Crush on cousin?

Question

I have a major crisis...
I'm a 12 year old girl and I have a HUGE crush on my 13 year old cousin. He's my mom's brother's son and he's SO my type (shy, cute, funny, nice)
I know it's not a good thing and i think about it day and night. Is it possible to have a relationship with your cousin?

Answer 1

NO! I'm going to tell you the same thing I told someone else with a similar question.

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Answer 2

Hm, probably not. People do have passing fazes of liking cousins, but they soon go away. People would frown upon your relationship and would be a hard thing to handle at the age of 12.
There will come along a 'shy, cute, funny and nice' boy for you one day, just gotta keep your eye out!

Answer 3

Do you think your parents would flip out if so you best stay away from him. They used to marry cousins to each other in the old days, because there wasn't anybody else around. Nowadays most people won't stand for it at all, so you best just forget about it, right now all it is, is a crush you would be better off not to let it go any further. If you ever had kids there could be serious complications with them.

Answer 4

i wouldnt encourage it. you are first degree cousins and that is still very closely related. i wont patronize you by saying youre only 12. i have been 12 myself before and that doesnt mean i cannot think. but there are many reasons why you should not go for your cousin. it will be somewhat incestious. that's yucky. your family will not approve of it and rightly so. im sure his family would feel the same. for all you know, you are simply looking for a brother or male friend and it is always cool to hang out with male friends. a lot of females tend to whine (w/c is why i used to prefer sharing house with males before). and remember, just because youre 12 doesnt mean this relationship couldnt blossom up to your late teens. you will miss out hanging out with other cool guys. and i know it is too early to be telling you this but if you get pregnant, there is a huge possibilty that your kids will have abnormalities due to how closely related you both are. think about it.

Answer 5

It's definately a taboo nowadays... I hope that you don't advocate it by thinking about how people used to marry their cousins- that was to keep money and property in the family.

But you should realize that if someone were to have a child with their cousin, their baby could have genetic issues. Think King Charles II of Spain- he was physically and mentally disabled due to inbreeding.

So, it is wrong, but it's understandable that you have those feelings. My advice is to leave it as a dear friendship. Try spending time meeting guys from school. then it will pass.

: )

Answer 6

It is actually a pretty common thing. One of my nieces has had a crush on my son for years now. They are both 15 now and I can tell she is starting to get over her crush. I don't know how old you are, but if you are pretty young you will grow out of it. Of course you shouldn't act on it, but you know that. The easiest way to get over it is to do exactly what you stopped doing - find a girl. There are tons of fish in the sea, I promise. Just make it your mission to find the one for you. Good luck.

Answer 7

my whole family knows about it but never talks about it. me and my cousin had the same thing. i was ten and he was 13. i think it when on for almost two years. it thought i loved him too. my family slow began to notice us and one time his mom caught us together... now im older and see how disgusting it was and how wrong it was. i am so ashamed and i wish my family could understand and not think i was some little whore.

dont do it because you will feel so nasty when your older and realize what you did. and its really weird becuzz when ever people mention incest i get all weird and quiet. its an imbarrassing thought and its a weird cloud hovering over your whole family. its a skeleton in the closet.

wow...i have never spoken of it before. never outloud at least. at night, youll think about it afterwards and you will feel sick. i use to pray for hours just asking and begging the lord to forgive me but i still dont feel clean from it. mainly cuz i wont forgive myself. honestly, i am not making this up.

Answer 8

It is possible to have a healthy relationship with a direct cousin. Its when you and him take it further that it may lead to a sexual response then it is legally wrong and morally indecent. Respect your feelings, normal response but guide yourself away from any physical act. OK.

Answer 9

No, it's just not normal. But don't worry about it. I used to have a crush on my older cousin. But then I found other boys, that were alot better.

Answer 10

I had an older cousin who was very into me. It is okay to be best friends, but that's where it has to stay!
Enjoy the frienship, but look for a similarly endowed boyfriend with those traits you admire!

Answer 11

I say go for it. Been down the same boat too girl.

Guess what, the bible list all the forbidden relationships between family members which should be considered "incest" like mother/son, and Cousins, are not on the list. in fact a lot of ppl in the bible married their cousins and god didnt object. its only wrong religously speaking, if its closer than a cousin.

So I say why let what other people think of you and who you like, affect you.

Go for it.

I did.

And it was prob one of my best teen years.

best of luck.