Family & Relationships - 8 July 2007

some of my friends think i am a player, but i don't know why. so i want to know what other people think it means.

2007-07-08 22:19:44 · 9 answers · asked by Beebster 1 in Singles & Dating

How did you do it?

2007-07-08 22:19:17 · 14 answers · asked by Me 5 in Singles & Dating

This was really happened to me.I am in love with a girl she also loves me a lot.suddenly her parents married her with another guy.But she still loves me.But she is moving with him without any happiness and satisfaction.I cant bare this pain of losing her,i cant judge myself that she is not mine.I am unable to understand how she is living with him.She says that life is going on without satisfaction.How to overcome this situation and keep my self normal.

2007-07-08 22:16:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am trying to become a super hero right now. Actually I am trying to learn how to fly but that is besides the point. I am just afraid though that once I become a certified super hero I wont beable to find a girl to love me. Or if I do, then It would be unfair to love her because she could get hurt by my adversaries. Is it really worth me to become a super hero for my self satisfaction now even though it might mean me feeling empty in the future.

2007-07-08 22:08:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im 14 n theres this kid at school thats always following our group n trying 2 join in but we just dont like him, we tried telling him 2 go away n we tried ditching him but every time he just ends up crying, now ive got to go to councilling with him because he thinks im the 1 thats always bagging him but he hasnt figured out that no1 likes him

2007-07-08 22:01:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

This man is a good, loving person but, frequently goes into what I call his 'moon cycle' and then he starts missing his ex who were one common u know what. When I confront him, he's sorry about being horrible to me and does not want to lose me but I am getting tired of these moods. I love him to distraction and we have a brilliant home together but he has to change this one thing. Being loving, caring, etc etc does'nt help and fighting about it does'nt either! What can I try next because just getting up and go is quite impossible in this situation. I'll lose too much and living where I do, transport is a problem and almost impossible to get away even if I wanted to. Help I don't know what to do anymore.

2007-07-08 21:57:40 · 8 answers · asked by cozaar 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My mom treats me like I am nothing.She talks to me like Im her worst enemy.I can't take it I tried to leave but she threatens to call the police on me.Im only 17 what are somethings I can do to leave.What could I do to fight back.I know it sounds horrible,but sometimes my mother pushes me so far and taunts and bullies me so much that I just wanna crack her in the face.Everytime she screams at me I clintch my fist.Im a horrible son,I know.She makes that point everyday.

2007-07-08 21:57:06 · 9 answers · asked by Travis T 1 in Family

Before I get into this please do not judge me to harshly, I understand how this must sound but Id rather ask people I dont than those I do and knowingly live with their judgment.

M y H2B has a mentally challenged brother. I have nothing against his brother and the three of us go out on many occasions. We take him to the movies, zoo, local attractions. He often stays with us for weeks at a time but my H2B has decided he wants his brother to be his best men. I want him to be involved in the wedding as much as possible and have no reason to have any say who H2B chooses but for some reason I cant sit easy with him being a groomsman.

He has min. attention span and often just 'wanders off' and has his certain way as most people with his condition do. I cant help but stress during the ceremony he will do something or not co-operate with pics etc and I know I am being abit of a princess over it but I just dont know how to discuss this with any1.

Any ideas?

2007-07-08 21:56:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I am back in touch with my ex girlfriend. We split 5 mths ago when she ended things. She did it on the basis that "her feelings had changed". The end came pretty quickly, only 1 mth before she was talking about us moving in together.

A lot of other stuff was going on for her at the time. She was suffering from depression. I tried to say to her she shouldn't be making such a big decision when she was depressed but she was adamant she was fine. She has a history of depression since a teenager, long before I came along.

We both saw other people briefly. We are both now single.

We met up 3 times in 2 wks. She then went away on holiday for 2 wks. We are now meeting again.

We haven't talked about out relationship yet.

She told me her Dr said she doesn't need to take her anti-depresants anymore. She was prescribed these at the time we split, so the view that I take is that for her to have been on them for over 4 mths means she needed them!

