I know I should move on. But its tough. I love the girl in some way. Long story short, she is bulimic, depressed and the works. She broke up with me (dissappeared). Dated someone right afterwards, broke up with him. She contacted me last week wanted to go have lunch, I agreed after a week, she said she was working and she would let me know. Never let me knew. Friday night I get like ten calls from her, she hangs up each time, then sends me text saying "I'm drunk and need you" all I said was "you ok?". Never heard from her. Next day I texted saying "you alright" "Can't help you if you call and hang up on me" She said "haha sorry about that". Haven't heard from her since. My question; If this girl truly wanted to be with me again, would she make more of an effort? Would she not want to see me at all costs? What should I do? Keep the No Contact till she contacts me again. What would be the best way to show her I want her back if she has changed and only if she is healthy?
2007-07-08 20:28:38 · 14 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN, DON'T WALK TO THE NEAREST EXIT. This gal have some really deep-seated emotional problems. She will drag you down a dark hole in which you will never get out of. There are lots a nice girls out there. Would you really want this woman to be the mother of your kids? How would you like to have a mother like this? Relationships are very important and you must examine all their aspects. Please stay away from her. A good marriage is wonderful. Don't cheat yourself of that opportunity.
2007-07-08 20:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Alea S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been a stand up guy it seems throughout this difficult relationship. Unfortunately people who suffer from problems that you indicate can only recover when they decide to help themselves. You can only provide support (which you have) and hope she sees the light. As far as a relationship goes I do not see much there for you except possibly misery and disappointment. I would tell her that you support her and wish her the best but I would not pursue anything serious or committed as she will let you down and you will suffer. I would make this clear to her as well cause if you don't she will keep using you a crutch when she is drunk or upset. I would move on with your life and try to find someone that is dependable and makes you happy. We can only hope that she can get her act together in the future.
I have a simple motto about relationships that seems to work. If it gets to the point where you are miserable there is no spark or fun anymore and do not look forward to being with or seeing someone then you are better of with someone else or even ALONE. Good luck and I hope it works out.
2007-07-08 20:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by flafuncop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you announcing that you just had been meant to fulfill to your birthday and she or he didn't flip up and in view that then there used to be no conversation in any respect among you? Yes, I might cross and notice if she is at dwelling. In truth she didn't get a divorce with you (but). Maybe she thinks if she simply ignores then you definitely this can be a get a divorce, however you do not know what occurred. If you notice her and confront her and she or he tells you she does now not desire to peer you anymore then teach her on what might were a correct option to get a divorce. She under no circumstances advised you, and who is aware of she would were abducted or she had an twist of fate or some thing. If whatever like this might have occurred then it's unusual that her mobile remains to be in use however there might even be many causes for that. So, sure cross and feature a seem at her condo.
2016-09-05 20:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody here, can say either she really need you or missed you or need you only to get physical....
I think u should make efforts to contact her.. u just meet her... try to know everything that in the past why she broke up with you & all the story why she was depressed
&& the most important.... also ask her to tell u truth that Why she need you.. whether she really like you or she called you only like that & there was nothing more.....
Many more questions are there which you really need to know.....
But the 1st thing is that u have to make efforts to contact her in any way&& try to meet her asap....
I hope you get to know her & as well her attitude....
So, Dear... Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-08 20:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this, but it doesn't seem that she really cares about you. She calls and leaves you hanging, then laughs about it later, which shows no respect at all. From what you describe, she seems pretty irrational, calling and hanging up so much. That can't be healthy.
The thing for you to do now is to move on. I understand it's really hard and seemingly impossible, but find a hobby or something you like doing and concentrate on that instead of allowing yourself to sit around the house with nothing to do but dwell on the past.
Good luck.
2007-07-08 20:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by qchiapetp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. I'm sorry, but calling when she is drunk, well that is something unfortunately girls do sometimes. They kinda regret the breakup, and it only happens when they are drunk. She probably has called the other guy and told him the same thing.
Sorry to be truthful, but I don't like to see people hurt for stupid reasons.
2007-07-08 20:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl has a problem,I would run.She needs to get professional help.What happens when you are with a new girl friend and she is texing you 10 times with her problems? Are you going to drop your date and run to her aid? Then she says haha,sorry about that.Sounds like she only wants you when she is screwed up.She is not going to change with out pro. help.Tell her to go get on a program for help.maybe you could take her back.
2007-07-08 20:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to LET IT GO! Years of treatment are needed to help someone with her issues- trust me, she is NOT healthy yet- the "drunk" phone call should have been a clue. Don't let her take advantage of your feelings for her- and remember, you can't save a person from their self- they have to do it for their self! P.S. It's extremely easy to get caught up and sucked in to another persons problems- don't let it happen to you-
2007-07-08 21:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by i_need_answers_please! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to go to her and tell her everything ! share your feelings with her . she seems to be a bit confused and does not know how to make you back. If you want this - then it is you who should make the first step! Good luck!
2007-07-08 20:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by helga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the story of the party girl and the nice guy, old as the world!
2007-07-08 20:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by puppies.sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