Here is the deal and can you help?

Question

Here is the deal:

My ex girlfriend kind of hurt me and I broke up. Well I want to get back together and she said that she might she just needs time I love her so much. She is the best but hurts me sometimes (emotionally)

Well i have the chance to go out with an old crush tomorrow. I know that i might start to like her. But i dont want to hurt my ex and i am still not over her....

What do you think is best?

Answer 1

Chris,
It is best for you to not engage into gf/bf relationships, to begin with. Like I said in one of my previous answers to another of your questions, there is always a good reason why you are facing the problems you are in, right now. The problem is: this type of relationship is forbidden by God, for the only relationship God intended between a Man and Woman, is Marriage.

My advice to you is to just be a true friend to her (to ALL girls), ei no serious attachments like being gf/bf, and that means no sex, no affection, no giving away your heart (feelings) just, yet ..OR you will pay. If you do, you WILL get hurt, you WILL be burned, and you WILL suffer, emotionally (heartbroken), physically (ei, getting STDs, etc), OR financially (ei, getting her pregnant, and having the burden to now take care of a child for the rest of your life).

Believe me, and trust me . .I been there and done it. Its not worth it, Chis.

Only be a true friend to her, and be casual about everything . .like friends do. Don't get too personal with her. Don't give your mind, body and soul away, until after you marry. Then, give it all to the woman you love, your wife.

And, I know . .its very, very hard to do, especially for young guys (teens), because of temptation of loving a pretty girl. But, your soul is worth more than anything in this world, even girls/women. You need to protect it, and save it, for the one you love, and wants to love you back, by saying "Yes, I do."

Someone who cares,
Angela

And, always remember . .LOVE does not hurt. People only hurt, when "evil" is present.

And, if you believe your ex-gf is the one you want to love, be friends with her for now, and both of you wait, until you two are ready for marriage. Tell her, you'll wait for her, until you are ready (financially) to support a family.

You need to start focusing on setting your future goals such as graduating from HS, get a college ed, and get a good career, that'll support a family, financially. That's what you really need to focus on doing, right now. That is the best (right) thing to do.

Answer 2

The best thing you can do for yourself is go out with your old crush because it's about having fun together not hurting each other. You been hurt before by this girl so why in the hell would you even want to get back with her. Make me understand this.

Answer 3

this may not be what u wanna hear
but have u had enough time to heal?
You are not in a relationship right
now so u don't have to worry about
any other girl. worry about yourself
for now. have time to reflect and put
together the pieces that have been
broken. How can u do it?...by prayer.
Prayer has gotten me through so many
trials...if your relationship is not as good
with God that's okay. Get on your knees
anyways God is so full of love, mercy &
grace. he is the only person that u know
for sure will never break your heart he
can show u unconditional love.
Be blessed

c/o 08
ant*♥

Answer 4

I think she did it on purpose, if she says she needs time, even though she was the one to hurt you, that is a pretty good indication that she is no longer interested. Take the chance with the other girl, even though letting go hurts and will for a while. Don't waste time on someone who doesn't want you back. I am saying this from experience. Good luck!

Answer 5

I say wait it out to see what happens with your ex. But you have you weigh out the emotional damage and what exactly she's doing to you. No one deserves to have their emotions messed with, especially if it's by someone you love, cause that just makes it so much harder.

Going out with the crush might just add complication to your already mixed up feelings and if you ex found out might give her the wrong idea. Which if you want to get back with her might not be so good. And if you start to see someone and like that person even though you know you're still in love with someone else, you're setting yourself up for heartache.

Wait it out, but don't rule anything out.

Answer 6

You wrote yourself "She is the best but hurts me sometimes (emotionally)" You shouldn't be with her! She hurts you and Yes with love comes hurt... But with all the other post you have made she sounds like all she is tring to do is hurt you.

Have you had time to heal? It sounds quite soon to go out with another gal..Are you friends with this gal? If you are stay friends and if you are not just be a brother to her and if you want to date her later you can.

You also wrote you don't want to hurt you ex...But how much has she hurt you? It's your life not hers....

You should really pray about it...And I will be praying for you.

YSIC,
Meg

Answer 7

I would say that if you think you have a chance at your crush then go for it. The fact remains, you broke up with your girlfriend for a reason, if you get back together, that reason will re-surface. And say you pass this up, and then your ex doesn't wanna get with you, then you have no one.

Answer 8

Well you know what your doing, even you said it yourself"you might fall in love with her more" what if she hurts you again, I mean that's truly up to you but you should give it a try because you might regret it in the long run to so good luck:)

Answer 9

Go out with the oldflame it is not going to hurt you are broken up with your girlfriend and she seems like she doesnot care and she is stringing you along,since shes not with you she is making sure she pulls you along on a leash ,go have a good time.,theres nothing wrong to see if the feelings are still there,but dont go on the rebound,Like I said before be friends wait on God.

Answer 10

well like you said you aren't over her! some people it helps them to go out w/ someone else...but others need time to be alone...which one are you...you decide