Family & Relationships - 3 June 2007

Why am I finding it so hard?

All the time, all im thinking about is him, and the memories we had. The first time we met, how i felt, all the excitment i felt going to meet him for the first time. My stomach is in knotts, i just want to forget him, will it always be this hard? Every single day?

2007-06-03 22:54:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my ex is thinking about being friends again with me but the thing is in my opinion she doesnt seem the same we havnt talked in a while so i really dont know but i dont think shes a virgin anymore and we sorta joked around sexually some times so i was wondering if shes not do i ask or do i just wait for her to tell me

2007-06-03 22:54:24 · 7 answers · asked by ddd c 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm a 46-y-o woman with kids of my own. My mother's been the bane of my existence for yrs. She's never respected my or my siblings' boundaries - has a habit of spreading untrue, unsubstantiated gossip amongst us about the others. Three yrs ago, I caught her slandering me when she accidentally hit my speed dial button on her cell. I heard a long conversation about me that was full of lies that betrayed what she'd said to me just an hour before. A long rift followed because she pretended not to know what I was talking about until cornered, then sent a card of apology, but proceeded after to lie to the family about why I was avoiding her. Last week she asked my son to fix her computer. He did, and up pops an e-mail she'd written to one of MY friends, full of malicious lies for no reason. She e-mailed me a brief apology. It started, "I'm sorry for whatever I may have done to upset you.." Am I unreasonable for wanting specific acknowledgements, not just give vague, dismissive apologies?

2007-06-03 22:52:56 · 6 answers · asked by joe friday's grrl 2 in Family

My boyfriend lost his mother to cancer in January and has avoided the subject and got on with life until recently. He has admitted thinking of her alot and has been very emotional recently. Is it normal to delay grief until 5 months later and what can I do to be there for him and help him through this difficult time?

2007-06-03 22:50:02 · 27 answers · asked by Miss Nightingale 3 in Family

2007-06-03 22:49:12 · 13 answers · asked by Shelly V 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am a firm believer that guys when they cheat do not need that same emotional connection and therefore can hit it and forget it where as if a girl cheats it usually has much more involved. Coworkers....emails......met someone out one night and have talked for a while, etc. Guys don't get attached like girls do so that's why I think it's worse when chicks cheat. Another thing, if you are a girl and you have cheated why did you do it and would you do it again?

2007-06-03 22:48:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we have a joint mortgage, 3 young children and I don't work, what are my rights. He wants to sell the house, where are me and the kids supposed to go?

2007-06-03 22:46:51 · 23 answers · asked by tassintwo 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife left me Dec. and took our 5 kids with her. We must be separated for a year before we can get divorced in Aust. In Feb. she met an American man online, and is planning on going to America in Aug. to sleep with him. She has no set plans for after then; just says that she wants to spend the rest of her life with him. I am seeing a psychologist who tells me that I should continue to treat her lovingly, without forcing her to make any decisions. I am to avoid trying to stop her, but also am not supposed to help her fulfill her plan by watching the kids while she is gone. (we currently have shared care; week on, week off) I have told her that I love her, and will continue to love her no matter what she does to hurt me. The psychologist believes this is the best approach. Other women that I talk to tell me that this is wrong. They say I am giving her a free ride to have an affair; and that she's using me. I'd like to tell her to 'f' off, but don't wanna lose her forever. help our kids

2007-06-03 22:43:46 · 11 answers · asked by bg4gb 4 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf doesn't want me to check his mobile i know he hide things from me. One time i try to check his mobile i saw i messge from a girl saying that he loves my guy knowing that he has a gf (and thats me) i know the personal mobile no. of this girl should i warning her to stop flirting with my man or should i let things pass by.

2007-06-03 22:37:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well, I like theese 3 guys and they all like me but i have no idea to choose from rob chris or josh. I have not been out with rob or josh, but all of them say they love me. I have no idea wat to do. Please IM me back and help me.

2007-06-03 22:36:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have recently returned to the UK to look after my youngest child (boy) aged 15 after his mother unfotunatly died. We were divorced for quite a few years. My elder children (girls) are 21 and 18. The problem that i have is that i have always looked after myself and am in good shape, plus i have always had good jobs so i have some money. Now i am back in England the women that are interested in me are in there early to mid 20s. I know that it is not ilegal but is it right for me to date girls of this age plus some of my eldest daughters friends also are interested in me! Should i or shouldnt i is the question? I never thought it would be a problem but these girls are near the same ages of my daughters. Please only sensable replys.

2007-06-03 22:26:31 · 30 answers · asked by stewart 873 3 in Singles & Dating

i have asked so many questions in the last week that most of you probably know my situation. but here it is in brief for those of you that don't.
I have recently split from nearly a 10yr relationship. we have a daughter of 2.Me and my daughter are currently living with my pearents (hoping to get my own place in 2 wks) which is fine until the days when my pearents goes to work and my ex has our daughter over night i wake up and feel lost not knowing what to do. i have plenty of ideas housework, wash the car etc but cant get the enthusasium to acctually do it. my mind just gets to thinking about the split the future and everything else in between. so then i start feeling depressed thinking this it my future and how crap its going to be evan thou i know its not yesterday i was fine and happy and positive its the days on my own does it become easier? will i get used to it? does anyone have any tips ?

2007-06-03 22:25:03 · 10 answers · asked by kitty4 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-03 22:19:17 · 14 answers · asked by five eyes 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Are you a guy who craves to have lots of girls around or are you desperate to have just one girl?

