Family & Relationships - 14 May 2007

OK there is this guy and i have dated him like 4 times and each time we always break up. But this year he and i have really connected and we have talked for hours and we always laugh at each other and i actully see a future with him i just dont know. I think he is going to ask me out as a girlfriend. I don't know what i should do??? GO out or what!

2007-05-14 11:35:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

OK,here's the deal. I'm insanley in love. But that guy (brad*) is kinda away right now. I get lonely sooo my friend introduced me to another guy (*jacob) Well, Jacob and I got into a friends with benifits relationship.......now he claims he wants more than that and realy likes me. here's the problem: I promised Brad another shot at "us". An I think Jacob just likes my bod,not me. But he doesnt want to end our f.w.b. relationship even if he can't have a chance to be more. But i feel wrong using him. And what about Brad?! HELP! (*names have been changed)

2007-05-14 11:33:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-05-14 11:31:56 · 10 answers · asked by GiggleZ_7 1 in Singles & Dating

Husband meets and falls in love with someone else the wife decides they need to make their marriage work. Their grown children want their parents back together. The man returns to his wife, going to canceling for the last yr. He calls me the one he was seeing and says he made a mistake and he thought being with his wife was what he was supposed to do but he thinks about me every day and cannot understand after being with someone for that long and falling in love with someone else in just a few months. I am not going to see a married man and won't. i do care about him but i would be afraid he would do the same thing again. Life is to short for that. His children would never like me. I am just not sure it would ever work. He says they get along alrighte but something is missing. I changed my phone number and now he is sending me cards. I live 2 states away from him. I have not moved on and like i said it has been a year since i have seen him.

2007-05-14 11:31:22 · 12 answers · asked by dd 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Got an answer to one of my other questions this morning that really made me think. The answerer said that you don't have commitment in a relationship until you are married. Am I the only person out there who doesn't see how a piece of paper could actually change your relationship?
For spiritual reasons, I can see why two people marry. But if you marry to gain commiment, what is the point? You shouldn't even be getting married with no or little commitment.
I feel that too much emphasis is placed on marriage.
What do you think? Could you also include where you are from, so I can a good idea of where people are coming from, so to speak. I have a feeling that people from the states put higher emphasis on marriage than that of people from other countries. Although I could be wrong.

All this coming from a woman who has just called off her own wedding :S

2007-05-14 11:31:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm trying to figure out if this one girl still likes me. When I worked at a hospital she was really friendly and flirty towards me, and sometimes scared me. Anyway... I haven't been back to work there in about 6 months. Today I went back and she recognized me and said hi, but she looked at me weird. What do you think about this?

2007-05-14 11:30:03 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend is obsessively paranoid about me cheating on her. I've insisted that she has nothing to worry about because I've been cheated on and know the feeling and would never do that to anyone else, but it doesn't help. I have female friends, and I think that's what really gets her upset.
She asked me to get on myspace a year ago so we could chat, so I did and over that time I added friends to my list (like anyone else would do). Aside from some off color comments, my page is incredibly simple.
Then I find out she figured out my password and deleted a friend of mine (a girl) because she thinks I might cheat on her with my friend. I get mad and tell her she was way out of line, but the worst part is my friend got offended that she got deleted, even after I explained the situation! What's the deal with that? Why is myspace such an important thing to these women?

2007-05-14 11:27:13 · 8 answers · asked by TooMuch 4 in Singles & Dating

and fast!!!!

2007-05-14 11:22:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i am in married i am seriously thinking of getting out problem is i dont have anything of my own car money or job what would you do if you were in my situation................

2007-05-14 11:19:28 · 12 answers · asked by Tammy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-14 11:18:55 · 19 answers · asked by Fancy_Chanel 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a friend who says she loves her husband like a lifelong friend, but is not "in love" with him and doesn't think she ever has been. Many years ago, she finally agreed to marry him after a long courtship foolishly doing so after his repeated requests because she didn't want to shatter his dreams for them. Now they have children together and although she considers him to be an overall good person and father, she is generally miserable and has increasingly frequent thoughts of divorcing him in hopes of finding true love in a mate while she is still young. He senses her feelings and suspects that he does not love her, so friction is now occuring in the marriage. She tries to downplay it to him but she is losing the ability to supress her feelings.

She knows that marrying him when she wasn't truly in love was a mistake but how can she remedy the situation now? Does she simply have to continue to live with this mistake? Is this a justifiable reason to leave? She will read responses.

2007-05-14 11:17:34 · 6 answers · asked by CKApple 2 in Marriage & Divorce

myparents are the typical indian parents in america.my parents and me and wifeand 2 kidsstayed with parents from 1996 to 1999 and paid my parents rent to offset the cost of rent. and my wife was the typical indian wife cooking ( 7adult 2 kids w/ my mother's help) and cleaning and working as a store clerk. my brothers didn't pay any rent. by may 1999 i had saved money and brought my home and my parents said we going to move in your house because it has the room plus a better area, and they paid me rent, i said ok. they lived from 1999to 2002. my parents brought a business in new york and said we will living in new york and they left1 year later i had asked my brothers to move because of fighting with them drink in front of my kids and they didn't stop. then in feb2006 my parents told me they will move in with me ( my brothers had apartments too) they said where going to india in june 2006forever. but they didn't go .my basement became a storage unit.my wife and i had apply for my

2007-05-14 11:17:11 · 15 answers · asked by vinnie 1 in Family

she's nice but she gets rly annoying-ish...all of my friends hated her from the start but i still wanted to be nice and all. But now i think that she is getting really annoying... I think we both changed at the same time and now our personalities conflict badly. Like, she always is jealous and everything and gets a ll "poser"/wannabe-ish. how can i GENTLY tell her that she's annoying and i don't really want to be her friend anymore?


