I don't know why, but my mom is making me go to a psychiatrist. What should I do?

Question

I'm 16. My mother told me that she has made an appointment for me to see a psychiatrist because there are "a lot of things wrong with me." My mother is a very controlling, angry woman. She is 50, she's amazing and can do a lot of amazing things, but she is bitter and has driven both of my sisters out of the house. My father ignores everything and is very passive. She has put me down for as long as I can remember (I was an accident.), and my sisters agree that she treats me the worst (though she was horrible to them as well). I don't see anything wrong with me, nor does anyone else I talk to about this. I make good grades in advanced classes. I have good friends, and a good boyfriend who treats me wonderfully. I do my chores, I've learned to control myself so I don't egg her on when she's angry, I do my homework and everything without being asked. I'm interested in art, but she insists it's a waste of time. She won't even let me spend the night at my friend's houses anymore. Help

I know there are millions and millions of people in worse situations than me. So I feel bad about complaining. But I'm tempted to have fun with it and say something like, "I like to eat the fecal matter of Asian elephants."

Oops, didn't mean to make this question so long. But I forgot to mention that my mother was molested/raped (I'm not quite sure what happened. She won't talk about it much.) when she was younger, I think ~30 years ago, and that this fed her already brisk, tough attitude. She's always been a bit feisty, from what I've heard/seen.

Answer 1

Go ahead and go, it seems like they can help you put your relationship with your mom on a better level. Maybe they will be able to convince your mom to come in too, as it seems like she could really use it. Just be wary of taking any kind of mood altering drugs, too many doctors just want to medicate, instead of really finding out about the problems of their patients. It seems as though you are doing fine without it.

Answer 2

Take the time to talk about your relationship with your mother. Maybe the psychiatrist will have some ideas on ways to make it run more smoothly.

Answer 3

If you think there's nothing wrong with you, just go and see the shrink to please her and score some credit from her. It's also a good opportunity for you to be analysed by someone with objective manner. You may be able to get some help from the doctor to get your relationship with your mother improved.

Don't be negative and just give it a try!!

Answer 4

Your mom sounds dreadful, I say, go see the psychiatrist, there you'll have a safe place to vent about your mom, she'll never know what you've said, and maybe you can get some pointers on how to deal with her.

Answer 5

I would say just go. Let her foot the bill while you still can, because with the way you describe her you will be in therapy eventually anyways.

Sounds like you're a smart kid, so keep at it and keep your chin up.

Answer 6

I would go if I were you!

Seriously - think about the "gift" your Mom is giving you! If she is as bad as you say she is, then her providing you with a professional to talk to about the way she treats you is a gift that doesn't see that she is giving you!

Answer 7

Go to learn the skill of coping with your toxic mother.

Answer 8

sounds like she is the one with the issues go to the thearpy let the dr. know whats going on and maybe she can gradually pull your mom in for a few meetings and help her she seems to be the one that needs help.