I am back in touch with my ex girlfriend. We split 5 mths ago when she ended things. She did it on the basis that "her feelings had changed". The end came pretty quickly, only 1 mth before she was talking about us moving in together.
A lot of other stuff was going on for her at the time. She was suffering from depression. I tried to say to her she shouldn't be making such a big decision when she was depressed but she was adamant she was fine. She has a history of depression since a teenager, long before I came along.
We both saw other people briefly. We are both now single.
We met up 3 times in 2 wks. She then went away on holiday for 2 wks. We are now meeting again.
We haven't talked about out relationship yet.
She told me her Dr said she doesn't need to take her anti-depresants anymore. She was prescribed these at the time we split, so the view that I take is that for her to have been on them for over 4 mths means she needed them!
Is it time for me to mention us??
2007-07-08 21:52:48 · 10 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Neither of us has raised our relationship. She mentioned that her Dr said she could come off the anti-depressants. At the time she went on them I said she needed to but she was adamant she was fine.
How and when should I raise us??
2007-07-08 21:53:48 · update #1
careful with depressed or bi polar chicks. I recommend a book called how to suceed with women to know what to look out for..lol.... thats a warning sign. beware
2007-07-08 21:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's an 'us' to raise then whenever you feel the moment is right. I take anti-depressants and they don't affect the way I live my life or how I deal with most situations, they just keep me on an even keel. Coming off of them can be quite traumatic I understand, so you should be prepared to deal with the lows as well as the highs, but make sure its what you want before you say anything. It could make life much worse for you both if you're not prepared for the situation.
2007-07-09 05:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whenever you like a woman and desire a relationship, you should let her know that, and let her decide if she wants the same thing from you. By telling her your intentions, you give her the ability to know what you want and whether or not she wants to accept that...Step up and take the initiative. Dont worry about the depression stuff, even if she needs the medication. People that suffer from depression can still be good partners. You just need to understand that she should always stay in touch with her doctors. In case she gets sick again.
2007-07-09 04:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by sensei ronald j.f. panlilio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem like a very caring lovely man. She is saying she is fine so maybe you could try and talk to her now, but do not be forceful, just bring it up slighlty and see what her response is. if she does not respond at all just back off wait for her to come to you she sounds like she will. but that is only if you are willing to wait and that brings up the question of how strong your feelings are for her? I would say the best thing for you to do is let her know that you are there for her, she will remember that is the long run. she is going throught a tough time and she will need you there to surrport her. good luck she is very lucky to have someone like you!!
2007-07-09 05:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have just finished with a woman who suffered with depression (didnt know she did until after a coupleof months). She was engaged to a guy before me and made his life hell then dumped him. Before that she had a violent husband. I went through hell in a very short time. You will go through hell reading from your posts. Get out while you can!
2007-07-09 05:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she in off the antidepressants and she really needs them, it is going to be a mess up relationship. I would wait a while and see she acts first. I just have a hard time believing that her doctor just took her off the antidepressants. They usually have to ween you off of them gradually.
2007-07-09 05:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She finished with you. She met someone else! She wasnt too depressed to start up with another guy!! Open your eyes she is using you and you are defending her all the way. You will ruin your life waiting for her. She is an attention seeker and you are blind to it all.
2007-07-10 05:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
My mum took those pills, she stopped, instead she spends time teaching now, she teache schildren, and socialises more.
Thats all she needs my friend!, also you need to spice, up and liven up your life. do exercise, sports, clubs , or weekend getaways, canoing etc.
my mum went through that depression tablet period for 6 years, untill it struck me what was really wrong, i hate the bloody doctors.
so take advice.
take care chuck
2007-07-09 04:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by jam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont. Dont mention 'us'. You have to tread carefully, just take things easy and see how it goes. Be sure she is fine and ready for a relationship, first.
2007-07-09 06:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kayjay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like her you will care her in full of life, are you not ready, don,t hurt her
2007-07-09 04:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