i somehow am terrified of doing it, the pain....
i am a college girl , but still virgin.
2007-09-10 07:14:38 · 29 answers · asked by pyarali2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait till u try it they will b terrified of u!
2007-09-10 07:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's painful at first, but if you are passionately attracted to someone the pain won't matter so much. So don't lose your virginity for the sake of experience, wait until care very deeply for someone. That little pain is nothing compared to the joy of a deep, caring, erotic relationship. Take your time.
If you're still a virgin when you're 30, you may want to re-examine a few things. Are you really attracted to men? Would you be happier with a lifetime of celibacy? There's no law that says you have to have sex, ever. Act on your own desires, not the dictates of society.
2007-09-10 14:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cydara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you also scared of getting pregnant, or for religious reasons? I was a virgin until my wedding night and I was 35 years old. I saved myself for religious & moral reasons. I had also promised my mom I would wait. It hurts the first few times. The more you do it, the better it will feel. It took a good 6 months before it started to feel really good. Take your time & don't let anybody rush you into this. If you're not ready, you're not ready. Anyone who doesn't respect & understand this is not the right person to give your virginity up to. When you do decide to have sex, INSIST that he use a condom. Also make sure that you are on the pill or another method of contraception.
2007-09-10 14:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Emily & her mommy love Da Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're allowed to be scared. It doesn't hurt that much, some girls don't feel pain at all. Being scared causes stress and makes your body tense which I'm sure can add to any pain you might experience.
There's nothing wrong with you, we all have fear of something.
You'll know when the guy is right, he'll go slow enough to keep you calm.
My advice is try not to be with a younger guy, they don't know what they're doing and can make it hurt you strictly out of ignorance. Any guy that is willing to take their time with you and wait for you to be ready is a guy that will not let it hurt you.
2007-09-10 14:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by DanceCat Squiggy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a common fear and nothing to be concerned about (neither is sex anything to be concerned about).
- Wait until you have a loving and patient lover. He should be willing to wait for you and take things slowly.
- If, after you become sexually active, you are still afraid of sex or have a depressed sex drive, then talk to a doctor or a therapist. This might be a sign of something more serious, either physical or emotional.
2007-09-10 14:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your ready. If you want to check things out with your doctor. Somethings there is a problem that can cause pain. Go to you GYN and get a physical also.
When you are with the right person it should not hurt. It should be wonderful
2007-09-10 14:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mighty One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your generation is in an awkward position with HIV and Herpes as potentials.
It's not strange that you might have worries about it. However, being terrified would suggest there is something more to this than a natural fear of contracting a nasty disease.
You might want to get a little counseling to see if this fear is manageable.
GL
2007-09-10 14:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just means that you have alot more sense then most other girls and plus you don't know what to expect when it happens so that in itself can be terrifying. When you do decide to do it make sure you explain to the person your with, its your first time and you are alittle scared and that you want to take it slow, if the person your with cares for you at all, your partner will make sure you enjoy it as much as they do.
2007-09-10 14:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't feel obligated to have sex. It is a wonderful experience when you share yourself with someone you really love.Talk with a doctor or nurse at your college health clinic. They can give you face to face information to help you. Just wait until you know the time is right.
2007-09-10 14:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by riderpops 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No girl, it is perfectly normal to be afraid your first time…. Just be sure and have sex with the one you really want to be with and always be safe…. I know I was very terrified when I had my first time but when it comes down to it, it’s really not that scary…. Just relax and if it happens it happens but you can always say NO to anyone….
2007-09-10 14:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um i can help you with that I mean calm down u don't want to do it yet got it. But soon as u do it its going to feel good to you teel the guy to go slow on u.But don't take to long to do it oru will become a 40 year old virgin
2007-09-10 14:23:37 · answer #11 · answered by kristopher j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