Family & Relationships - 25 August 2007

I've been married for 6 years, we have always been best friends, but we were never balanced sexually. Once a month was fine for her and once a day isn't enough for me. After about a year of things going sour, she told me she wanted a divorce (right after I got news of being laid off).
We got seperated with a seperation agreement, but since neither of us could afford to move out, we split up the house and live in seperate parts. We still get along very well, we're still best friends, but now she wants to tear up the agreement and get back together.

The problem is I don't know if I can ever feel attracted to her again. I've been trying so hard and it's just not coming back.

While we were seperated I met a woman who has made me feel alive again, but is that real?

I don't know what to do.

2007-08-25 04:36:07 · 15 answers · asked by the_masao 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Every man I've been with since I started having sex, at 19, I've had a higher sex drive than. My current partner and future spouse want sex about every other day. I want sex at least once a day, twice would be nice, three times? Great, if that includes a quicky or at least oral sex for both parties. When we first got together, a few years ago, we were having sex at the very least twice a day if not more.

Now, my future spouse, he's 25 and says his 'juices' are running low when we have sex everyday or more than once a day for a few days. He says he needs to wait awhile to have sex again. We haven't had sex in three days!! That's sad and he's not dying for it, not for my lack of trying and I'm not fugly either! The guy loves me and I know he thinks I'm sexy. I thought men at this age were supposed to want sex as much as possible. Is it odd he doesn't and I do?

What can I do? Should I pretend I don't want it so badly?

2007-08-25 04:29:00 · 7 answers · asked by skunk pie 5 in Singles & Dating

I was 8 and my brother was 12yrs old and he had molested me for almost a year, this wasn't curiosity, it was sick, disgusting things. I kept it a secret until I was 22yrs old and then I confronted him with what he did, I also told my parents and my grandmother, they seemed to blow it off and it doesn't seem to have bothered them one bit. My other brother that wasn't involved with it told my husband and parents that I was asking for it and that I instigated it all, well I have no recolection of instigating it, only memories of hating it and crying when he wouldn't stop, along with many other details, my two brothers are really close, I am f@#&ing mad and I don't see how an 8 yr old child could be the one that started it all and now my brother thinks he is in the clear and didn't do anything wrong, What do you think?

2007-08-25 04:27:42 · 36 answers · asked by elizabeth 4 in Family

From what I see in real life and on these reality shows (Real World, Laguna Beach: The Real OC, etc) women are always mad at each other about some guy. What happened to men fighting over women?

2007-08-25 04:26:18 · 17 answers · asked by Me 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend has shown me in so many ways that he loves and trusts me. How can I show him or tell him that I feel the same way. He knows that I have been hurt in past relationships and I get scared of getting hurt. He is so good to me and sure of our relationship. What should I say/do to let him know he is the one I give my trust to?

Thank you~

2007-08-25 04:16:18 · 6 answers · asked by HotJewels 3 in Singles & Dating

reconcile with the fact that you feel guilty. I don't know why I feel so guilty a person within my immediate family a friend of the family has just died however this person and I did not connect..why I don't know she made hard for me to connect with her..now that she has died I feel guilty and like everyone is thinking I'm happy at this tradegy, I'm not happy I don't wish bad on even my enemies. I know what it is like to lose a parent in life, it's the worst feeling.

2007-08-25 04:15:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-08-25 04:08:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i've been married for 20 yrs, in my late thirties, is it normal to have sex 2 - 3 times a week? my hubby and seem to still enjoy our love life, i thought people get bored after a few yrs of marriage or become less interest in sex!

2007-08-25 04:07:37 · 27 answers · asked by bec 3 in Marriage & Divorce

spent on the wedding and not enough time is spent on planning for the "marriage"? It's not about the wedding....it's about what comes after the wedding.

2007-08-25 04:04:05 · 23 answers · asked by daljack -a girl 7 in Weddings

and is it different rules for men and women?

