boyfriend dosent take my hints? need some advice and some new hints, FAST?

Question

ok so me and my bf have been going out for almost a year and i need some tips. He is a really lovely guy and i love him very much, he just tends to be a little shy when it come to girls and me and making moves. he is just really slow and not taing my hints at all. i need some new hints and fast. i wanta try out the hint tonight we are studing, and i thought i could use them... please help

Answer 1

i hate to put it this way but if you really want it, you make the moves. i dont know if you know but guys love that!

Answer 2

At least for me -- even if I pick up on the hints.... I still want to be 100% sure I am not misunderstanding them. This could be a huge problem for him, especially if he is really shy.

Since you have been together for 1 year I really don't see why you are still using hints anyway. At this point, you should be able to tell him directly.

But, if you must play it this way... bring a sucker and start sucking on it in a way that, well... is indicating something. And, be sure to look at him straight in the eye while you do it.

If you don't like that idea, maybe ask him to make some drinks at some point in the night. That will loosen both of you up.

If that still isn't something you like... ask him to play "truth or dare"... and tell him "but you have to pick dare" and then say "whatever the dare is, I have to do it". I think he'll be smart enough to figure that one out ;-)

Answer 3

I'm afraid I have to agree that hints may not do the trick. I think the best thing you could do is just let him know how you feel. He may feel the same way, but he may not know how to respond and he may need your help if he's really shy. I think you will be surprised at how well he responds once he's confident he knows how you feel and what it is you want. If he loves you too, he'll be better able to make you happy, and if he doesn't, then you'll find out quick

I know for me the most miserable part of any relationship is when I don't know what the other person wants and I find myself unable to make them happy. So tell him how you feel and then ask him what he thinks. Just be sure if you're going to lay yourself out there that you get him to open up to you and tell you how he really feels and thinks.

Answer 4

Your attitude/approach is the reason guys are confused. Did you ever think to just say what you want? I used to do exactly what you do when I was a kid but, you know what?----men would much rather know what we expect. I always thought the guy should remember my birthday, anniversaries etc. WRONG! Finally, I had a boyfriend I just told him my preferences--nicely of course, reminded him of my birthday--wrote it on his calendar, wrote them 2 weeks ahead in his daytimer (before palm pilots)and a strange thing happened. He was grateful and I was happy. I even sent him out shopping on my birthday once but, that was after we had been married a couple of years. In March it will be 22 years. Give up the games girl and just be straight forward and honest. I spent a lot of alone time when I was young trying to figure out how to be more perfect. Only to find out from an ex-boyfriend that in his words "you were too perfect all the time". I had always tried to be what I thought they wanted----they just wanted me to be me the female human being---flaws and all. When you are willing to share your flaws it shows you are being vulnerable and you are willing to trust them a little at a time. Just be yourself--this hinting around is playing a guessing game. Problem is he has no idea he's playing it! You need to speak up for yourself, he will like it and he will respect you more for having your own will and opinions. No good man wants someone wimpy and unable to say what she wants. BTW The man I married? I had to finally ask him "Can I kiss you?"

Answer 5

Forget hints. Assuming you are old enough, gently take his hand in yours, look him in the eyes, and tell him what you feel and what you want.....After that explain to him that you have been dropping hints about what you want and you weren't sure if he was understanding them or was just too shy to act on them......Then maybe next time you drop a hint he'll get it !!!! Good Luck

Answer 6

Shy guys are always willing to make the other person happy... Just go after it and get what you want.. I'm sure he will comply. Nothing is more attractive than a confident girl that gets what she wants from a guy. Once he is comfortable he will start to return the 'hints'.

Just go GET IT.

Answer 7

aww..

ok listen to this i was really bad at hints... now the tings was ma gf was a luvbug and was desperate to hump like ne number of times a day.. {i guess we broke up in the end coz maybe i cudnt satify her.. well im a virgin n wanted t owait till marriage so...}

umm ne ways

well she went head over heels.. gifted me a small 6 inch baby pram with a doll baby n teddy in it .. with hearts all over it.. i got it but didnt admit it...

wel she wanted it reall bad but i cdnt my sily principles..

i guess u shud find out his intentions about premarital zex... if hes cool wid it...
ok then dress real swell not sluttty swell good hairdo... beautiful gown... make up n lovely earrings get some pheromones (theres a scent for arousing feelings) spray and don it..
wel then when he comes to study .. do everything but that sit close to him bamby eyed look rest ur head on his shoulders... hold his hands..
give him a few pecks... on cheks n neck
try and find one with a teasing neckline not very low.. just sum hintie.... cleavage n lean all around him straightening things let him sniff u and get peeks at ur bosom... that turns a man on more than actually getting to hold or kiss em ( :-) )

U need to realize this
see me as a guy wud like to cherish every intimate encounter wid ma gal not umm u know just get it over its not those 5 mins of climax but the hours before n after it and until the next time that these feelings should last till.. because it will make him want u that much more every time..
it makes luv stronger.. it makes luv lasst

plzz zex is not an activity... love making is... pleasure it..

and well in the end if hes a nuter and doesnt do ne ting just strip n snog him till he goes to a state where he cant stop HEHE
{u have to seriously do take drastic measures u know... :-) bye have fun}

Answer 8

Guys don't usually get hints, and even on the rare occasion they do, their brains tell them they're imagining things. We don't want to offend you.

So you have to show him he's not gonna offend you and be way more obvious about what you want. The biggest hurdle is the first one, believe me.

You don't have to assault him or anything, but be funny about it. Say "when are we gonna make out?" or something and initiate some play wrestling. One you get that barrier down, he'll probably warm up real fast. :-)

Answer 9

Either he is not ready or he's just scared on how to approach it. If he's not ready try not to scare him off. If he's just trying not to read you wrong out of respect then you will have to be the one to lead that dance. If you get into kissing lead his hands up and down your sides or legs, etc. make sure to still hint with your eyes and attempt undressing him. You'll be in your room? I hope.
Just make sure the homework is done first. Always prioritize. Sex is great but I'm assuming you aren't majoring in it.

Answer 10

Here's a hint for you.

Guys do not come equipped with a magic female decoder ring and we simply do not think/communicate the way that you do. What this means is that if you want to communicate something to a guy, tell him straight out and quit expecting him to pick up on your "hints".

Answer 11

Stop hinting. Some men just don't pick up on subtlety. Put it out there and make your move, or leave the issue alone...hinting means you want him to read your mind, and he cannot.