I was married for 6 years. I had a hard time losing weight I had gained (mostly because my husband wanted 2 eat out, order pizza & sit at B&N whenever we had free time together), then yearly, would bring up my weight . he even had called me a fat ***** a few times. I wanted a divorce, but wasn't sure if it was reason enough 2 go back on my vows. I didn't want 2 just end it, but was sick of being put down & feeling like **** all the time. Well, this past February, on his own, he told me my life was F*d up, I was a sad person &the only reason he stayed with me is cuz he felt sorry 4 me THEN told me that if I wasn't going 2 ask (practically beg him) 2 stay, that I would have 2 file.
I moved out, got a new job and filed. My divorce doesn't finalize until Sept, but already I met someone who is genuinely interested in me and wants to be with me. I was kinda looking forward to singlehood, but he's everything I had been hoping for. Is it too soon to get attached if I'm really happy w/ him?
2007-07-29 18:32:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not too early. I mean, if you genuinely like this guy, then how can that be too early?
But take it slow, of course. Don't go jumping into a second marriage right away. Give yourself time to really get to know this guy. He may seem perfect to you right now, but that may be either because he really is, or because your ex was so bad anyone is going to look good by comparison.
Patience is the best advice anyone could give you right now.
2007-07-29 18:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should hold off on a serious relationship for now. Date but don't move in, get married etc. Take at least 8-12 months to just live on your own and really discover who you are. If you are still happy with him then go for it! Take the time you've been given to really, REALLY make sure about where you want your life to go. Take your time, love waits. Good luck :)
2007-07-30 02:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move too fast. You are happy that you've found someone who likes you the way you are, but there is no reason to rush into anything. Keep seeing him, but don't be getting engaged or something crazy like that. Don't move in with him (or him with you), and just enjoy dating. There is no rule that says you have to make a heavy commitment just because you are happy. When I got divorced and fell in love with someone else right away, my dad gave me the best advice.... Take it slow! If he genuinely cares for you, he will understand that you need to take it slow, if he doesn't understand, I would question his motives.
2007-07-30 01:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think so. Life should be about happiness. You deserve to have someone in your life to love an care for you for who you are. You don't deserve to be put down, called names, so no i don't think its to soon. Anyhow you only live once and should be happy an if he makes you happy then go for it. You can always take it slow just to see how things will play out and if he's as good of a guy as you say then he will respect that you want to take things slow. Good luck and be blessed!
2007-07-30 01:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all good job for dumping that a**hole!! Second of all if this man that you really care about is good to you and nothing less than everything you've ever wanted then don't penalize him for the stupid mistakes your ex-husband made. You are a strong beautiful women and I think if you want this man in your life and he genuinely wants to be there then take a chance.
2007-07-30 01:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by musichild03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be so quick to jump out of the frying pan and into the fire. Just date this guy and take your time before making a commitment. If he really like you, he will understand. If he doesn't, then he probably just wanted sex anyway!! Good luck. I hope you find happiness this time around!!
2007-07-30 01:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not too soon. If you like this guy go for it because eventually you would have started to date. I am so happy that you met someone else and you deserve the attention. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-30 01:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get into a relationship until you are out of the old one completely AND happy with yourself through counseling. You may not realize it now, but your husband did a number on your self esteem - and it is going to come out if you try to start a relationship with anyone too soon....
let yourself be YOU for a while....then worry about dating.
2007-07-30 01:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a rebound... take sometime before u get into anything else {}
2007-07-30 01:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