2007-08-25 04:01:47 · 10 answers · asked by hotsophisticate 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am a psych major, and was told be my prof to read "The proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura and write a paper on it...to those that have not read it, basically the author believes that men are easy to please and that we as women have neglected our men by not respecting them, ignoring them, placing our careers before family, etc... and that we have to cater to our men (cook, clean, sex anytime, compliment, etc)> a lot of people believe this is prehistoric nonsense and that the womens lib movement was the best thing for us... other people completely agree with dr. laura's views. what do you guys think?

2007-08-25 03:57:09 · 24 answers · asked by Addie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-25 03:53:32 · 6 answers · asked by Ali t 1 in Family

Right now I've been very focused on the wedding, but I want to keep in perspective and remember that in the long run, it's about the marriage, not about a big fancy wedding day.

What truly makes a marriage work? What keeps the love strong?

2007-08-25 03:50:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 months already, I've fallen in love with my girlfriend but afraid to tell her. I'm scared that she might not say it back. I care so much about her. I even risk my money on her. I went to a casino and betted 1000 dollars on casino (VIP card, minimum of betting is 1000), I had only $30 in my pocket when I entered last vegas. Now I got $38,000 from winning those high bets. I bought a very expensive purse for her. I'm actually very thankful to have her in my life. I'd be lost without her. How do I tell her that I love her?

2007-08-25 03:50:36 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I have known this girl for almost a year and we hang out whenever she in on campus because she has to commute through MARTA everyday. I always walk her to MARTA and she decided one day to just go to Underground Atlanta with me while we waited for the train. She is not MY deluded vision of a perfect woman but there is something about her. This feeling came out of nowhere 3 days ago and it hasn't left me. We're both single. How should I approach this situation? I just don't know.

2007-08-25 03:46:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi, i m 32 now..It is a love marriage.I was a hindu and he is a catholic.I m too now.
we got married 5 yrs ago. till now i cant have a baby.so i went for many treatments in India ,but in vain,we lost a lot of money and so we stopped that .now we are in US .Infertility treatments are costly here.now my hub has decided not to have child.He advices me to think of our future alone.He says any way children wont support us in future,.i can agree..but...I feel guilty of not giving a baby to him. He loves me a lot. so i cant go away from him ,,to give him a good life.He hates adoption too.
He is a very very caring and loving husband.He makes me happy always. but my guilty consciousness kills me.Our relatives and friends in India have stared hating me just because of my infertility.
What shall i do ?
How can i overcome my depression.
calls to India drives me mad.we cant stop calling them.please advice me how to get rid of my guilty feeling

2007-08-25 03:46:02 · 21 answers · asked by ice 2 in Family

What are some good ways to boost your confidece level, when you can't feel good about yourself no matter what you do. I have more friends than anyone could ever imagine or need, and i love them to death. Sadly, as most girls do i leave how i feel about my looks up to the guys, and it results in pain. I don't have a really stable family life right now and no where i go i feel safe. I also get physically sick when im emotianlly upset, so i really need to start getting some confidence, and get back on the right track.

2007-08-25 03:45:36 · 9 answers · asked by Jessiexxlove 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

They were married almost 21 yrs, and have 2 daughters, and she told him 2 weeks ago that she wanted a divorce. He has withdrawn from everyone, says he does not want to talk to anyone right now, needs some time alone. He goes to bed early, and stays in the house alot. We have been friend for 25 yrs, and we have always been able to talk about anything, and now it feels like he is shutting me out of his life, and will not talk to me. I know that he needs time to deal with this, but I would like to be here to listen and support him during this tough time in his life, because he has been there for me to talk to when I had alot of bad things happen in my life. I told him I will give him the time he needs and respect his wishes, and not offer any opinions about the divorce. I just am very concerned about how he is acting right now, it just breaks my heart that he is hurting like this. It is not like him to act like this. Please give me some good advice on how to help him, but not make him mad

2007-08-25 03:39:50 · 10 answers · asked by mldavr29 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-25 03:38:36 · 14 answers · asked by Vennessa 2 in Marriage & Divorce

white men....black men....white woman...black men...
would you date outside the race and if so why?
free for all

