Lets face it. I have a pornography problem. I am extremely embareesed to say it. Help me!?

Question

I only do it at night, of course. Looking at naked girls and crap like that. So I really need help. I am supposed to live my life as the Christian I am, but I can't stop with this stupid crap. It's like an addiction or something. I have these sexual thougts and I can't stop. I didn't start till I broke up with my ex two years ago, and it is constantly getting worse. A friend of mine said I should look her up, but I can't find a way to do it. I am heading in a really bad direction and just want it to end. Please help me...

Answer 1

Having sexual thoughts and masturbating is normal and psychologically healthy. Religion that teaches you to deny these parts of yourself can lead to the kind of problem you are talking about. An addiction to pornography and excessive guilt.

Drop the religion and think about it this way. Are you masturbating so often that it gets in the way of your relationship, school or work responsiblities? If the answer is no, you are not addicted. It's just something you enjoy doing very often. Great.

If the answer is yes, you're not addicted, you are just doing it too much. Find something else to do. Hell, if it's internet porn, have your net turned off for a few months and stay away from the magazines and porn shops.

Some people do use masturbation to cope with regular anxiety and stresses of life. That's fine, until it gets in the way if living your life. Seek help for the underlying issues. When it comes to sexual addiction, it's not the sex or the porn that is the problem, it's the issues that cause this problem. Psychologically healthy people who look at porn every once and a while do not become addicted. Counselling might be a good start to help you deal with the real issue.

As for the guilt?? That's not right. It's normal and natural to be having sexual thoughts, to please yourself or to want to look at pornography. Don't feel bad about it. You are not hurting anyone. Just remember, too much of a good thing is a bad thing.

Answer 2

it seems like it's turning into an obsession

pornography is ok, but anythings that gets into your head like that is a problem

First, think about why you consider this "obsession" a problem. Do you feel guilty because you are a christian? Do you feel lonely and miss your girl and that's why you resort to porn? Are you afraid to face the real world to look for a new mate? Is there a great amount of anxiety or depression you need to forget about?

Also, there is nothing wrong with masturbation and it is a fact that most people, even when they are with someone, masturbate. Are you having problems accepting yourself in the mirror? Do you feel the need for self esteem?

Look deep into your soul for these answers, they might help you figure this out. If you don't want to get caught up with porn, try sports, going to the gym, some activities that get you out of the house for a bit.

Good luck man

Answer 3

I think that the best thing to do, if it is really that bad, is seek professional help. You can definately do private counseling or smth like that. I think all men (especially the lonely) do seek visual stimulation from the internet, for it is so easily accessable-many men would be too embarassed to go to the store and rent porn, and the internet makes it easy. Now, if say you are a Christian, no greate help can come from anyone other than G*d. Maybe there is an area that you are lacking in while saying that you live like a Christian...you are not "supposed" to live like a Christian imo...I think that we should want to, as we are drawn to G*d naturally. With that said, perhaps you should pray more, read The Bible daily, or even talk to your priest/preacher (you don't have to say exactly what your problem is, more like something along the lines of "I am having trouble with controling my flesh"....which could mean a lot of different things--smoking, eating, sex, lazyness....you get the drift). Good luck.

Answer 4

Pray that the pornography addiction
leaves you. Pray in the name of
Jesus Christ, He said to ask in His
name and it will be done.

You've been doing it for two years,
doesn't it look fake, and done before
by now.
You should start getting rid
of any you have at home. It's going
to be hard, but you can do it.

Start erasing things from your Computer.
If you Cam, there are women out there
who are Christians to, and just want to
chat, nothing more.

You and you Ex-Girlfriend broke up
for a reason, ( remember ).
Does your friend expect her to be a
Booty call? I don't think so.

Get rid of the old things in your life,
and move on to the New.
One of those things is a New Girlfriend.

But try dumping the porn problem.
Remember to play on it.

Answer 5

Avoid it little by little. Gather up the courage, and scare yourself into thinking you'll end up a rapist.

I'm sure you won't, but just scare yourself silly if it will help :)

Let's say if you do it at night for an hour (Let's just say :D) then cut it to 45 minutes.

Imagining that the person you were looking at was your sister could help too, I mean how would it make you feel if someone was jacking off to your sister? Gross, right?

So anyway, slowly decrease your time on the internet. Do other things. Go out to parties, nightclubs, dinners, whatever you can do to keep you and your hands busy.

But if you ever find yourself at home again on a late night with that urge, slowly decrease the time. This time make it only 30 minutes.

Eat papaya. I heard it decreases your want to, you know. Do it.

I really hope the best for you. I know you can do it.

Lotsa love,
Simqueen :D

Answer 6

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Answer 7

It might be because you're curious or lonely. Missing the intimacy you had w/your ex. Try to fill your time w/something else. A new hobby, sports or join adult class for cooking, art, literature, etc. Things to fill your time and meet new ppl. Or talk to a counselor if you feel it's an addiction. Good luck!

Answer 8

"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

Hope this is emboldening for you. Sexual temptation is something men have to battle with all through life, whether they're single or married or whatever. I don't think you want to throw out your computer any more than you want to cut off your own hands, but that's okay. I think what Jesus was saying is to do whatever it takes. Luckily for you you're dealing with a problem that's common among 100% of men on some level. Keep that friend of yours close by, tell him you just don't want this in your life anymore and you need some support. If you're laying awake in a cold sweat, set up some access filters and have him keep the password. I know AOL provides the service for free.

You'll always have access to the smut, and there are no filters for your thoughts. You need to keep in mind the one who created your body and soul for his glory, who lived, suffered, and died an immaculate death to wash away all our sins. Trust in the awesome power of the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. Call onto the Lord for strength, and He'll rescue you.

Answer 9

Dear friend! there is nothing alarming in your psyche. These are normal things. Its your feeling of guilt which is the problem. Understand that there is practically no one who would not have had erotic thoughts or would not have had imaginary sex in his dreams!!!Christianity or Hinduism or Jainism does not make it a sin. Its natural feeling. Only when you put it into practises, the hitch comes!!!!!
Be brave, dont feel ashamed,like hunger, thrist etc. sex also is a feeling and sexual thoughts are not a taboo!!!

Answer 10

Go find some group counceling if you believe you have an addiction.