What is the meanest thing that someone you love ever said to you?

Question

What did you say back...or did you say anything at all?

Answer 1

There are two things.

The first one was when my son became involved with a girl I knew was dangerous. I knew the moment I heard about her because of certain women I had seen… you know the type. They play games with men, pitting one against the other for her affection, threatening suicide when her man tries to leave… She showed me her scars the first time we met, and I thought, “Oh Dear God! What have he gotten in to?”

I won't go into all the ugliness that happened, but when things were at their very worst and I was extremely worried and frightened for my son, my sister said, “You know, men choose women like their mothers,” which burned like fire. I wondered if I was really the reason my son choose that woman. Was there truth to her words? I knew that the saying was true… but always? Was I like that? Did I do something to make him choose such a wicked woman? Even now, those words bring such thoughts.

The other time was when I had lost my job because my health, physical and emotional, had gotten so bad. I just couldn't work and felt like an absolute failure. I couldn't make the house payment, for my income was so slim. It didn't cover much. I was afraid to tell my sister because her punishments had gotten so harsh. When I finally did, she told me what a disappointment I was, how I had let her down again, that she could NEVER count on me… I cannot recall all she said, but it was very severe! I didn't know that you could really feel yourself shrink, or that you could feel so small, but you can. My sight became tunnel vision; Distorted. I felt so tiny and worthless.

Only later did I think, “What about when things were reversed, when I was making all that money and you didn't have enough? What about the car I gave you? All the money I supplied? All the trips I took you and your kids on? All the things I bought you and your kids? And the house I bought? How come things are different when I am in need?... I let YOU down?” I realized that when I couldn't give anymore, I was useless to her.

You ask what I said back… nothing. I just knew that could NOT win. I used to wonder why I got so confused when we fought. It was because we fought on different terms. I thought we were being honest and that our fights were about solving things. WRONG! They were about being right (the power struggle. As far as honesty, she would say ANYTHING to win, even distort the truth. She often said that I had said and done things I couldn't remember. She would just say that I had forgotten. She did that often, because people believed her, so it worked. I realized she was lying when I KNEW I had not done what she said I had. I was fighting with her, telling her I didn't do it. My daughter couldn't stand it anymore because she had been there and knew that too. She shouted, “She did not!” My sister really came down on her. Even together, we didn't know how to fight her… we couldn't win. She knew too many ways to disable us with harsh, cruel words that cut the soul.

Trust me, raising kids with someone abusive is excruciating. They can be used as weapons to hurt you! I thought that since most of the punishments were aimed at me, that the kids weren't as affected. You see, I often took the blame when the kids did do something to save them from severe punishments. I thought I could carry the pain and spare the kids’ suffering. But I was so wrong! When I caught my daughter cutting herself and realized her daughter had done the same many years before, I knew the kids were being hurt deeply! I also knew I had to get them away from there. I may never have left for myself… but for my precious kids, definitely!

Answer 2

Earlier this evening, I was talking to my dad about his choice in women, and I mentioned that perhaps he's a little too wrapped up in physical appearances, and as a result might pass up a really great woman. I said "if I were to date right now, I'd probably get passed up" and he said "yep, you would" (I just had a baby - still working on getting my body back).

I know it's not as bad as what some others have said, but it really hurt.

Answer 3

That I couldn't carry on an educated conversation with him.

At the age of 20, it was hard to come up with a comeback. But, at 25, and 2 successful years of my career under my belt, seeing him and sharing that was the best revenge at all...especially since he was still living at home and was no where near finished with school.

Answer 4

When my first child died in my womb at 4 1/2 months gestation.. my mother came to comfort me with the words.. well, you're better off anyway. I just continued sobbing.

Answer 5

'Your really not much of a man, you break promises, and don't have any personality. Your a fake. Who cares what you think, fidelity is not loyality'. the nadir of a three day alcohol tirade. Response five hours later. a mild dash of cat of nine tales. Moved out.

Answer 6

my ex boyfriend told me he never loved me and that he misses his ex.

he also posted all over myspace that I was a bipolar *****, it may be true, but it still hurts and I'm not willing to be friends with him anymore, ever.

we had a bulletin war after that and I just told everyone what I felt was the reason he asked me out in the first place and it insulted him bad.

Answer 7

We could be here all night. My first husband when i was pregnant with our first kid wanted me to go get him some ciggerets he left was gone for ever came in and wanted his smokes. I told him you were just out he told me to get out of his face that I was doing nothing but taking up space. My 2nd husband was abusive so trust me I heard more than i needed. He told me I was fake I wasnt a good mother wife and the sorriest woman he ever met. But I worked and kept his butt up for 8 years. (he didnt work or anything else) He told me I was ugly and no one would ever want me. It went on and on and always got worse. Thats short and sweet.

Answer 8

Ive been with my boyfriend for three years and we have a 19 month old daughter. There is a woman at his work who I said looked like an old hag because I didnt like her, and he told me that she looked good for having three kids. Plus Ive been called every bad name in the book.

Answer 9

An ex once called me a sand n!gger *****. My family has a Lebanese background. I thought that was an all time low even for his worthless @ss.

Answer 10

" I'm sorry, I didn't mean for it to happen, I only thought of you and the kids and all the shame and guilt right when he came in my mouth. But at least I didn't kiss you untill I brushed my teeth twice, right?"

what do you say to that?