Is it time for me to mention us??

2007-07-08 21:52:48 · 10 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Singles & Dating

i really need advice pls only sensible answers anyway here we go i have been with my boyfriend nearly 8 yrs together we have 3 kids and im desperate to get married he wont commit to this i tried to talk to him about it but he just says he dont want to but he knows how important this is to me im thinking of leaving him due to this what shall i do am i been selfish help plsssss

2007-07-08 21:52:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Just over 5 years ago me and my friend decided at the last minute to go out to a club. Somewhere someone else was sitting with his friends and made the same decision. We met that night and now we are married with a lovely son and our own home. We can't imagine life without each other (yes pass the sick bucket I know).

But what if one of us hadn't went out that night? What if one of us had went somewhere else instead? What if I hadn't bothered dancing? What if I had went to a different school and the friends there weren't into going out?

I just find it scary that such a life changing moment hangs on a sereis of little decisions.

2007-07-08 21:51:00 · 23 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 4 in Marriage & Divorce

When we first met I fell head over heals inlove with him and imagined us getting married but he was not keen on the idea because his marriage before went really bad. I have been messed around by him over the marriage thing, we did get engaged but after two years and no ring or mention of marriage I found out that he wasnt accually sure. He did propose to me after that but made it clear that marriage would mean nothing to him and he thought he had to do it so that I would live with him which was not true. Last year he said he wanted to buy my house for me as a gift but now he is saying that he feels he has to buy my house or I wont live with him, again not true. I completely went off the idea of marriage and now the same thing is begining to happen about him buying my house. I am afraid to build my hopes up because he seems as unexcited about this as he did about us getting engaged, infact he seems to feel under pressure again. I wish I had more words to work with! your thoughts please?

2007-07-08 21:38:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hey guys~
me and my gf has been going out for almost a month now, i love her to bits, i think bout her all the time, im 17 and she is 16 by the way, we once said we will move to eurpe and get married, she even named our daughters and sons! im a guy that hardly cry but when i think bout she leaving me, tears starts to leek out....sometime her attiude changes, sometime she is lovely, but sometime act as im her friend, i dont want this to change, i know you guys will say im young and all, but seriously i cant see myself meeting another girl like her, we gave each other our first kiss, she changed me because once i was a very friget guy, oh god i love her to bits honestly, once i was on the phone with her, i pretend that she is someone else, i jokingly said i dnt want you no more to that someone instead of my gf's name,,,and i made her cry,, so also she once said to me that "i hope we can be together forever" and that bought tears to my eyes]
so you guys do you think she really love me?

2007-07-08 21:33:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

should a girl aproach a guy first?
and if a guys is aproach by a girl do they find that slezzy our kool?

2007-07-08 21:29:38 · 10 answers · asked by ~rosa_pastel_87~ p 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a major crisis...
I'm a 12 year old girl and I have a HUGE crush on my 13 year old cousin. He's my mom's brother's son and he's SO my type (shy, cute, funny, nice)
I know it's not a good thing and i think about it day and night. Is it possible to have a relationship with your cousin?

2007-07-08 21:26:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i like this girl and realy want to go out with her but im scared to ask her out because i dnt want to be rejected. also she used to go out with my mate and they broke up and he hates her now. what should i do

2007-07-08 21:21:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Please help me! My in-laws are staying with us for a while and my mother-in-law completely disrespects me and undermines my rules of the house! She allows her own children (the same age as ours) to disobey my rules and I'm tired of picking up after them. They are rude and I feel like I'm trapped in my own home. My husband says I'm petty, but I shouldn't have to change just because they're here. I have rules for a reason and they should follow them and respect me, but they dont! What should I do? I'm depressed and having panic attacks everyday from the stress. I'm about to give up and just sit in my room while they take over my house. I want them to leave, but I'm also not rude as to just throw them out with no place to go. I can't take it anymore. Please someone help....

2007-07-08 21:04:56 · 9 answers · asked by leafmistress 1 in Family

the computer?

