Wat do you do hen someone has cheated on u and u still want them?

Question

I need some HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So please dont put anything stupid.

Answer 1

please do not get back with them. it will only hurt you more in the long run. think of how horrible they made you feel and all the nights you cried or felt so shitty that you couldn't get to sleep........ then quit thinking about it and focus on your normal life until someone else comes along who won't break your heart.

Answer 2

okay i have been in the same situation as you and the first thing you two need to do is talk about why he did this! second you guys need to start talking about what is going on in your lives and listen to each other. Let him know that you are seriously hurt and you don't ever want to go through this pain again. that if you find out he cheats again you are out of there! But keep an open line of communication, respect, and honesty with each other and i hope that things work out for you. You are not going to be able to trust him for a very long time and this pain is not going to go away for a long time either.

Answer 3

I know the feeling. Your brain will tell you to stay away from them but your heart wants them back. You can give them another chance, I don't believe in the "Once a cheater always a cheater" way of thinking, I have faith that people can change. I've seen proof of that. But I do believe it's extremely hard for someone to change that kind of behavior. I say do what you want, and if that means taking them back and giving them another chance, then do it. But be clear that you will not tolerate that again, and be cautious with your heart this time. Good luck!

Answer 4

YOU HONESTLY NEED TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR-
SELF AND TAKE SOME TIME TO HEAL AND THEN
MAYBE FIND SOMEONE IN THE FAR FUTURE. I SAY
THIS CUZ IF HE CHEATED WITH ANOTHER FEMALE
NO TELLING IF HE BROUGHT YOU SOMETHING AND
YOU HAVE NO IDEA. (DISEASE WISE) NOW A DAYS
YOU CAN NEVER BE TO CAREFUL. ALSO WHEN A
MAN AND A WOMAN ARE A COUPLE IT SHOULD
ONLY BE THEM TWO AND NO ONE ELSE. HAVING
INTERCOURSE WITH SOME ONE ELSE IS CROSSING
THAT BOUNDARY AND YOU SHOULD NOT TOLERATE
THAT NOW OR NEVER. PLZ WISE UP AND MOVE ON,
GOOD LUCK AND BEST OF WISHES........................

Answer 5

Well it really depends on how sereous the incident was. And if you think he/she is going to do it agian. Sit down and talk about it! Don't let it slide! And get your point across! So he/she knows where you stand!! Good luck!!

Answer 6

I would sit down and figure out why I still wanted that person, is it because I want what I can't have. Is it because other women want him, is it because I seek acceptance from men I date because of issues with my father? It can be a number of psychological things.

Dump him.

Answer 7

I asked the same question all i got was

Fool Me Once Shame on You
Fool Me Twice Shame on Me

Answer 8

Been there done that!!! I know it seems hard at the time....but MOVE ON!!!! You will get over the lonliness.....but I'll tell you this, ONCE A CHEATER.......I just found out my ex cheated on his new girlfriend. Love yourself more than you love them.

Answer 9

If you are still wanting the person, then you must be willing to forgive them for that mistake, and hope that it does not get repeated again.

Answer 10

TO BE HONEST...I WILL NEVER GO BACK THERE.....CUZ I HAVE THAT TOOO MUCH RESPECT FOR MYSELF...

plus i do deserved someone WHO WILL GIVE ME THAT SECURITY IN THE RELATIONSHIP....

dear think deeply....ASK YOURSELF WHAT KINDA RELATIONSHIP...DO YOU REALLY WANNA HAVE???

REMEMBER WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP CUZ WE WANTS TO BE HAPPY BUT NOT TO MAKE ARE LIFE MISERABLE....

any how this is all up to you....but if your bf is willing to change for you....WHY NOT??? BUT BE READY TO TAKE THAT RISK AGAIN...IT JUST MEAN EITHER WAY YOU BE HAPPY OR END UP HEART BROKEN AGAIN AND AGAIN.....GOOD LUCK