'm drunk and it seems like a good idea to me' type of things, or could it be something else. I know what I think, I was just wondering what anyone else thought.

2007-09-10 07:55:07 · 30 answers · asked by dark bubble 7 in Singles & Dating

For those of you who might say never:
I believe if you had 2 guys on their own, the guy who is willing to get into a fight about anything has total power over another guy who is willing to avoid a fight for anything, regardless of size strength etc... So i wouldnt say never

I believe a real man should never start a fight, and only get into one if he thinks he can take the other person. Or if he is protecting someone else.

2007-09-10 07:54:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im thinking monday, cause mondays just suck, and if i were a girl, id like to get flowers on a sucky monday?

2007-09-10 07:52:25 · 17 answers · asked by methodistmaniak 2 in Singles & Dating

there this place called "make a bear" where you can buy different kind of stuffed animals and buy other accesories for them like clothes and stuff... I was thinking to take my gf there for our one month anniversery for us to make a bear for each other... do you think thats a good idea?


Also. I was able to get tyra bank show tickets for her which she tried to get.... should I suprise her with them on the same day? or wait a week before the show starts for her to prepare for it.

2007-09-10 07:51:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Only when I initiate it we mess around about once every 6-8 weeks. We have 2 small children and both work. She claims she feels uncomfortable about her body (no reason to) and is too tired. She also said she needs more romance to put her in the mood. I genuinely understand her concerns and try to address them. With small children it is difficult to romance her the way I would like to, but I try. When we do get intimate I feel like I am molesting her. She lays there expressionless with her arms at her sides seemingly waiting for the whole thing to be over. We have been useing the silver bullet and she seems to enjoy it, but doesn't show it. She hardly kisses me back or touches me. I love her and want to make things better but she doesn't seem interested. I go to bed most nights completely frustrated because I am tired of being given the cold shoulder. She hops into bed and is usually asleep in 15 seconds and I lay awake half the night. Talking has not helped.

2007-09-10 07:49:49 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-10 07:49:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, I have a ffriend whom I've known and loved for over 10 years. We have been especially close in the past 6 years. Around the first of the year I was really concerned about my friend b/c she was very depressed. She started to act happier in some ways in April, but she was also acting irratically and distancing herself from other friends and family. After a very out of character attack on me, my husband confided that he knew they had started using crystal-meth a few months earlier and my other friend (who is family to the first) was absolutely convinced of drugs b/c of other behaviors and gossip within the family. Now, my friend will not answer my calls and I've heard has called me a rumor starter for talking to anyone about it. I miss my friend, and don't understand why I'm the bad guy for finding out the big bad secret. I want to get our friendship back on track but don't know how to approach her. I don't want to loose a 10 yr. friendship like this.

2007-09-10 07:47:27 · 2 answers · asked by brookebjpl 3 in Friends

2007-09-10 07:47:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i met him in jamaica 4 months ago and been back twice since... some people say he just wants out of jamaica...

2007-09-10 07:46:38 · 4 answers · asked by bilankila 1 in Singles & Dating

And if you have, why did you? Getting married doesn't count!

2007-09-10 07:43:53 · 8 answers · asked by dardekkis 4 in Singles & Dating

Ok the love of my life and my best friend david , has always been there after he left we were both in agreence with him leaving cause his ex was pregenent and said he would never see his son if he was with any one but her. So I let him go he didnt leave me for her he left me for his child and I am ok with that. well his wife tried to kill her self again. He came to me and told me he loves me and he doesnt know what to do. I wold him to do what he feels in his heart and no matter what I would be there for him. And then I told him you know I love you I let you once and I will do it again, if that is what makes you happy. i will always be there for you. wether it be 40 years I will wait, I support your decision, he then told me I love you and I sorry to put you through all of this. Did I say the right thing? should I have told him to come home forget her. I didnt want to push him, but I wonder if I should have been more aggressive with the idea of leaving her instead of being there for hi

2007-09-10 07:39:59 · 38 answers · asked by cwilsonhappylife 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I just attended my own bridal shower this past weekend, which my mother, future MIL and bridal attendants threw for me. The shower was gorgeous and they all obviously worked very hard on everything. The thing is, part of what they did at the shower was hand out envelopes and had everyone write down their own addresses to make sending thank you notes easier for me. Although I appreciate the thought, I fear that this idea may have been seen as tacky by some. So should I go ahead and ignore the self-addressed envelopes (which, btw, where written in pencil b/c that's what the guests were given), or go ahead and just do my own thank you's. I don't want to offend my gracious hosts by not using them; nor do I want anyone to think "why did they have us write these things out if she didn't even use them?," but I also don't want to come across as tacky. What should I do?

2007-09-10 07:39:48 · 39 answers · asked by BostonBabe 1 in Weddings

Just now, he said the girl looked good.

This makes me feel aweful, and I am so tired of these comments.

Why does he do this? I get upset with him every time, he tells me he´s sorry, and the next night, he´s back to doing it again.

