Family & Relationships - 29 July 2007

I am so pissed, hurt, aggravated you name it I am it.. LOL

My hubby & his sister got into a fight tonight because for the next 30 days I will be watching my 2 niece's while my mother in law is out of town, I don't mind watching them but I was never really even asked, I was pretty much told, 1 of the nieces lives here with her mom (beth the sister) & the other ones does not live here, I love both of my nieces to death, I really don't mind watching them & NO i will not be payed for it, I guess you could say they kinda expect it because I don't work, So I will have 5 kids here with me for 30 days, NO BIGGIE to me, My hubby works nights & He simply told beth to talk to her daughter about not being loud during the day while he is sleeping, she is only 7 & I am sure we will have to remind her a few times hey tone it down a little or you are going to wake up uncle Anthony, I'm really not that worried about it, but my hubby is he is a truck driver... & he is a little worried about it anyway the stupid B-I says my kid is not like yours, Your kids are worse. she was saying her kid is better than ours with my kids right there listening to her, She goes up stairs & slams the door as loud as she can & wakes up my daughter, & I went up there to talk to my daughter who is 12 by the way & she asked what was going on, & I said nothing don't worry about it, & then my daughter tells me that she heard Beth say F*** Racheal & her kids its not like her kids do anything around here, OH HELL NO, its one thing to say it, but she knew damn well she woke up Caltyn, & she would here it, I was NOT even in their argument, I always stay out of their arguments, Why the hell is she cussing me out ??? My kids do enough around here, & quite honestly I do not see it as any of her business as to what they do & do not do, MY kids are not perfect but Neither is hers I would NEVER say something like that to her or her kid, Her daughter was mad because beth was not paying attention to her one time & to get it she said hey mom F*** off What did the stupid B I do NOTHING... I was sitting right there & she did nothing, Her daughter who I love to death is a hateful little *****, Who likes to rub it in people's faces what she has & other kids don't, Just like her mom, Nothing is said about it, cause beth (aka B I) sees nothing wrong with it ask her she will tell you even... But I would never say my kids are better than hers DEF not infront of her kid... The kids did not even know what was going on & I had no clue how to explainit to them, She even made a comment walking up the stairs to them about Lexi being better than them, F*** HER, I called her sis whom she was on the phone with while this was all going on & asked her if she did say what my daughter had said she said I do believe my daughter, but wanted an adult to confirm it & all she said is she is staying out of it & she is getting off the phone Even though everytime she calls me to vent about the same person I sit there & listen & try to give her advice, But NOOOO I need someone to talk to & she don't care Screw her as well, I am doing them both a favor they would never do for me.. I have been with their brother for 10 years & not once have they ever watched my kids I have always watched theirs I even kept Lexi for 2 years while her mom was at work.. I am not the person who likes confrontation, But I refuse to talk to her anymore period.... She is a hateful person, & right now all I want to do is freaking cry, I have never done anything to her but be nice & do everything to help her out in every-way i can & She is going to sit there & say all that crap about me right in front of my daughter, AGHHHHHH.. I am so tempted to tell her tomorrow morning find someone else to watch your kid, Because quite honestly if she really thinks her kid is better than mine than, & she is going to say F*** racheal she dont do anything around here anyway, She can kiss my A** & I dont want my kids around her, & I will show her just how much I dont do around here, She can do her own dishes, she can clean up after her daughter, she can cook her daughters meals for the next month Sorry I am just really upset right now... Am I wrong to be

2007-07-29 18:49:31 · 8 answers · asked by bite_me_harder_28 2 in Family

My gf asked me to join her to live in Penang but I am a singaporean. I do not believe in long distance relationship. If I can't compromise, I might lose her for good. Any sound advice out there?

2007-07-29 18:47:44 · 1 answers · asked by super_apache 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

our is 2.6 year old marriage. we are staying with my parents. 2 days back my wife had some hot talk with my parents ans she left the house and took our 6 month old son. now she told me very clear that i have to chosse only one. whether wife and son or my parents, she is not ready to come back. kindly advice?

