Every man I've been with since I started having sex, at 19, I've had a higher sex drive than. My current partner and future spouse want sex about every other day. I want sex at least once a day, twice would be nice, three times? Great, if that includes a quicky or at least oral sex for both parties. When we first got together, a few years ago, we were having sex at the very least twice a day if not more.
Now, my future spouse, he's 25 and says his 'juices' are running low when we have sex everyday or more than once a day for a few days. He says he needs to wait awhile to have sex again. We haven't had sex in three days!! That's sad and he's not dying for it, not for my lack of trying and I'm not fugly either! The guy loves me and I know he thinks I'm sexy. I thought men at this age were supposed to want sex as much as possible. Is it odd he doesn't and I do?
What can I do? Should I pretend I don't want it so badly?
2007-08-25 04:29:00 · 7 answers · asked by skunk pie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are right ..
I'm 35 , male .. and one time a day is not enough for me ..
2007-08-25 04:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by akadmus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's drives are different as well as their concepts of what constitutes a sexual episode, for example a "quicky" leaves some people feeling energized and counts as sexual expression while still others are frustrated and annoyed by the notion of so brief an encounter so much so that they would rather pass on an encounter altogether until they have more time to devote to it. The important thing here is to not try to define one person's responses comparatively against another person's...there is no cookie-cutter pattern for relating to men or women. Recognize too that a well-rounded working man's desire for sex may be different (and substantially lesser) than a guy of the same age who's shouldering less of a responsibility either at work or at home. There are too many factors to mention that could account for that, but his current frequency doesn't sound particularly low, even for a man of 25. What you're confronting now is the age-old struggle to establish balance between appetites, and every couple has to negotiate this hurdle. It's common to hear of the man wanting sex more often than the female, but as both genders are becoming more enlightened beings, it's not uncommon for it to be the other way around, such as in your case. I don't have any specific suggestions to help you in this regard because everyone's situations are unique, but I do know that how you solve this dilemma will directly affect the success or failure of this relationship. If you make your guy feel badly about his sexual response he'll shut down emotionally over time and the situation will worsen, (just like it always used to in the days when men thought they could shame their women into having sex more often when they didn't want to). Boorish behavior isn't appreciated by anyone.
So, if you know he loves you (and you say you do) and you know you're sexy (as you say you are), work on the balance part, and leave judgmental utterances like "sad" out of the equation. Relationships, like anything else, bear fruit based on what we put into them. But if it ain't broke, maybe you shouldn't try to fix it. Good luck to you.
2007-08-25 11:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm, I don't know. I am 23 and I would definitely love sex 3 times a day, I really have no idea whats going on with your spouse.
Is he having a lot of stress in his life? that could play a role. how long have you guys been together? That's really strange. I don't think pretending you don't want it would do anything really, there's gotta be a reason behind him not wanting it. Do you guys ever try different things with your sex? maybe some games? there are also some good books out there, with different positions for different days and I think they can actually be a lot of fun. Maybe you guys should try some new things. spice things up a bit I guess.
I wish I could help you more but that is strange.
2007-08-25 11:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by crysent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Different men have different libidos. Unfortunately, it sounds as if yours are mismatched. I think that in most relationships, it's the man that has the stronger sex drive. I wouldn't say that there's anything wrong with your guy, but you would have no problem finding a man who could keep up with you. I only wish that I had met someone like you when I as 25.
2007-08-25 12:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trouble probably is related to the fact you gave him too much too early as a future spouse. Too far in the furute to make the magic last until marriage. Once he's "been there-done that" too often than not, he's making excuses for it. Either set yourself for a slowdown or get yourself a sex toy or two to relieve your tensions when you need extra sex he can't or won't give you.
2007-08-25 11:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i was 25 i got sex 5 to 7 times a day, i think most men at that age want it as many times as they can, i know how you fill
2007-08-25 11:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhh God !!!!!!!!
I'm 37 years old man .. I have sex 2-3 times a day ..
what the hell will ( juices ) matter !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-25 12:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by more m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