My boyfriend's brother is getting married this summer and my boyfriend has asked me to go with him. At the time of the wedding we'll have been dating about five months, I've met his parents, but not his brother or sisters.
Am I expected to bring a gift? I'd assume my boyfriend will have a personal present for his brother and wife (so I can't 'go in' with him). Buying a dress to wear is going to leave me a touch on the poor side, and I have no idea what I'd buy... it's going to be a fancy wedding. His family is covering all my travel arrangements.
2007-05-14 11:00:16 · 14 answers · asked by ramona__c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would. It doesn't have to be anything big. Do you have a hobby or do a craft? You aren't required to bring anything. If you are good with a camera, you could do some candid photos an present them to the couple later. Maybe a scrapbook?
2007-05-14 11:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should buy this Bride and Groom a gift . . BUT you do not have to buy it when you attend the wedding, you have up to a year to buy a wedding gift. Why don't you wait and find out if there is something that the Bride and Groom really wanted as a wedding gift and did not receive that is within your budget. Just wait and do "the right thing" later on. Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-05-15 08:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sweet that the family is covering your travel arrangements! I would hope that you would have something for them as a thank you....That's awesome! As for a wedding gift, because you were asked to the wedding by your b/f you aren't actually obligated to give them a gift because you were not officially invited by the bride and groom...but, because you were not invited, it would be a nice gesture to bring them a little something, as weddings are terribly expensive. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant by any means. A giftcard to a store like Target would even suffice. Besides no one wants to get a toaster:o) As for style of dress, check and see if there will be a dress code (black tie, casual, etc) Depending out that will tell you what to wear. If you are still unsure, a classic black dress and a flouncy overlay for your shoulders would go for any occassion! Good luck, and have fun!
2007-05-14 19:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Button 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, discuss the situation with your boyfriend. I'm sure that will help ease your mind. It would be appropriate for him to purchase the gift and to address it from the two of you. Make sure you thank his parents for the travel arrangements and at the very least send them a personalized thank you card when you get home. Enjoy yourself, be polite, and show your gratitude. Offer up a helping hand when able. Offer to take a few pictures of the family together or help collect the centerpieces when its all over. Your gift doesn't have to be monetary, it can just be a positive attitude and a willingness to help on a day that will have a lot going on. Good luck!
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2007-05-16 19:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by www.michiganweddings.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never come empty handed. However... Ask your boyfriend what he thinks they would like (stressing your budget constraints) and he might just offer to have you sign his card or help him pick something out for them and you can sign the card. As for your thinking that he will likely get them something very personal... you think very highly of him. He may be very evolved, but he's still a man. Chances are, he will buy them something the week before (if not the day before) the wedding and your mention of a gift may actually get him to thinking about it much sooner than he would have on his own! If that offer to sign his card doesn't materialize, you buy them what you can afford. A bottle of wine, champagne, a gift card, something small from the registry, etc. Even a picture frame that they can put their favorite wedding proofs in (5x5!) would be very thoughtful. Good luck!
2007-05-14 19:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marianne D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring a small gift - it doesn't have to be anything expensive or fancy. They'll understand you can't afford much and can't select anything too personal for people you've never met. Ask your boyfriend what might be appropriate, and give examples of a few things you've considered - a photo album, a baking sheet for cookies, a small box of gourmet chocolates. Who knows, maybe your boyfriend will want you to "go in" on his gift (perhaps all the siblings and their significant others are chipping in).
2007-05-14 18:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bring a small gift, or maybe something handmade as someone else suggested. That is more heartfelt and can save you a few bucks.
As far as a dress goes, if you start now and crawl sales racks in department stores you might get yourself a great deal. I like JC Penney for that kind of thing as they have a big selection and sometimes 50 percent off sales.
2007-05-14 18:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could buy a small inexpensive gift. You wouldn't want to go without bringing a gift. You could wear a nice evening dress or dress pants with a pretty blouse.
2007-05-14 18:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by TAMPABAYLADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never be expected to bring a gift.
Since it is your b/f's brother, both of you look for a gift together. Pitch in a few bucks to help with the gift.
2007-05-15 09:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as a guest of an invited guest you are under no obligation to bring a gift, your boyfriend should cover the gift giving area. You may bring a card if you like filled with your best wishes, but that is not even necessary.
2007-05-14 18:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