Family & Relationships - 4 April 2007

recently my hubby and i had a falling out and he moved in with a girl who claims is a friend she is 43 and he is 26 but she is known to like younger men. We have four kids and a four yr relationship. He is trying to stop his alcohol addiction and anger problem. Saturday he went to her house so her roommates boyfriend wouldnt try anything. he didnt come back. he assumed i kicked him out and the next day her and him picked up the car and half of his clothes. he is still staying with the women and claims he sleeps on the sofa. He says he loves me, but he needs to think about US and how to become a better father/husband. I got this gut feeling he is with her. Do I let him just go or do I wait for him to decide if he is moving out perm or coming back. He IMs me everyday says he willalways love me. Saw the kids twice once for an hour and another time for 10mins. Says he was going back over there to sleep on the sofa. I dont understand. I need help. I asked if he wanted his other stuff/saidno

2007-04-04 18:34:54 · 8 answers · asked by Rose C 1 in Singles & Dating

okay i am 19 yrs old and i live with my b/f in a apartment with 2 bed rooms he's also 19 as well.. but okay his brother lives with us and he 17 yrs old and i cant stand him anymore i wish there was a way to kick him out but i have no saying in this bc i dont pay rent my b/f does all i do is pay bills .. okay i cant his brother anymore hes lazy as hell doesnt clean up after him self doesnt take showers stinks alot doent even help with utilities he hates me i hate him.. and i just cant take it anymore im tired of getting into fights with b/f bc of it. but of course hes not going to kick out his dear brother right but i juat have no idea what to do anymore :-( i hate and im not living happy i i have to stay in my room most of the time just i dont have to hear his mouth well the only thing he pays is 200 dallors thats not even half of the rent.. and on top of that his mom pays portion of it. im sick and burnt out what can i do :-( what is a good way to get rid of him!! grrrrrr

2007-04-04 18:31:39 · 14 answers · asked by yup 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

we have 2 children ...17 and 13 and in a few years they will be gone.

2007-04-04 18:28:50 · 14 answers · asked by luv.is.pain 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel like I have overused the stuff i have been telling him...I want to express how i feel, My BF looks so damn great, what are some things I can tell him to express that? >.> I have overused HANDSOME ..."hot" is not expressive enough...just plain bland and not something i would say...same with "sexy"..what can I say about his looks? his clothes? etc?

2007-04-04 18:23:29 · 7 answers · asked by lonelioness 4 in Singles & Dating

people are always saying cheating is wrong and stop and they wouldn't do it and all that. well what I want to know is, why does it happen so much. If everyone had as many morals in actual life as they do in talk then every one's relationship would be fine

2007-04-04 18:20:49 · 28 answers · asked by june-bug54 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Every so often, I get asked the question........."do you like being married?"

I always answer....yes! Oh, Yeah! You bet! Sure, It's Great! You should get married too!

I always think......hahaha another sucker!

I am happily married and wouldn't change my life if I could, but sometimes, (for everyone I know) marriage stinks!

Does every married couple do this to singles? Is there a reason behind it?

I also promote having kids to people, am I mean?

2007-04-04 18:19:24 · 9 answers · asked by GreekQT 4 in Marriage & Divorce

and you do but she wont go out with you but shouldi do

2007-04-04 17:55:05 · 28 answers · asked by Kenneth T 1 in Singles & Dating

I dont see any particular problem with a 39 year old man with a great personality spending some time with younger friends. He has been married for several years, and has two children and a job. His friends that are younger, work with him. It is innocent fun for them to get a kick out of hanging out with one another, but his wife throws a fit. She has no right seeing how her ONLY friend is much younger than her. It is unfair and unjust. She thinks the worst of her husband when he deserves the very best. She is completely out of line when she gets angry that he wants to spend some time away from her. It is unhealthy in a relationship to be with one person all the time. A little innocent fun is what keeps a busy man sane throughout the work week. Am i crazy or is she smothering him and being unfair?

2007-04-04 17:53:47 · 31 answers · asked by carry_needs_you 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't have girlfriend.

2007-04-04 17:50:01 · 16 answers · asked by Jason N 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been married 4 mos.My hubby dated this girl before he met me.2 1/2 yrs ago, he moved into apt complex. A few incidents led me to believe she lived around him, but he denied it or beat around the bush. He finally told me last year & said he didn't tell me b/c he didn't want to upset me.We became engaged in Aug'06 & she sent 1st e-mail in Oct..I know this b/c he was reading his e-mail on my computer & I was standing by him.He said it was nothing.I have his password & admit I checked a few times.She sent about 5 from Oct - Jan, jokes, etc.In Jan, we had blow-up when I found out she is actually agent who rented him apt.I was on verge of div b/c he's lied several times about her.I kinda lost it, told him to contact her, tell her to leave him h*ll alone.He was very upset & promised he would.I've checked a couple more times;tonite she sent another-1st since Jan that I know.He read it, deleted it.Almost got div over this& he actually read instead of immed deleting.Am I wrong to be upset?

2007-04-04 17:45:08 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I think, 'emotional permeability' ... is a big issue for wives. They don't really intend to have, or want romantic feelings for other men. But, their boundary setting skills malfunction.

When you share too much personal information (even innocent info) with an attractive man can you go beyond meeting your social needs for 'congeniality' ... break through that 'social instinct' boundary ... and permeate into the 'sexual instinct' realm of your mind - the 'home' of romantic feelings.