2007-06-03 22:15:24 · 12 answers · asked by Whatdoyouwantmetodo 1 in Singles & Dating

im 19 i have never realy had a g.f i have been told i would make a gd b,f by a few of my m8s cos im gd at complamenting girls etc im not at college and im looking for a job at the moment i dont like clubing what cant can i do

2007-06-03 22:12:41 · 17 answers · asked by ak222002 4 in Singles & Dating

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2007-06-03 22:04:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I only do it at night, of course. Looking at naked girls and crap like that. So I really need help. I am supposed to live my life as the Christian I am, but I can't stop with this stupid crap. It's like an addiction or something. I have these sexual thougts and I can't stop. I didn't start till I broke up with my ex two years ago, and it is constantly getting worse. A friend of mine said I should look her up, but I can't find a way to do it. I am heading in a really bad direction and just want it to end. Please help me...

2007-06-03 22:04:15 · 19 answers · asked by Gron Hatchat 3 in Singles & Dating

If you return home early to catch a boy, who in known to have a bad rep, in your daughter's room on the bed with her. With his hand up her blouse. And after kicking him out you forbid her to see him. But you know she has been trying to see him on the sly. While gassing up at the pump, a car pulls up with boys his age. They say they heard on the grapevine what the score was, but they have a beef with him. All that has to be said is "go ahead" and they would beat his a** down. You you say go ahead? Indicate you would approve but don't say yes. Or tell them not to bother the guy?

2007-06-03 22:02:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am due to do my ,driving test soon but my hubby says i cant drive his car when i pass. Do you think he is being unfair? Tell me what you think please.

2007-06-03 21:52:59 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am a young black girl. I have always dated inside my race. The thing is I am so tired of how black men are just dogs. I am always asked about by Hispanic or white men but I try to stick with my race. But now I feel as if I don't want to date black anymore. Am I wrong for just kicking all black men to the curb because of just a few bad apples?

2007-06-03 21:46:33 · 24 answers · asked by STL chick 1 in Singles & Dating

Married for 2 years. Husband never wanted or wants sex. He is such a kind, peaceful man and loving, but he doesn't hug me, kiss me, touch me or wants sex. Whenever we talk about it, he says I'm thinking about everything else and I'm so worried. So sex is the last thing in my mind. But I love you very much.

From the day one of our marriage, we have been very broke, between jobs, never enough money. So he says he is thinking about money all the time. and also his parents are very old (65 yrs), and he is always worried about their health.

He doesn't believe in councling, so that option is closed to us. I have a feeling that this problem may continue to exist for the rest of our life as problems never go away.

I don't know if I should continue to wait and struggle to see maybe he changes when the life is totally settled down which may never takes place, continue living like flatmates,,,,

Or I shall break the holiness bonding of marriage to find passion elsewhere?

2007-06-03 21:32:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

In every single pass relationship I have never been the one to brake it off and leave.I was always left being in love with them.I see that most people change how they feel toward one another after they start to have a lot of problems. Lot's of arguing ,saying and doing bad things to each other.I can have a hundred arguments, be treated badly.And my loyalty,devotion and love will not falter a bit.I now no why. I have this mothering thing about me. That if you do something wrong I don't get mad I try to teach you what's right.So therefor like a mother does I forgive with unconditional love.And my love is never effected I've pride myself for being a really understanding person.But let's face it . I'm really a fool.My husband of five years has been treating me really badly. Doing everything to me he could think of that makes me mad.Because he doesn't really want to be married to me any more.Am I the only fool out there ?

2007-06-03 21:28:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I need details on what and why different options are good.

2007-06-03 21:25:33 · 4 answers · asked by E R 1 in Weddings

I feel 15 asking this question lol!

I have a close male friend (yes there are benefits there too he he) In the last week or so my feeling towards him have changed. I always said that if I started to feel this way I would be honest and tell him. Now that its happened I cant bring the conversation up. He hasd noticed I'm a little distant and not myself but in a way i'm scared to say how I feel incase I lose him. I know I wont lose him as a friend but the sex is fantastic.

2007-06-03 21:24:41 · 6 answers · asked by laura_545 2 in Singles & Dating

what do you think about guys masturbating. you know that all of your guys do it.....do you think its sexy, or just stupid of them. honestly what do you think. would you prefer if your guy didnt do it and waited for you to. or dont you mind. do you think he feels the same about you masturbating, mwah

2007-06-03 21:23:35 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

at school a guy told me he really liked me and stuff and we went once all was good but then one day i heard him talking to his friends and i stood behind him and he told them the whole story about how it was a dare and that he was going to win and that he was looking forward to telling me that he thinks i am ugly and fat and stuff he does know that i know and he has made me the lauging stock of the school and there is nothing i can do about how do i get even and make him feel as bad as i do without him knowing it is me

2007-06-03 21:19:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-06-03 21:18:17 · 5 answers · asked by mangolove 1 in Singles & Dating

how do you get over the embarrassment of going to the bathroom (ya know...go poop) while theyre around?

2007-06-03 21:16:21 · 19 answers · asked by Jew_Juice 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I mean how do you use it in English when in your daily life,please don't tell me to use it in a position,I have already known how to use it. I want to know how to use it in a situation,a affair or matter(but not about position)
thank you very much!

2007-06-03 21:12:52 · 5 answers · asked by swordxka 1 in Friends

I have instructed her not to come in “Low Necks” to the organization which shows a good amount of cleavage, but she never cares. On Saturdays, she comes banging, dressed as if going to a bikini competition. I have found this a bit disturbing when I am working and I want her to change her way of dressing.

She also smiles at my inability to admire her. She also makes fun of my age(22) and says that I am different from the other guys. I think I've got my sexual apparatus inside my head. I am a professional and I like the way, I am.

I coudn't fire her coz she has my Boss's personal attention. Any ways to get her out? Please help me!!!

2007-06-03 21:12:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships