If you return home early to catch a boy, who in known to have a bad rep, in your daughter's room on the bed with her. With his hand up her blouse. And after kicking him out you forbid her to see him. But you know she has been trying to see him on the sly. While gassing up at the pump, a car pulls up with boys his age. They say they heard on the grapevine what the score was, but they have a beef with him. All that has to be said is "go ahead" and they would beat his a** down. You you say go ahead? Indicate you would approve but don't say yes. Or tell them not to bother the guy?
2007-06-03 22:02:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ages:
She 16
He 17
Would be handlers(in the car) est ages 15 - 17
2007-06-03 22:30:09 · update #1
I did not read anywhere in the question where I or anyone else solicited thugs to beat this kid. Others who already had a beef with the guy asked if I wanted it done. And IF I blessed it, they would(not that they would have even if I said nothing) I would not bless anyone on such a thing, and suggest it might cause them trouble(like they care, I suspect, but unproven, some where gangbanger) And teens even under what you would think is the best parenting, can be lead away because they think they are in love or want to be popular. And yeah. When I was a teen, I tried to get into every skirt I could. Because I did not see the girl as a girl but a conduit to my sexual pleasure. But I am smarter now and see that was not right.
2007-06-04 20:12:16 · update #2
There is no way I'd be encouraging anyone to beat up someone else. Besides, the kid would never have been a problem after I found his hand in my daughter's blouse anyway.
2007-06-03 22:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that you do not "give the word" to these kids. If your daughter's "boyfriend" involves the police it will easily come back to you. Being an adult you could probably get into trouble for asking others to assault him. Not only this, but your daughter will also find out. You will automatically become the bad guy and anything you say will not register with her.
Instead, talk to your daughter about her activities with this boy and how you feel. Tell her that making out and touching almost always leads to sex which has serious consequences. If you don't feel this kid is absolutely horrible (other than getting touchy with your daughter) maybe make a compromise. Like they can see each other but under supervision.
2007-06-04 09:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see if I am reading this right. You are asking if you should somehow encourage a mob to violence cause your daughter is attracted to a bad boy? Is that the message you want to send your daughter? That you can't control her behavior so you resort to violence?
Surely you aren't saying that you didn't try to put your hand up the shirt of any girl you could when you were 17.
Your reaction to this is inappropriate and if they hurt that kid, it might be criminal. The very best way to encourage your daughter to see him with rose colored glasses is to villianize him. I would suggest you make sure that kid isn't hurt and you need to include him in all your family events. Nothing makes someone less appealing than spending the evening watching tv with her and her parents. Who knows you could actually attempt to be a role model for this kid and show him how a real man acts.
2007-06-04 07:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, whose the adult here??? You shouldn't have another kid do your dirty work! How immature! You should deal with your daughter....he wouldn't be in the house if she didn't let him in!
Get some parenting lessons while your out looking for the person to beat him up for you! Geez...get a life!
2007-06-04 05:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violence isn't the answer and if you did say yes to those boys (who i don't think you even know), who knows what the repercussions could be? You~as an adult~ could end up in a lot of trouble. Be careful!
2007-06-04 05:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you maybe a litte jealous of your daughter having a boyfriend? Maybe you should examine your own feelings about her.
Brutality isn't the way. You probably wouldn't like prison either.
2007-06-04 05:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is in your first sentence ... he's a boy. Another couples baby. Think about your kids, how would you feel if it happened to them. Personally I would try to prevent it because I would hate it to happen to my kids. After all he's only a child.
2007-06-04 05:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your daughter? You should be teaching her right from wrong and if she finds out you have told these boys its OK she will never forgive you x
2007-06-04 05:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