I am married, but unhappy. My wife is a television freak, too busy with her parents, and siblings, and has no time for me or my kids. How can I have an affair without getting caught? I don't want a divorce because of my kids.
2007-04-04 16:48:16 · 36 answers · asked by Andy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DONT HAVE AN AFFAIR!!
talk to your wife about your marriage, and if she really loves you, she will respect what you are saying and change.
your kids will be hurt so much more if they know you've been with another woman. please don't cheat, it hurts everyone.
2007-04-04 17:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Clarity. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. They are so many things wrong with what you just said. How dare you think that you can post something so disrespectful and slovenly on Y!A? and expect SUPPORT??!!!
You think you are being respectful of your kids and putting their feelings first by having an affair and committing adultery instead of divorcing?!
You are sick.
Your kids will hate you 10x more if you don't keep it in your pants. You are the most selfish and conceited person I have encountered on this service.
Fix your problems. Hire a lawyer. Divorce your wife and explain this to your kids while (gasp) KEEPING YOUR DIGNITY AND SELF-RESPECT.
Do your wedding vows mean nothing? Would you so quickly throw away years of marriage because you are too cowardly to confront your wife and ask for a divorce? She probably doesn't want to deal with you, either.
Divorce is 1000x better you sick, manipulative f*ck. Grow a set and be honorable.
Coward.
2007-04-04 16:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by L'Ambitieux 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
having an affair is not the answer. have you tried talking to her about the issue. You poor guy, it must be hard to feel lonely. If your wife is going to be busy doing things with her time, then you need to get out their and busy yourself with activities, involve your kids....just DON'T START AN AFFAIR!! its painful, a sad lonely life and in the end you might end up losing your kids through divorce. Don't feel worthless, do something constructive other than having an affair.
2007-04-04 16:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by alia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
an affair ISN'T the answer. there's no right way to have an affair because no matter what, it's WRONG. talk to your wife about the way you feel. and more than likely she'll listen. just set up a night this week with no kids around and just sit down and talk. that's all you need is communication to save your relationship because once you cheat on her, you're just going to feel worse about it in the long run. and there's also the consequence of getting the OTHER girl pregnat. and tell me, how would you explain that to your wife and especially, your kids?
2007-04-04 16:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by angelica_tatas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're lying dude. I think you're not even married in the first place. U're just trying to get attention or perhaps you're expecting some gals to drop u an e-mail addrress so u can make a move on them.
If you're good husband u should try and talk to her or solve the problem by yourself instead of looking a way to avoid your problem.
Maybe your wife don't realize that she's been negletting you and as good husband you should tell her. How do you fell if she do the same thing to you by looking for someone to have affair with??????
2007-04-04 16:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Geronimo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why, you want your kids to grow up with a miserable, cheating father? Good thinking! That's a great parenting tactic there....really.
Why not confront your wife, deal with the issues and live a better life? If that's not possible, get out now. A divorced happy father will be better for them than an unhappy one.
2007-04-04 16:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair will not solve any problems you are having at home. First off, you need to talk to her. Ask her if she cares about you and the kids. Ask her if she still loves you? To stay in a marriage for the kids....it means good for the kids but you are miserable. There are ways to work around it...I'm sorry for your kids to have to go through this but you need to be selfish and think about what makes you happy....
2007-04-04 17:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by May 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a divorce. Your children will be fine, You need to be happy, an affair would probably make your situation worse. Get the divorce, you will still be able to spend time with your kids. You will be happy
2007-04-04 17:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnbitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a marriage counselor with your WIFE. An affair does nothing but complicate YOUR life and hurt your family..... YOU need to get a grip before it's too late. Ever thought that maybe your wife is unhappy to? Do you ever talk with her about yours and her feelings? Today's a good day to start!!
2007-04-04 16:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh please. Don't be a teenager! Affair will end up caught! Other female will tell your wife or her family. Don't do to your children. They will get hurt because you weren't there for them but an other female outside of house.
Try to work with your wife first, she may have complain about you like you wrote about her this Y! Answers.
2007-04-04 17:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you a$$-face. I know it is a free country, and you can do whatever you want, but HUMANITY is something! If you can't love your wife and meet her NEEDS, and you "loved" her enough to marry her and HAVE KIDS, how in God's name are you gonna handle an AFFAIR!? Any woman who would go out with you and have sex with you knowing that you are married would be a slut/whore, so if I were you, I would talk TO MY WIFE! Stop being a freaking BABY! GROW UP!
2007-04-04 16:53:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