Has this every happened to you? Did you talk about it with your husband? What happened?

2007-04-04 17:38:35 · 11 answers · asked by Sultan 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-04 17:38:24 · 6 answers · asked by liza 2 in Marriage & Divorce

tell me about your life and is it worth it?

2007-04-04 17:29:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i still miss him. we went out for 2 years. he lives in canada, i live in the US. im 14, hes 17. and now he has this adorable girlfriend that he is totally in love with. i dont know what to do. it is the worst feeling. it just makes me feel like "remember when you loved me??"

2007-04-04 17:13:56 · 23 answers · asked by hollisterCali 2 in Singles & Dating

i have this friend...actually my best friend and he asked me to a movie to go with another couple. he acts like he likes me anyway but is it really a date?

2007-04-04 17:05:11 · 6 answers · asked by ksnaucy 2 in Singles & Dating

With so much news around of the Govt., courts, Judicial System, Legal and Law'n Order Machineryies of India being so biased and doesn't listen to Men'n his folks at all. And there are so many women encourgaded by this is misusing the laws created to protect injustice against women to extort, black mail, threaten and destroy the lives, future of so many families. And these two silently watch it cause all they do care is their seat of power.

Now I am not talking in the air, both of them have agreed publicly, to be aware of this misuse but doesn't care to do anything!!!

So you decide!!!

2007-04-04 16:55:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Is this stupidity or ingnorants?

2007-04-04 16:54:59 · 11 answers · asked by rah 1 in Family

the live in a small apt now and all the kids are gone they barely have room for pictures is it bad to request that perhapps they can have a first honeymoon and the money would be better utilized if everyone gave money instead .. what do you think ?

2007-04-04 16:54:39 · 8 answers · asked by angelsjoc 1 in Weddings

We are having a Halloween Masquerade ball reception for our wedding. Any ideas for our theme you can think of for a fun card holder box.... something different. Open to any other ideas for other things as well. Thanks

2007-04-04 16:54:15 · 6 answers · asked by LDGNicole 1 in Weddings

I am married, but unhappy. My wife is a television freak, too busy with her parents, and siblings, and has no time for me or my kids. How can I have an affair without getting caught? I don't want a divorce because of my kids.

2007-04-04 16:48:16 · 36 answers · asked by Andy S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm the maid of honor for my best friends wedding coming up in September. I have no idea when to do the bridal shower, or really how it works? Does all the bridal party contribute for the cost or do I have the biggest responsiblity? Any ideas that you have done or heard of that worked for you?

2007-04-04 16:36:43 · 6 answers · asked by Brandi F 2 in Weddings

My husband got a text message from a friend today that said "Would you tag team mom and daughter?" Just curious as to what that means in guy world. Any insight? Thanks so much!

2007-04-04 16:35:00 · 2 answers · asked by J&A 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Any brain tips on what to dig into first or specific study ideas? Thanks and yes I know that next time I won't procrastinate :)

2007-04-04 16:25:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-04 16:23:15 · 3 answers · asked by Hadi Luke 1 in Friends

Just want to know if divorce has a lot of advantages than its negative effects on children of divorced parents.

2007-04-04 16:23:09 · 15 answers · asked by jhong 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just wanted to know if you think 3 is too many. All four of us are women and can therefore fit in my bed, but I don't think it can fit anymore. There is this really cute girl we all like and want to ask to join us but is 4 lovers too many?

2007-04-04 16:22:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2 years and two babies later. Never have I had an orgasm with my husband. He climbs on... gets off and its over. I have always done all the work... and he never really cares that much if my needs are filled...only his. I dont understand this. He puts me down, tells me that he hates my hair shorter and so I go to get extensions and he tells me that I will have fake a&& hair in my head. He says that I am a fat cow... yet I am only a size 12 after having six kids. He accusses me that I am going to the gym to get starred at? Today, I got a pair of sweats on, clean sweats because the baby up-chucked on me... and he accussed me of getting dressed up for my ex husband who is picking up the kids for the weekend. I called a sex therapist to see if he and I could go in... as I have told him so very many times... talking, writing him emails, being direct, writing him in cards, having people write him... that I cant take this anymore. He looked at me and said, " What do you want to go to a sex doc

2007-04-04 16:15:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anna Q 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Should I call and tell him? Before we broke up it had been stored in my laptop as all my passwords are set to be remembered. When I logged onto the site, there it was....********* in little stars. Like an idiot i started to check it and began to feel extremely ashamed and guilty. I just reworked my computer so all the passwords were erased and now I have no access.

But, should I call and tell him? We are supposed to reconvene in 6 months to see where we are at and hopefully try again. We broke up because both of us (mostly me) have a lot of growing up to do. My job is to get my life together so I can better handle a relationship. I am 27, he is 31 and we still love each other. I entirely want to be with this man in the future. My issue is that my therapist says I should call and tell him! I am so scared this will ruin all future possibility. What do you think. Would you and what would you think if your ex called and admitted this? What is the best approach?

2007-04-04 16:04:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met this guy a few months ago and i really like him and I think he might like me too. The problem is that I barely know him. If he says no then we just go different ways but I don't want to lose him.

2007-04-04 16:01:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok the thing is I have been with the same man for like 3 years is it normal not to have had an orgasim yet. Is it me am I uncapable. Or is it him just not good enough? its not like it is important but it would be nice once in a while ya know. he is the only man I have been with sexualy.

2007-04-04 15:48:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating