Does your spouse take methadone or smoke pot? How do you handle this? Does your spouse take any drugs?

Answer 1

My first husband was on drugs, it all started when he hurt himself while walking in the back of our home.His ankle bent so far over that you could see his bone sticking out from his skin. His ankle had to be operated on and that's when the drug use started.The doctor kept feeding him pill after pill.Grand it he was in a whole lot of pain so the pills were needed. After 6 months the doctor just stopped everything but by then it was to late he needed them. This doctor after feeding him two kinds of pills just stopped without a thought of him being addicted to the pills. He started buying anything he could get his hands on.I told him it had to stop but he had it in his mind that the doctor was responsible for his addiction and in a way he was right. I talked him into going to a clinic it was a methadone clinic.I knew he wasn't going to just stop using it was a little to late for that so i thought if he could get weaned off slowly at his own paste where he would be comfortable it would work. This clinic was good for him but along with it came all the lower class drug users you know the ones you see on TV all dirty and messed up. It's people like that,that give methadone clinics a bad name and that is a shame because they help a whole lot of people you don't see. He is still on the methadone but it's better then what he was like before the clinic. I'm sorry but i have nothing bad to say about methadone only good.We did get a divorce but not because him being in a clinic but by him finding a female friend that was also in the clinic with him. Seams they had more in common and to talk about then we had.It turned out for the best for both of us because I fount the love of my life we are married and had a little boy. My first is still in the clinic and doing good you would never know he was on methadone he could be your next door neighbor and you wouldn't even know it.

Answer 2

Find a new spouse.

In all seriousness, if this is something you're willing to condone, knock yourself out. If this is something you want him to stop, good luck. Rarely can another person make an individual want to stop. Your spouse will stop only if s/he wants to.

If s/he wants to stop and cannot and then comes to you for help, then you can assist in taking measures to help that person cut the habit. But if s/he has no desire to stop, perhaps you need to re-evaluate the situation as to what's more important - you or the drugs.

Answer 3

After we got married, I found "evidence" in one of the outbuildings.. we talked, he promised to stop.. couldn' t figure out what he did all day (disabled technically from seizures, but when not having seizures able bodied man..) while I was at work or where all our money went to.. I suspected, but didn't see and was willing to ignore it as long as it wasn't around for a while.. till it got to be about $1000 a month habit from my estimate of disappearing money... he promised he quit and was getting therapy during divorce.. went to drop off daughter for visitation, went in with supervisors to settle her in before leaving.. they all are sitting at the table and I can see "leaves" on the table.. I showed them.. now, he choses not to see his daughter because of the stuff. What can I do? Nothing.. just wonder if he knows what he's missing out on through the haze in his mind.

Answer 4

my spouse doesnt, but my brother does.. he takes suboxone, and is addicted to it, mean while taking zanax , loratabs, valium whatever he can get his hands on, and even has been popped twice for dui .. he has to go to court and we are hopeing that the judge will force him into rehab because its gotten way out of hand.. and my mother, who he drains by living with her (he's 25) financially and she ends up paying half of his bills because she thinks she's helping him, so he doesnt fall flat on his face.. in hopes he'll get clean, but he takes advantage of it so he pays for his pain killers with his money then expects her to pay all his bills for him saying he doesnt have any money, she's even paid his rent (he pays my step father 300. a month in rent) and she'll pay it to my step father pretending that its my brothers money just to keep him from being upset.. And it outrages the rest of our family because she cant see how her "ENABLING" him to be this way is not helping him but hurting him.. and instead of doing tuff love she's depending on the judge to do it for her..

Its a very hard situation, but she made the first mistake by tolerating his actions .. U have to sometimes let people go even when u love them, in hopes that once they hit that brick wall they'll realize how much they had and lost to hope they will clean up.. but even then that doesnt always help, but he's a grown man, and he has to make his own choices and as much as it hurts to watch someone u love destroy their lives eventually u have to ask yourself how much can u drowned with someone that is on a self destructive path? An addicted will do and say anything they need to get what they want and need.. and they will switch personalities in a heartbeat if they dont get what they want.. is that your problem? or theirs? ... Theirs.. so they have to be willing to fix it, and untill they "REALLY ARE" and not just talking the talk, no one can help an addict until they are ready to be helped..

Sometimes u have to just let go and say, call me when u prove that ur clean.. and walk away..

Answer 5

My husband will take allergy meds in the spring and fall. I do not condone nor tolerate the use of illegal narcotics.

Answer 6

Nope, I didn't marry a 7th grader.

Answer 7

no. why?