It sounds mean but I don't want to live a lie anymore.

2007-05-14 11:16:24 · 8 answers · asked by who am i? 1 in Friends

i was walking to school and over hear my boy friend talking to this boy and said he had a girl friend be sides me what should i do ? skat or dump or both?

2007-05-14 11:12:19 · 7 answers · asked by princess 1 in Singles & Dating

I need some HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So please dont put anything stupid.

2007-05-14 11:08:19 · 13 answers · asked by Cookie C 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband does not celebrate any holidays or birthdays due to his religion (Jehovah's Witness). He is not yet a Jehovah's Witness but he follows that belief because he was raised that way. I am not Jehovah's Witness and although I don't agree with some things I have learned to accept his religion. We have been married for three years. My mom's side of the family is very close so we get together on every holiday or birthday. My husband never attends. They all know why he doesn't, but two aunts in particular continue to dwell on the fact that my husband doesn't participate. They say things like, "It's just Mother's day dinner" or "It's just a birthday dinner. Nobody is celebrating anything". For instance, we all went out to Mother's day dinner yesterday. My aunt asked me, "____ didn't want to go with us?" My other aunt called from out of state and asked if my husband went with us. They already know the answer before they ask. How can I put a stop to this without being rude?

2007-05-14 11:04:53 · 15 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-14 11:03:27 · 29 answers · asked by Kristy C 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend's brother is getting married this summer and my boyfriend has asked me to go with him. At the time of the wedding we'll have been dating about five months, I've met his parents, but not his brother or sisters.
Am I expected to bring a gift? I'd assume my boyfriend will have a personal present for his brother and wife (so I can't 'go in' with him). Buying a dress to wear is going to leave me a touch on the poor side, and I have no idea what I'd buy... it's going to be a fancy wedding. His family is covering all my travel arrangements.

2007-05-14 11:00:16 · 14 answers · asked by ramona__c 2 in Weddings

like when you ask a friend to go ask a guy if he likes you.

2007-05-14 10:54:55 · 13 answers · asked by happy bunny is awesome =] 1 in Singles & Dating

my sisters health teacher calls a girls private a "puff puff"!

2007-05-14 10:53:51 · 12 answers · asked by DopeJuggalette4:20 1 in Friends

Husband 33, Wife 26, been together for almost 8 years (dating & marriage). Wife walked out on marriage of 2.5 years. Gets her own apartment. Started affair with another man. Affair goes on for 6 months. Very intense and very serious. Says she loves him, wants to marry him and so on, all the while still married but not living at home. She is basically ignoring her husband. Says that she wants a life with this other man and is ready to file for divorce. At the 11th hour, wife has a change of heart and is trying to reconcile with husband who knows of the affair, but not how serious it was(wife omitted that). Both are in individual counseling but not in couples counseling yet. Affair was revealed only a month ago. Wife still hasn't broken it off with the other guy and they still talk to each other on the phone periodically. Husband and wife aren't living together yet but are spending a lot of time together. Is this marriage going to survive?

2007-05-14 10:53:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have a two part question:

1) Define love between adults. I know this has been asked many times before and some great answers have been given, but I'd like to hear some new, fresh answers.

2) Is your defined love controllable? In other words, can you choose who you love and who you do not love?

2007-05-14 10:53:30 · 6 answers · asked by CKApple 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am thinking of having wild orchid(which is a purpleish/pink color) for the primary color(which would be the color of the bridesmaids dresses)but i haven't a clue what other color i could use with it for my decorations! Can somebody please help me out here? Thanks in advance to all who answer!

2007-05-14 10:49:40 · 7 answers · asked by ang925 3 in Weddings

Are we made of corresponding puzzle pieces?

2007-05-14 10:49:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-14 10:49:05 · 8 answers · asked by jennie k 1 in Singles & Dating

For 10 years we have been married, and I think she is a very selfish lover because she says it makes her sick too even think about doing oral on me, yet she gladly accepts me giving it too her. I don't think she understands the part about sex being non selfish...what do I do?

2007-05-14 10:43:45 · 30 answers · asked by Jeromy B 2 in Marriage & Divorce

When I was turning 18, my cusin, (We are like third cusins, not that close) told me, "Just because your turning 18 don't mean your going to become smart."

My sister-in-law was there so I didn't want to start arguing with cusin, so I didn't ask her what she meant by that.

Is she saying, I'm dumb now and I will always be dumb no matter what age I'll become?

2007-05-14 10:41:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I've come to a cross road in my marriage. Ever feel that tension between your heart saying, "Yes," and your head saying, "No?" Well how do you make the decision? Do you follow your heart or your head when making the big decisions in life? An example please!

2007-05-14 10:38:16 · 17 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 15 and have never had a boyfriend before. A lot of people have told me that I should ask some people out so I could finally get a boyfriend. But I don't see the point of getting a boyfriend just to say I have a boyfriend. Right now I don't want a boyfriend and sometimes I think that I am weird because I am not ready to have a relationship yet. Should I be out there trying to get a boyfriend or should I just wait? What did you do @ my age?

2007-05-14 10:36:48 · 9 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Singles & Dating

2 weeks ago i just moved into my apt, and there is this really cute girl that lives downstairs from me. I see her when i get in from work when she is goin to work. We have spoke to one another twice. What should i do to get her attention or to get to know her more to ask her out? Thanks I honestly think that she is the most attractive and beautiful girl that i have ever met, which is why I would love to get to know her better. What is the best way to go about this? Thanks
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2007-05-14 10:35:05 · 16 answers · asked by spurs257 1 in Singles & Dating