2007-07-08 21:01:58 · 15 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-08 20:55:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

About 4-6 Months Ago I Found Out That My Parents Still Have
Sex. At The Time I Found Out I Was In Awe So I Flipped Out. Now Months Later I Want To Tell My Mom That I Understand That It Is Completly Normal And Natural For Married Couples To Have Sex For Pleasure...Not For Kids. I Want To Tell Her In A Way As If I Was A Friend...Not Her Daughter.
Any Help Or Opinions Would Help!
Thank You!

2007-07-08 20:46:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Help my mom doesn't know I'm dating and I don't ho wto tell her!!!!!Help!!I really like this guy but I am really close to my mom and tell her a lot of stuff!!!!!!!HHHEEELLLPPP!!!!!

2007-07-08 20:37:25 · 8 answers · asked by gurl4life 1 in Singles & Dating

Luckily I have siblings. I don't believe that ailing parents are my responsibility. It wasn't me who chose to have them like they chose to have me. I really hate that idea that I should give back to them because they gave me life and raised me, oh please, that was their choice and responsibility. I had no say in that one and if I did, guess what I'd choose. I'd go back and get my mother to abort me.

I'm asking because I was talking about this with my husband and he may one day agree to take care of his aging parents. I don't understand the drive is it a guilt thing or what because he agree with me, if he could go back, he'd ask his mother to abort him too!

And don't tell me to commit suicide, I've got life, now I'm stuck with it for what little it is worth. Even in moments of joy and love, that is my burden.

2007-07-08 20:34:29 · 24 answers · asked by qwertatious 4 in Family

I know I should move on. But its tough. I love the girl in some way. Long story short, she is bulimic, depressed and the works. She broke up with me (dissappeared). Dated someone right afterwards, broke up with him. She contacted me last week wanted to go have lunch, I agreed after a week, she said she was working and she would let me know. Never let me knew. Friday night I get like ten calls from her, she hangs up each time, then sends me text saying "I'm drunk and need you" all I said was "you ok?". Never heard from her. Next day I texted saying "you alright" "Can't help you if you call and hang up on me" She said "haha sorry about that". Haven't heard from her since. My question; If this girl truly wanted to be with me again, would she make more of an effort? Would she not want to see me at all costs? What should I do? Keep the No Contact till she contacts me again. What would be the best way to show her I want her back if she has changed and only if she is healthy?

2007-07-08 20:28:38 · 14 answers · asked by D 1 in Singles & Dating

I was just wondering why good looking chicks cost more money?? Everytime I go out with a good looking chick my expenses go up ? Hotter the chick , the higher the expenses - why is that ?? ( PS: I do not mind paying more money for hotter chicks but I was just wondering if other guys experience the same scenario)

2007-07-08 20:27:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I have set our wedding date as June 7, 2008. When we were making our guest list, I chose to leave my grandfather out. I have never had a good relationship with him, and most of his views I do not agree with and he makes a point to argue with me about them every time we talk. He's hinted to me (and actually told my mother) that he does not support me marrying my fiance. My mom called me a few days ago and told me that he called her and is very upset that he didn't get an invitation. I calmly explained to her the reasons for me not inviting him, and she's angry. She told me that if I don't send him an invitation ASAP, she, along with my father (who is supposed to walk me down the aisle) and my 15 year old brother, will not be attending my wedding. Should I give in and invite him to avoid drama, or should I judt ignore it and not have my immediate family attend my wedding, even though I'd really like them to?

2007-07-08 20:17:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We live with his mom, she is a controling person. They made me have a job that I do not like at all. After that, I found a job that suits me and has double salary, but 100km away. But they always find some reasons to argue. After some argues, he beated me in presence of his mother and sister (who is a lawyer), they were trying to take my son from my hands. After calling the police, he is mad at me, he goes out every night, while I'm home with my son. He only points what bad things I've done to his family, yet they are wealthy and he's 37, I'm 27(10 together). I am only a girl th at finished a faculty and wants good job. I don't want to depend on his mother. I feel very bad in his house, I would rather leave, they tell me to leave, but I feel sorry that I would deprive my son of his father and wealth. My husband doesn't have anything on his own, but will inherit many things that I will not be able to afford for a long time. I tried to convince him to move out from there, but he wouldn't

2007-07-08 20:14:46 · 14 answers · asked by Jeanny 1 in Marriage & Divorce

still go out as friends." How would you react to this?

2007-07-08 20:12:48 · 11 answers · asked by Peter 4 in Singles & Dating

Ok so my parents used to be together. Now they’re about to get divorced. They can't stand each other. So they don't live together. My mom, my brother, and I live together. So my dad comes over occasionally and we go places. My mom gets annoyed.. And my dad is a truck driver. My mom will have a drink every so often. and sometimes if she's really pissed then she'll start drinking and get really drunk.

So like I said my dad is a truck driver. So I went one of the trips with my dad. We went to Texas. And it was a lot of fun. My mom stayed home. When we came back, instead of driving me back to my house my dad drove me to his house. Which I've never been to before. He lives with the woman who he lived with when he came to the U.S My family is Polish, we used to live in Poland. My mom and I didn't know about this. Neither did my brother. So when I went to his house she was there. And I didn't say anything. I mean I was a couple miles away from home and I didn't have a cell phone. What if I got kicked out for saying something stupid. So I just stayed quiet. When I got home I didn’t tell my mom. I mean if I told her she would get depressed. The woman supposably stole my dad from us. But technically if my dad cared he would have stayed with us. So I’m just angry with my dad.

Now one day my mom was drunk, I hated when she was drunk. I couldn’t stand it. I mean she acted stupid and she kicked the doors and it was a mess. I cried sometimes and it was horrible now its not that bad. I got a phone call asking if I want to go to my dads house so I look at my mom and I just wanted to give her revenge. I mean I looked at her, she was drunk. How could she be drunk?? I just went for the heck of it. But then I got home. She wasn’t drunk anymore. I felt awful about it. But then I went over there regularly. Like it was o big deal. Now its all starting to bug me.

Now this is what’s bothering me. I’m hurting my mom. If I told her I’d hurt her more…..

2007-07-08 20:04:54 · 14 answers · asked by HEARTLESS 3 in Family

I was left in tears and depression tonight. My son has been spending a lot of time with his birth father and he is acting more and more like him. Very critical, hostile accusing me of living in the past when I clearly don't. I believe my ex does and has put this in my son's head. I listened to a one way conversation really a lecture in politics from my son. He got faster and more wound up. just before he left I gave some advice about his boss my husband left that boss recently. He said I didn't trust his intelligence I live in the past I can't believe I lived in the same house with you etc. I said yes I trust your intelligence I'm sorry if you take it that way no one is perfect and I feel the boss is sneaky. He said he knows about business I know nothing. I said I think your attitude is because you're around your father so much. He said I knew that was coming. He left mad no kiss hug nothing. I was crying my husband came hugged me and he heard it all and said he was disgusted with him.

2007-07-08 20:04:53 · 9 answers · asked by detour 4 in Family

My two sisters got into a big fight. The older one is 20 while the other one is 15. The 15 year old asked the 20 year old to help her with the laundry because she doesn't know how. The 20 year old got really pissy but was willing to help her. While they were in the laundry room, me and my other little sister heard the 20 year old degrade and insult the 15 year old by calling her names such as "stupid, dumbass, I hate you, you're soo dumb." While Me and my other little sister were outside of the laundry room, we told the 15 year old that we would help her because we felt sorry for her. Right when the 20 year old heard our offer, she slapped/punched the 15 year old in the face. Then they got into a big physical fight. I tried to break the fight up but it was too vicious. As a result, the 20 year old left with several minor scratches on her face, two BIG scratches on her neck/chest area, a bite mark that was open-wounded. While the 15 year old got away with nothing.

2007-07-08 20:02:00 · 15 answers · asked by fabulous101 2 in Family