ADVICE? i JUST GOT A CALL FROM MY BOYFRIEND AND HE SAID HE WANTED TO BREAK UP? I FEEL LIKE I DID SOMETHING!?

Question

I dont know what I did but my boyfriend just called and said he wanted to break up. What do I do? My whole world came crumbling down. I dont feel like eating. I dont feel like sleeping. I feel so alone. I need ADVICE NOW!

I dont know why he broke up with me. He didnt say anything. He said it would just be best if we werent together anymore.

I feel like crap without him!

No one could replace him.

Answer 1

You did nothing. He has decided to end the relationship because he has changed his mind. I know this hurts like hell, but try to think of it in this way: He has done you a favor. Would you want someone to be with you and they wish they were with someone else? Would you want to be with someone who doesn't love and cherish you? Would you want to be with someone who CALLS you on the phone to break your heart, instead of having the balls to speak with you in person? I bet the answer is no to all of the above. You will hurt for some time--be gentle with yourself. Be your own best friend and surround yourself with supportive, loving friends and family. Prayer works wonders, too.

Tell you what I did in your situation:

I bought a tall, white, votive candle with a guardian angel on it and burned it 24/7 for the first week night and day. It was to remind me that my angel was still watching over me.

I made myself eat something at lunch each day. I was not hungry, but I knew that I would be sick if I didn't eat.

I had a hard time sleeping, so I took two Benadryl 30 mins before bedtime and let the T.V. keep me company.

I did NOT listen to love songs or watch chick flicks until I felt better.

I started getting my nails and toes done regularly, to get some pampering.

I got a new hairstyle and new outfits. I still hurt inside, but I looked great outside. I did see my ex again, when he walked up to me to ask me back, I told him no. Later I heard he was miserable without me and wasn't happy with the new girl he was with. I felt great I told him to f*** off.

You will be better than fine. ~Best

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel. Mine did that to me a few months ago and when I thought everything was great with us. In my case he was feeling so guilty about cheating on me rather then tell me he broke up with me. I say give himsome space but at the same time dont drown yourself in sorrow live your life because life does go on.Once you are strong do some diggin and find you the real reason bacause youll need closure. If its something hes willing to work out or your willing to work on then go ahead and do it but please neve fall into the field of regret and feeling sorry for yourself because that will lead you nowhere. Just repeat to yourself you are strong and you will get through this. Dont let any man ever decide your worth ormake you feel or think less of yourself. For every guy that rejects or dumps you there are 10 more that would love you and appreciate you even better. Remember its not the endof the world. Imnot saying either not to cry and not to get ma just do what you have to do to be strong again.

Answer 3

When my bf and i were having troubles with our relationship, he called me up when i was at work and he told me that he wanted a break up. I got so angry i told him that if he wants a break up he has to give me a reason and tell it to me straight in the face that he doesn't want to be with me.

Right now you're probably in depression. You have to take care of your health.. You should call him and tell him to meet up with you. I believe that you deserve an explanation. If he cannot give you one, just console yourself by thinking that he's a jerk and that he is the cause of this whole break up.

He's probably not the one for you. don't give up hope on love, there are definitely others better than he is and when you find that person you'd be thankful that things happened the way it did. It's part and parcel of life... It's an ugly yet beautiful thing...

As time goes by things will get better... don't worry too much... In the end when i spoke to my bf, we broke it off, but at least i knew that he has problems to settle.. After he settled them we got back together because i told him that we have to face it together if we are truly a couple.

I want you to know that many have been in your position and that you are not alone.. no matter what you go through never give up. Remember "what doesn't break you makes you stronger..".. It did make me stronger..

Answer 4

ask him why he wants to break up. iff u didnt do any thing wrong then he did find somehting to occupy ur time that does not remind u of him go out with some friends and not talk about it act as if the whole deal never happen it will make u feel a bit better invest in an new guy or anything that will take up ur time not eating will only make u sick and thats not too good

Answer 5

now look at the response most ppl giving u,, seems pretty much the same right,,,, now here is what i would do,, i would just leave it at that n not call him n act normal,,,,,, n when i c him again talk as if everything is ok,, then u guys go have lunch n u jsut say
"by the way y did u break up with me" n then u would get your answer,, the whole approach of it will have him thinkin n missing u n he wil be thinking u r so different ffrom the normal girls n he must have u back,,,,,'

thats what i always do n all my ex-gf want me back n we have some form of relationship,,,so give it a try if u feel like,,, or behave liek every one else,,,,

either way good luck,, n forget about the jerk (he is a jerk to break upp n not give u a reason n to hurt u like that,,)

Answer 6

1st off, hes a jerk, and obviously not a real man since he cant even break up with you in person.

2nd, eat! Hes not worth it, sure right now you are feeling bad and feel like there is no one else for you in this world.... but face it, there are 6.5+ billion people in world, don't let this 1 piece of **** get to you..... i had this happen to me a couple years back, it happened while i was at work, he called and said the same old BS,... "i think we should see other people" i started crying like crazy, but you know what 2 boyfriends later is said "im so glad i broke up with that loser". i have the best boyfriend ever!!!

3rd wake up tomorrow and don't even care about what he thinks, you are worth so much more.

4th.... its gonna hurt to forget him but, would you rather waste your time being unhappy with someone, or do you want to find someone who is going to appreciate every single thing that you do?

Good luck!
-g

Answer 7

Take a deep breath. Go to the store and buy some Death By Chocolate ice cream. Call all your girl friends and invite them over. If you're over 21 drive to the liquor store and pick up some vodka.
Once your friends are over Eat the Ice cream Drink the vodka and try and think of everything thats ever bothered you about your boy. Encourage your friends to do the same. Voice them.
Cry as needed.
I know getting dumped sucks but remember one thing. . .Any kind of man wouldn't have done it over the phone.
Prep for some exciting rebound action

Answer 8

If you guys have been going along fine and this just came out of the blue, it's possible he's found someone else or maybe there's been something bothering him for a long time. if he didn't tell you why that was pretty crappy on his part, I'm sorry.

my advice? move on. he's a jerk and even if he asked to get back together things won't be the same, he'll be unpredictable. you may be sad because you've been imagining life with him but there will be someone else! trust me, there will be. he's an idiot., move on.

Answer 9

If he didn't give you a list of reasons for why he's breaking up with you, then it's just him. He's decided to move on for some reason. I'm sorry you got dumped like this. I know it hurts a lot right now, but it does get better. Live your life, and spend some time doing something you really enjoy.

Answer 10

Mabey ur better off without him if he cant give you enough respect to break up in person with a explanation than he might not b the best man for you anyways. It always hurts in the beginning but you will be ok