Family & Relationships - 12 July 2007

How do u leave someone u been with for almost 20 years that u still deeply inlove with but drugs is causing alot of mental problems for me. My husband be using for a year or more now and i thought it would just go away but i guess it don't work like that. I am working to make ends meet and he is not working because i guess he is in a depression mode. Somehow is is keeping supply for drugs cause i dont give him now money. Doing the day he is fine at night he is so freak out. He accuse me of all kind of things and say anything at night . I need help.

2007-07-12 17:29:08 · 6 answers · asked by sazzybmt 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I dont know what I did but my boyfriend just called and said he wanted to break up. What do I do? My whole world came crumbling down. I dont feel like eating. I dont feel like sleeping. I feel so alone. I need ADVICE NOW!

2007-07-12 17:28:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My 60+ year old cousin, against all advice, brought a 20 year old mail order bride back from Phillipines. Married 7 yrs (+-) They have a 5yo. boy. He helped her become citizen. She now wants divorce (duh!). His heart is broken. Divorce atty? Sure. But is there anything else he can do? INS fraud, etc?

2007-07-12 17:23:44 · 10 answers · asked by Salty Dog 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-12 17:22:30 · 7 answers · asked by just julie 6 in Marriage & Divorce

i tink my girl of 3 years does cocaine and has been lying to me. i think she does it every so often. i have never said it to her cause she will deny it. there is a big party comin up soon she really wants to go to. i think she will sniff a little coke there. a blood sample will tell me if she has coke in her system as long as it is within 48hrs. if i get a small sample of blood from her in another way will that be just as informative. serious answers only please!!!!!!

2007-07-12 17:20:20 · 2 answers · asked by garyp8178 2 in Singles & Dating

Is it true that guys like to take womens virginity's like if they know a young woman is a virgin is there some kind of sexual attraction to be their first?

2007-07-12 17:20:09 · 4 answers · asked by ImKindaAwesomeAtBingo 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-12 17:19:26 · 8 answers · asked by psychiclife59 1 in Family

I have been with my boyfriend for 18 years and we have one daughter; 16 years old. He wanted to get married and I didn't because he is very jealous and would feel as if he owned me. I have been through hell and back several times with him; cheating, partying, drinking, and never home. I forgave him every time. And now the last two years he has been good. The problem is I'm no longer 'in love' with him. I haven't been for the last three years. I think I have been staying for our daughter. I have never cheated on him. I work nights and I'm always being accused of cheating on him. I'm worn down. I don't want to hurt anyone. Every time I get up the nerve he makes me feel bad and guilty; because of my daughter. I need personal advice, not professional.

2007-07-12 17:17:03 · 12 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Should I just come out and say it? Any suggestions?

2007-07-12 17:16:09 · 20 answers · asked by Catherine 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Here is the deal:

My ex girlfriend kind of hurt me and I broke up. Well I want to get back together and she said that she might she just needs time I love her so much. She is the best but hurts me sometimes (emotionally)

Well i have the chance to go out with an old crush tomorrow. I know that i might start to like her. But i dont want to hurt my ex and i am still not over her....

What do you think is best?

2007-07-12 17:14:33 · 12 answers · asked by Chris 5 in Singles & Dating

List as many as you can think of. Thanks.

2007-07-12 17:13:18 · 10 answers · asked by ♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

im 17 and 18 in a 4 months and i really want to move out but my mother wont let me... what should I do??? i really want to move out... im sick of her taking my money. if i move out i will be paying cheaper rent then i am paying now. Help Please.

2007-07-12 17:13:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

im not sure if this girl i lik is playing hard to get or if shes just not interested. how will i kno what shes doing? if shes playn hard 2 get its pissin me off cuz i really lik her and im getting tired of tryin 2 figure out what to do and i dont want 2 look lik an idiot askin her out if she dosnt lik me but i dont wanna look lik an as* and just leave her alone after trying to flirt with her especially if she is just playn hard 2 get..it seems lik shes not interested sum and others shes cool

2007-07-12 17:10:10 · 6 answers · asked by imsmartkid 6 in Singles & Dating

I was wondering how far is going too far before I am ceating on my girlfriend???

2007-07-12 17:09:27 · 2 answers · asked by kingsmafia 1 in Singles & Dating

ok so I have this boy who happens to be my ex-boyfriend and my first everything. When we broke up we stopped talking, in this time I had a new boyfriend for about a year, and everytime he saw me with my boyfriend he used to stare and kinda look sad! When me and my boyfriend broke up I messaged him again, he saw each other alot, and eventually ended up sleeping together, in conversation one day it came up that my old boyfriend lived with me, and he backed away from me since that point, I then had a boy hanging off me, we were together all the time, which made him back off more, I ended up writing him a message and saying that where just friends and other stuff, he didnt write back for about 1 month, then he messaged me his new number, and we have been talking for about 2 months now really good, and its his birhtday soon so i asked if he wanted to go to the zoo then stay in a hotel which he agreed to,

2007-07-12 17:08:39 · 3 answers · asked by xXxLeIsHaxXx 1 in Singles & Dating

My friends got married with no license. They had a "ceremony" in the house by a "real" preacher who says he has the authority to marry "under God". Are they really married? Our state no longer recognizes common law.

They say they didn't want a license because they will get more retirement money this way. They are active in our local church and professing Christians.

