went to a moderately priced restaurant that he suggested, at the front door he said, I don't have a penny on me. I was so upset at myself for not knowing this guy that someone introduced me to, and I was placed in an unusual situation. I had money on me, but should I have walked out or charged a meal and then just slip out to teach him a lesson?
HE asked me out, and he suggested the place, and no money? What would you have done?
2007-07-29 18:11:19 · 30 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, Gosh no. This was the first time we met, and he asked me out on a date.
2007-07-29 18:14:44 · update #1
Metro, surprise, I just ordered a hot chocolate. That's all. I was considerate. Are You?
2007-07-29 18:22:43 · update #2
Did he forget his wallet? Was there some situation that had recently happened to cause him to be pennyless?
If you didn't know anything about him and you're a nice person, giving him the benefit of the doubt and going forward with the date was the best you could do. Hopefully you assessed the situation while on the date to see if he was just using you for a free meal or if he had actually been caught in an awkward situation.
2007-07-29 18:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule, when I'm not sure about a first date, I bring money just in case....to cover my meal or half the bill. Most of the time if a guy asks you out, he generally pays. When the check comes, I offer to pick it up or part of it up....or if he buys dinner, then I offer to get a round of drinks so it's not just him paying everything. He works, I work. I don't expect him to subsidize everything.
HOWEVER, what this guy did was just crass. He basically asked you out, then let you know-at the door-he 1. can't plan a darn thing 2. is flat broke 3. had no intention of paying for anything. At that point, I would have either suggested someplace else and asked him directly why he picked there and dind't bring his wallet, and what he was expecting (ie. free meal?). If his answer was a 'I'm an idiot and forgot my wallet,' I would have opted to go to another rest. or pay the meal, but claimed to have only a certain amount on me. Mistakes do happen, but this guy sounds liek he was trying to take you for a ride.
2007-07-30 01:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by bleeding sun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To which my response would have been... " my, how were you going to eat tonight?" That's really just plain rude. You don't go out on a date with no money, get to the front door and then expect your date to pay. I'm a firm believer in splitting the bill. So, if the guy could only afford a movie, he would pay for that and they lady would pay for dinner, or something to that effect. I would have told him that the date was over and that I was going home.
If I liked the guy, however, I would have paid for the meal and asked him at some point during the conversation, how he felt about a woman who earns more money than him.
2007-07-30 01:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were in your situation, I'd still go with him and pay for the charges. That would serve as a lesson for him and at the same time, i'd be able to earn higher respect and a pinch of shame from him. Who knows, maybe next time he'd catch up and think of a better strategy to get you out on a date.
2007-07-30 01:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how bad u really wanted to teach him a lesson..if on a scale of 1-10 u'd rate it a 5 or higher then u should of gave him a taste of his own medicine..charge the meal then split..but then again some of us would see not point of wasting an hour time being in the presence of a scum-bag
2007-07-30 01:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him, it's simple as that; no guy will ask a girl out and not bring a penny on him. Let's say he was an *** and could cover for himself only and asked you to pay your part that'd be more reasonable, but expecting the girl you asked out to pay for both of you guys? That's not right, as I said.. drop him.
2007-07-30 01:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Confused One 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose realizing that he didn't have cash COULD have been an oversight. But no credit card or debit card either? Did the place only take cash? That would be rare these days. In any case, if you haven't received flowers by now then I wouldn't plan another ANYTHING with him.
2007-07-30 01:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's cute than money don't matter but just let him know on your next DATE that he'll treat. He could always borrow. YOu could probably do that maybe one more time but he got to go and find a job.
2007-07-30 01:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have told the guy, "Your asked me out on a date took me to this resturant and have no money?......Pathetic" If i was you i wouldnt go on another date with him considering he cant even afford the first date.
2007-07-30 01:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by DogLover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im guessing he forgot to bring the money. Im a guy so i don't know, but i would tell you to give him another shot, and if he doesn't pay you back dump him.
You should have made him wash the dishes the rest of the night. he he he.
2007-07-30 01:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