2007-08-25 03:37:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I love this girl that went to my school.
I fell for her since i first met her then i got to know her and she had the coolest personality and good looks. But she has a boy friend but she isnt happy at all with him. She told me he hits her all the time and calls her a B**ich.

and ive liked her for the past year and i get a huge knot in my throat knowing a girl like her is going to waste with a guy that treats her like that but for some reason she wont leave him.

i like her soooo much i cant describe it but it makes me wanna hurt the other guy becuz hes hurting her.

what should i do???? i just wanna go crazyyyyyyyy and the girl graduated so now i cant talk to her. omg i hate living in california all this had to happen cuz i moved here.

2007-08-25 03:36:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-25 03:32:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My ex broke up with me a few months ago. We were together for a little over a year. I went a little psycho...lost a baby, had insecurity issues that still lingered from a past domestic violence relationship and finally got help. Anyway...once the depression passed a bit, I started hanging with friends again, and started dating a new guy. Recently, my ex told me that he wanted to try to work things out. The thing is, I'm so in love with my ex...really IN LOVE. The new guy is a sweetheart, and apparently has liked me for a couple years when we first met. I don't know what to do, completely torn. My ex lied a couple times, small white lies. I know he's never cheated, so I'm not concerned about that. He's also 6 years younger than me. The new guy is a couple years younger, taller, I feel like I don't have to worry at all about him straying. I just don't know what to do. You know the saying, don't always think with only your heart. My heart wants my ex back, but my head says otherwise.

2007-08-25 03:29:40 · 3 answers · asked by sugar 1 in Singles & Dating

I've had my heart broken too many times. I've been listening to too many people telling me things I already know. I see too many good women who I can not be with pass me by. Now, I'm sick of it, but I'm still a sweethearted gentleman, with a broken heart. If you have any opinions, feel free to provide.

2007-08-25 03:26:31 · 17 answers · asked by jerome h 1 in Singles & Dating

my younger bro ..15y/o has been naughty but the apple pf my eye. Off late he has been troublesome and i was just keeping quiet and being patient. this afternoon i LOST IT..and i even hit him on hand. my mom has a fractured foot and emotinally to she is unwell... i dunno how to handle my younger bro ?
im a mom/ wife .. yes but he was being too bad!

2007-08-25 03:26:11 · 9 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family

2007-08-25 03:23:43 · 20 answers · asked by anil c 1 in Singles & Dating

What do you think if your lover told you, he want to spend his birthday with you. until the last mins, he decides to changed his plan with co-works... Do you think I should stop to seeing him?????? ended with this relationship...!!!!!

2007-08-25 03:13:29 · 19 answers · asked by back2future 5 in Marriage & Divorce

There is this guy in 3 of my classes and i sit by him 'cause of the seating chart in 2. Last school year 2 days b4 school ended i had a friend tell him i liked him. most of da time when tat happens the guy ignores me. This time (new school year), we hold at least 1 convo a day, he asked me for help w/ how to do clip art on da computer 2 days in a row, how to get picture behind text, how to move wordart, and how to enlarge a picture. Stuff 3rd graders can do! He teases me once in awhile. once i said after i wrote something down that he had better writing than me and he auto matically wrote i down on my stuff without asking me. in english, i sit by him and i sit closer 2 him than the other dude beside me and when da class had computers mine and his arms were like squished 2gether + we bot had plenty of room to keep our arms apart and we didn't move our arms 4 6 mins! I'm not sure if he likes me cause when we were in ss he didn't ask me 2 sign his planner like everybody else. I'mconfused

2007-08-25 03:11:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

...the unholy hideously empty and soul-less bodies of the undead...?

2007-08-25 03:09:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I need to sell this thing. I dont want to deal with trying to get all the paper work from the ex.

2007-08-25 03:06:44 · 27 answers · asked by Matt D 2 in Marriage & Divorce