2007-09-10 07:38:18 · 61 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I am looking for disposable cameras with a beach or luau theme to put on my tables at my wedding so my guests can take pictures. Any suggestions where I can find those cheap?!

Thanks in advance!!

2007-09-10 07:37:43 · 20 answers · asked by BUNNY11 2 in Weddings

But her 2 adult kids r MOOCHERS/SWINDLERS, they keep her broke, which = us broke, can't get her stop the $$$train!!!! 12 years now!! what should I do???????

2007-09-10 07:35:26 · 4 answers · asked by happywjc 7 in Marriage & Divorce

I asked my lady friend out and she said she would love to go out with me! But first she said she doesn't want to lead me on because she is also interested in two other guys that she is interested in and has been dates with them both in the past. She said she would love to date me as long as it doesn't bug me that she dates or hangs with the other guys. We are great friends by the way. At least she was honest with me..most girls wouldn't admit that. At least we know where we both stand now..that always makes things better and more simple. She wouldn't feel awkward at all after this would she?But if she said yes, that means she is interested in me too right? Any dating ideas? Were college students by the way.
thank you!

2007-09-10 07:34:50 · 4 answers · asked by ee 1 in Singles & Dating

...he needs space and time? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months and we are having a tough time. He thinks that he has changed and may not want to be in this relationship anymore. He said that he needed time and space. I told him I would give it to him, but now I am afraid to call him because he said that he wanted time away from eachother so he could think. He asked me if I thought we should still be together, and I said yes. He said that he feels like he has changed and doesn't know what's going on. Now I feel like I am suppose to wait around for him to call me a couple weeks down the road, and hope that he decided to stay with me. He doesn't know how much power he has over this relationship right now. He is making the decision that will make or break this relationship, and I am suppose to wait around for him to make that decision? Wouldn't u think he would want to hang out with me so he doesn't forget what he likes about me while he makes the decision? any suggestions

2007-09-10 07:30:24 · 40 answers · asked by Mandy 2 in Singles & Dating

i have been best friends with this girl for over 10 years me her and her husband met at the same time we have all been friends forever she is like a sister to me and he is like a brother just recently i moved in to the same apartment complex as them so we see alot more of each other some times him and i hang out to geather alone ( ex. if she is at work and our kids want to play togeather etc.) as i said before i call him my bro and he calls me his sis but recently when ever we are alone togeather all he wants to talk about is sex and how he is unhappy with his sex life and all the things he wants to do and stuff i dont know if hes flirting with me or just bringing it up hoping that i will say something to my bff but if she finds out that hes talking to me about sex at all i think she will be pissed what do think and what should i do?????

2007-09-10 07:28:40 · 7 answers · asked by @!#$%^ 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

ejaculate in their mouth. i find this a discusting thought and won't do it. am i abnormal?

2007-09-10 07:28:16 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So we've been on 3 dates...and number 4 is this weekend.

What is the significance of a 4th date? Is she still feeling the situation out? Or is she interested in something more...something advancing toward a relationship?

Presumably, she likes me or else there wouldn't be a 4th date, right? But at the same time...what does this one signify, if anything, and how do I advance things along at this point?

2007-09-10 07:27:55 · 2 answers · asked by Digby77 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, I am married. My husband is very picky about somethings. My sister has come to live with us. which, I'm sure my husband isn't thrilled about. I've asked her to keep a low profile and not do things that annoy him. 2 of his pet peeves are leaving the doors open and eating anywhere except the kitchen. my sis is continually leaving the door open. today her little daughter was eating cereal in my pc room. I asked her to take her to the table and my sis got all upset and took her daughter to the car like I was asking her to commit murder. She sat in there with her daughter and cried over it. All I asked was that she make her daughters eat in the kitchen and make sure she shuts the door. Am i asking too much? Am I being too demanding?? Please help.

2007-09-10 07:25:04 · 43 answers · asked by its me 2 in Family

jackie gleeason said he had,"A BIIIGGG MOUTH"! how can i stop my loose lips from moving and my tounge from wagging? please dont be too critical of me,i just need some help not a jolt.

2007-09-10 07:22:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Mother has primary custody, but threw the 16 year old boy out of the house with no plan as to where he was going to go. The father ended up having to pick up the boy from a sketchy neighbor's house. They invited the boy to stay with them. Of course, we won't allow this and also want to know if there is anything that can be done to keep sketchy neighbors out of our business? The boy has been caught smoking different things and drinking at this neighbor's house.

2007-09-10 07:17:00 · 5 answers · asked by stevie_k_29 1 in Family

ok so me and my bf have been going out for almost a year and i need some tips. He is a really lovely guy and i love him very much, he just tends to be a little shy when it come to girls and me and making moves. he is just really slow and not taing my hints at all. i need some new hints and fast. i wanta try out the hint tonight we are studing, and i thought i could use them... please help

2007-09-10 07:16:13 · 32 answers · asked by Fairy G 1 in Singles & Dating

i somehow am terrified of doing it, the pain....
i am a college girl , but still virgin.

2007-09-10 07:14:38 · 29 answers · asked by pyarali2 1 in Singles & Dating