2007-07-12 17:05:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hey there vastness; Ok, my question. I work in a very professional office and company. I have recently started a sexual relationship with a coworker that I am certain is not leading to a relationship. My goal, as a woman, is to continue this relationship without the man becoming attached. In my experience, men have become attached more regularly than I have with them. I am very committed to my profession and do not want to let these types of relationships affect my job, however, in this circumstance, I have seen very mixed signals, sometimes it seems we are on the same page, and other times he seems unnaturally attached, I do not regularly have a 'booty call' type person, but at this time in my life, it is most advantageous, so my question is, what are the signs that I should be looking for to know that it is going beyond just a sexual realtionship for him? He occassionally sleeps over, I have never been to his house, we are work friends, but no one knows about our relationship....???

2007-07-12 16:59:14 · 8 answers · asked by sw 1 in Singles & Dating

I always hear females talkin bout I hope he talks to me, or " he is sooooo!!!! cute!" But they always wait on the man to talk to them. As a woman, why won't you approach a man? And don't give me that the man is supose to ask the woman stuff ethier.

2007-07-12 16:58:10 · 8 answers · asked by Line Straddler 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-12 16:55:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-12 16:54:53 · 5 answers · asked by me0535 1 in Singles & Dating

something is telling me not to post this question,
because i will most likely get the all too common
"your too young to worry about it" speech.
so if for any reason your thinking of giving it. please dont. lol.
Alright well i hve known this one boy (brian) for over 10 years. We really had something great, since we were young even. it was kinda like we "fell in love" at first sight. Well, his brothers (adam) is kind of a @as. lol. and lied to brian, told him alot of things i "supposedly said" that were not true. And now brian wont even talk to me, or write back. I've stopped trying. but i dont just want to lose him, even if it means just being friends. what should i do?? Thanks in advance to everyone who helps =]]

2007-07-12 16:50:13 · 17 answers · asked by liveitup 2 in Singles & Dating

What did you say back...or did you say anything at all?

2007-07-12 16:49:10 · 25 answers · asked by kishoti 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-12 16:47:40 · 5 answers · asked by el ruso 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 42, in good physical condition, take good care of her and the children financially. She does not speak badly to me or treat me badly, other than I am only spoken to when there is a money need. P.S., she will not allow me to touch her in any way for 7 or 8 years....she just pulls away even in bed???? I just need her to recognize my existence I am near exasperated and ready to search for someone, anyone....not so much for physical activity but just to say "hi, how was your day" But I cannot leave my children, they need daddy.

2007-07-12 16:45:31 · 25 answers · asked by kiny 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay if you had a girlfriend that was too young for you and you also had crushes on TONS of other girls, AND you wanna be faithful to your really young girlfriend, but one girl you thought was cutest/hottest kissed you, what would you do??

2007-07-12 16:44:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I tend to see good-looking girls date guys with no looks and NO PERSONALITY, INTELLIGENCE, etc.

They're generally jerks, too. I guess what I'm saying is that guys, all types, ALWAYS have options, whereas girls are judged primarily on their looks (again, primarily, not absolutely). I just mean, I've rarely-to-never seen a really good-looking guy with an average girl (who's qualities are rooted in her personality, not just looks).

Is there a scientific reason behind the FACT (don't argue here, you know it's true) that guys are more visual, often thus more commonly labeled "superficial," than girls WHEN *INITIALLY* deciding which girl to approach and get better acquainted with.

2007-07-12 16:38:31 · 20 answers · asked by abby j 5 in Singles & Dating

Dose any body know ?. My sons girlfriend of 12 yrs, of which he has lived with,for 12 years, and has 2 kids with, says she is leaveing state and takeing the kids. She is unstable, and has 2 drunk driveing, and is toatly "wacked out". He is byfar the better one for the kids, a great job and together as a man and a great dad.
Can she just up and leave Wisconsin ?. She dont have a valid d.l.. Is there ANYTHING we can do to stop her from takeing the kids ??.
Please help !!. He dont have thousands of $$$$$, right at this point.

2007-07-12 16:36:22 · 6 answers · asked by kmantgab 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If your parents say you're grounded to the house, and your 18, legally they can't force you to stay in their house. Am I correct?

2007-07-12 16:33:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We just gained custody of my husband child this year. This is the first year that she has had to go visit with her mother. The judge ordered a permanent injuction preventing her from taking off with her and coming between communication.

She had to go with her mother for vacation this year and we had gotten a cellphone for her. Her Mother took it and we have no way of reaching her for 2 weeks so far. We have tried calling directly to the house but they have caller ID and I always seem to get voicemail. His daughter called from the grandmothers today while her mom wasnt there asking if we had been trying to call because she hasnt heard anything from us in awhile and to tell us her mom took her phone.

I am not sure what we can do but any help would be GREATLY APPRECIATED!

2007-07-12 16:28:22 · 15 answers · asked by the blue bonnet 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We have gone from newlyweds to fighting often in 9 months. Despite the fact that I have not changed, he has started drinking heavily, turned meaner, acts moody, and says awful things to me often.
Tonite he was warm and happy to see me. Said I was so sexy. I said....after an hour of charming me...if I am so sexy why do you say mean things to me like I am old and fat two days ago. He says shut up and then says ....so maybe you are never sexy and walks away. He doesn't explain himself, acts unpredictable, and basically vacillates between loving me and later saying he hates that he married me....what the hell is wrong. WHY....what is the deal? Does he want to split and doesn't have the guts? Please let me know your thoughts and experiences.

2007-07-12 16:25:40 · 13 answers · asked by kishoti 5 in Marriage & Divorce