2007-07-29 18:47:18 · 20 answers · asked by sumit k 3 in Marriage & Divorce

ok. so my parents are divorced. they are both remaried and i have a 2 step brothers, 4 real brothers, 1 step sister, and 1 real sister. Both of my sister live with my dad. So do all of my brother except for one, a real one. Me and him live with my mom. My dad and his new wife are on vacation and didnt want to take the kids with them so they are stayign with us, i have no promblem with that. Well anyways the second day into them staying my oldest step brother who is 15, a little more than a year loder than me, who i met only once, was the only one home other than me. He invited some of his friends over, and as i was gettign changed, my bedroom has a balcony, i had my top over my head and i heard a noise so i turned towad my balcony doors and saw my step brother and about 7 of his friends watching me change. I didnt know what to do so I ran to my bathroom. Wh at should I do? How should I act around him? Help!! Plz.

2007-07-29 18:45:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-07-29 18:45:07 · 1 answers · asked by super_apache 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

A long term friendship with one of my best friends is finally developing into something more. We talk constantly, spend so much time together, with friends, our families..he talks about our future and how much he cares for me....but he still won't touch me! I don't even mean sexually, I mean at all. He says he's attracted - he looks at me as though he's attracted - but he won't cross the line. I'll reach out for his hand, and within minutes he finds some reason to drop mine. He hugs me like a china doll. He has yet to kiss me since we've deepened our relationship despite numerous opportunities. I am a very affectionate person, crave even the most casual of touches. I'm starting to feel rejected, but when I discuss it with him, he simply says that he's wanting to take it slow. We've taken it slow for eight years now, how do I make him see how much I want to be close to him? Are we doomed already?

2007-07-29 18:44:05 · 1 answers · asked by Alexis P 1 in Singles & Dating

is it hard for u guys to go slow when u have sex

2007-07-29 18:43:53 · 12 answers · asked by jessicacd91 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-29 18:43:07 · 17 answers · asked by toysmom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am developing a crush on this guy and it is freaking me out a little because I dont know him very well. I mean, I realize it is normal but I dont want my emotions to get the upper hand. How can I calm and control myself?
Thanks!

2007-07-29 18:41:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It is so sad though. My grandfather was a wonderful man and her mom and adopted dad told her that her father died in WWII

The only reason I know this is because the housekeeper mentioned to my great aunt about how this little girl was crying and screaming and looking through her adopted dads office that she didn't believe her date died in the war. My aunt asked what family was this and it was her family.

My grandma is very insistent on the fact that I don't find her. She is afraid she would come take away my mom's inheritence.

How wrong would it be if I found her but just didn't tell her who I was? I really wish she would have looked for my grandfather but why would she have when she thought he was dead.

2007-07-29 18:39:58 · 6 answers · asked by Peggy Pirate 6 in Marriage & Divorce

There's this guy at work that has been trying to talk to me. He asked to use my cell phone. This Other Guy that I used to like and talked to for awhile was there too. Other Guy and I used to be really close but now we are not talking anymore because he has been really disrespectful. So guy #2 askes for my cell, makes a call, leaves the number in my phone. The next day he asks me why I didn't call him b/c the number he dialed was actually his. I asked him why he didnt just give me his number he said that too many people were around. I told him no one was around but me and my friend, and he mentioned that Other Guy was around too. I told him that I didnt care about Other Guy being there. He said that he knew me and Other Guy used to be close so he didn't want to ask me in front of him. I asked how did he know this he said that he had asked Other Guy about me and Other Guy told him that we used to talk but we don't anymore. Why did Guy 2 ask O.G. about me at all? What does this all mean

2007-07-29 18:35:17 · 6 answers · asked by klf_the_aquarius80 2 in Singles & Dating

How many dates(3,4,5?) does it take before you can have "the talk" or how many weeks of knowing each other?

2007-07-29 18:33:33 · 9 answers · asked by PAboy05 1 in Singles & Dating

I was married for 6 years. I had a hard time losing weight I had gained (mostly because my husband wanted 2 eat out, order pizza & sit at B&N whenever we had free time together), then yearly, would bring up my weight . he even had called me a fat ***** a few times. I wanted a divorce, but wasn't sure if it was reason enough 2 go back on my vows. I didn't want 2 just end it, but was sick of being put down & feeling like **** all the time. Well, this past February, on his own, he told me my life was F*d up, I was a sad person &the only reason he stayed with me is cuz he felt sorry 4 me THEN told me that if I wasn't going 2 ask (practically beg him) 2 stay, that I would have 2 file.

I moved out, got a new job and filed. My divorce doesn't finalize until Sept, but already I met someone who is genuinely interested in me and wants to be with me. I was kinda looking forward to singlehood, but he's everything I had been hoping for. Is it too soon to get attached if I'm really happy w/ him?

2007-07-29 18:32:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-29 18:29:50 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm 16. My mother told me that she has made an appointment for me to see a psychiatrist because there are "a lot of things wrong with me." My mother is a very controlling, angry woman. She is 50, she's amazing and can do a lot of amazing things, but she is bitter and has driven both of my sisters out of the house. My father ignores everything and is very passive. She has put me down for as long as I can remember (I was an accident.), and my sisters agree that she treats me the worst (though she was horrible to them as well). I don't see anything wrong with me, nor does anyone else I talk to about this. I make good grades in advanced classes. I have good friends, and a good boyfriend who treats me wonderfully. I do my chores, I've learned to control myself so I don't egg her on when she's angry, I do my homework and everything without being asked. I'm interested in art, but she insists it's a waste of time. She won't even let me spend the night at my friend's houses anymore. Help

2007-07-29 18:29:32 · 8 answers · asked by Loo 1 in Family

So I have been with this girl for 1 month and it has been very rocky, we are always fighting and then two days later we are good and we make up. she is a bit of an acholic and has 2 dui's and has not drivin a car in 4 years, also her brother died 2 years ago and she is very emotionaly distant from me and has trobule talking about her feelings. she blames her brothers death on her self. On the plus side she is atractive and has a great senive humor at times and we get along great when all is going well. We got in a big agument and didn't talk for 2 days she called me and apoligized, the next day she called and told me she is pregnate. I went to her house to comfort her and talk to her, she realy didn't seem that upset and she told me she wants to get an abortion and told me she has had one in the past (when she was 22, she is now 27, I am 24) The problem is I want her to keep it and don't know how to tell her or what to say to convince her. I love kids and feel i would be a great father

2007-07-29 18:28:40 · 19 answers · asked by jess m 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 22 yrs old and have a 4 yr old from a previous relationship. My boyfriend is 24 with no kids and really wants a baby. I am in my last yr of college and I make about $60,000 a yr. Hes finished with school. We began planning our wedding and he agreed that he would wait till i was done with school and married before we had a baby.I can afford to have another child. But my boyfriend wants nothing to do with my 3yr old son. He doesnt come over when he is up, he doesnt go out with us, I think he tries to put it out his head that I have a son. I have spoken to him about this a million times and he said that he isnt ready to be a step father, he wants to be a father first. He's a good man to me. He treats me very good and we have a lot of fun together. But when ever I spend time with my son, he makes me feel guilty about him not having a baby. I love my son and I love my boyfriend. Its easy to say just leave him or talk to him. I've tried both! I dont know what to do!

2007-07-29 18:28:24 · 41 answers · asked by BeautifulStar 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm beginning to wonder if my boyfriend is bipolar or something. He can be happy at the start of the night, and be telling me he loves me and trying to hold me, then out of nowhere he turns into a jerk. He'll push me away when I go to kiss him, say ok If I tell him I love him, ignore my questions, and basically act like he would rather be anywhere else. But then he'll go back to being the sweet boyfriend I love a few days later! I'm just confused about what to do. Its getting very hard to deal with an unpredicatable boyfriend- I never know whether I will thrill him or make him furious just by touching him. Its almost embarassing, he has gotten on to me in public for holding his hand. Also, I feel so deprived of affection. He only wants to kiss and hold me when he wants more, and never asks what I want or anything. I'm just very worn out, and tired of discussing it with him (all he says is thats just who he is)

could it possibly be me? Is he just tired of something I'm doing maybe?

2007-07-29 18:26:25 · 8 answers · asked by laura 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-29 18:23:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was just wonted to know.

2007-07-29 18:23:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My parents are great, one of the best a man could ask for, but unfortunately they didn't achieve much in their lifetime and now my mom is 49 and dad is 59 and they don't have their own house, and don't have college degrees either. I am 22 years old and my wife is 21, we've been married for 2 years now and we were living in the same house as my parents and we were helping out in the house with bills. My wife and parents get along perfect, thats not the question, but now i feel as if i want my own life with my wife, and she's been complaining lately too, so what do i do? How can i leave my loving parent by themselves, they cant afford it, or be fine by themselves, they are too dependent on me, for my mom dont drive or else how can i have my own life? sometimes i feel that god took something so simple away from me, the fact that i can't even have my own life with my wife without happen to worry about my parents like my kids, Wow this is a situation alot of people don't face.
What do i do

2007-07-29 18:23:03 · 15 answers · asked by manofsteel_returns 2 in Marriage & Divorce

a lot of people have told me that they had sex around 14-20. but does having sex in ur teen years damage u mentally? cause i dunno about other ppl but my hormone levels r hella high rite now and im getting more sensitive to guys. i find myself really desiring this one guy whos 10 years older than me. so all im asking is wat the consequences for having sex rite now are. (besides pregnancy and diease and stuff) is there any downside mentally?

2007-07-29 18:22:39 · 8 answers · asked by xSELENEx 2 in Singles & Dating

I told this guy like a week ago that I liked him cause I did and I was pretty sure he liked me. I was right and we've been talking for about a week, but haven't hung out yet and he hasn't asked me out yet or anything. I feel like he's moving too fast and he's like saying things that I'm not ready for yet. but I don't want to tell him! do you think if I ignore him he'll get it or should I tell him? what should I say? I don't want to hurt his feelings

2007-07-29 18:22:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My grandmother treats me as if the fugitive slvae act is still going on, my younger brother is a racist against me, my older brother yells at me, and my Mom won't even look at me or talk to me. Let alone say hello. I sleep on the floor, I live in a Senior Citizen Home with me Grandmother, I hardly get any food. I am so thin you can see most of my bones! I no longer go to school so I turned to shy again and now have anger issues. My life is pathetic and I don't think I can make it through. I really am thinking of suicide. Tho I am only 15. My best friend online said to not think that way and say that I am better than anyone. Doesn't help. Every night I cry myself to sleep. I really need help! I don't think I can live like this anymore. Please answer my question! ( Also : My dad has been dead since the day I was born )

2007-07-29 18:21:33 · 10 answers · asked by jamiefan9 1 in Family

I have a friend who loves the show friends. Is there an episode where someone asks a girl to a dance, or to go out or something? Because I wanna ask this girl to homecoming and I thought it'd be clever/cute if I could do what they did in the show. Make sense?

2007-07-29 18:20:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

dated 5 months? Even if one day -you plan on marrying each other?!

2007-07-29 18:20:17 · 12 answers · asked by Life is simply beautiful 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I noe yes indeed it is an random and akword question but no one ever talks about i openly and i dont want to noe how often u really get horny im just wondering if i dont get horny to often it since you dont noe me its easier to ask
is it normal for a 14yr old female to get horny 3-4 tiems a week? and i dotn noe why but also on rainy days

2007-07-29 18:16:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

came to know that somebody is stalking me. he knows i'm married. can't believe he's doing this even when i'm with my hubby. I don't know him well neither does he. Just met once and i felt he liked me a lot even if I'm married. But I wasn't serious, but now that it's been a while, I am concerned and don't feel like going out anywhere on my own; I'm loosing my privacy. how to get rid of this.

2007-07-29 18:15:37 · 15 answers · asked by Just4YA 2 in Singles & Dating

Is this a common thing or should I figure he is up to no good?

2007-07-29 18:13:26 · 15 answers · asked by kadee 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

went to a moderately priced restaurant that he suggested, at the front door he said, I don't have a penny on me. I was so upset at myself for not knowing this guy that someone introduced me to, and I was placed in an unusual situation. I had money on me, but should I have walked out or charged a meal and then just slip out to teach him a lesson?

HE asked me out, and he suggested the place, and no money? What would you have done?

2007-07-29 18:11:19 · 30 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Singles & Dating