we have 2 children ...17 and 13 and in a few years they will be gone.
2007-04-04 18:28:50 · 14 answers · asked by luv.is.pain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you dont want to be with him then break up before you do anything with anyone else.
There's no excuse for cheating
2007-04-04 18:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by DJN 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DON'T CHEAT
Try talking to him first, if he doesn't want to talk, force the issue, make him listen to you, If you have to tell him I'm thinking about going outside our marriage.
I know it sounds old fashion but honesty is the best solution.
There's nothing to be gained by cheating, even if you don't get caught, you'll have a tremendous amount of guilt that will eat away at you, it's not worth it.
Sex is just sex
Are you willing to throw everything away for a few minutes or hours of passion that might not be any better than what your used to?
Talk to him first, if you absolutely can't make it work then end it before you move on to the next chapter in your life.
He deserve the truth, even if he's a jerk, at least you'll feel a whole lot better about yourself.
Believe me you don't want that guilt
Good Luck
2007-04-04 18:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by scrachy24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't cheated yet, I would advise you not to. Your sexual needs are at their peak. He needs to know that and needs to satisfy you. Counseling would be advisable. It can open up communications and give you a set of tools to handle and enhance your marriage. Cheating is a spoiler - it can be fun and exciting, but the guilt will set in. It reminds me of signing a contract with the devil for instant gratification and major consequences later. Religious or not, there are consequences for everything you do. If you don't love him anymore or you two aren't getting along anyway, then get unmarried and play the field. But if there is a spark left, try to re-light the fire. Divorce is always a last resort & is just a terrible thing, even when both parties are reasonable. Cheating is just plain wrong. Buying a vibrator is not cheating.
2007-04-04 18:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either divorce him and marry the new guy, or don't cheat. Are you willing to give up this marriage and start over with someone new? How would you feel if your husband was cheating on you? Sometimes people leave a marriage for what they think will be more exciting, and at the moment it is, but 10 years from now will this person who would help you be unfaithful to your husband be unfaithful with someone else?
2007-04-05 03:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything try to get some marriage counseling. If you feel this way he at times may have thought about it to. I once felt this way in my marriage to, and I remember my father telling me to do this........make a list of all his bad qualities,and then make a list of his good. If his good qualities out weigh the bad then your marriage is worth fighting for. Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side, but once there things may not always be better. Maybe you both need to escape ito another world together away from the children and your daily routine in life. Spend the night in a strange place.........a nice hotel .........discover a small historical town......get to know each other in a different way not as the two children you both used to be, but as the adults you have both become today. I am sure that neither one of you are the same people you once were. If you decide to cheat I suggest you leave him first. Leave him with respect, and the healthy opportunity to trust and believe in a future relationship for himself someday. I understand your curiosity and that you may wonder if there is something more in life that could feel differently with someone else. ......but even the best fantasies can have flaws, unfortunately we may realize that when it is to late. I am sure that your children love the both of you very much and doing something that could cause a divorce should cheating be discovered would hurt them very much. I would talk with somebody professional that would encourage you to follow the best path in your decisions. There is so much to consider here even concerning life threatening diseases. i am not trying to frighten you , but this is a true fact that does exsist. The most important thing in life is to be happy. If you are not happy and satisfied with your husband find out what could be the right thing to do about it. Please talk to someone first. I wish you the best in your decision in whatever happens, but be sure it is what you truely want. In the end we are the ones who have to live with ourselves. good luck always.
2007-04-04 21:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's ask a question here before you go any further.
Why do you want to cheat? There must be somthing driving you to want to do this. You don't just wake up one morning and say, "I want to cheat on my spouse!" There has to be somthing there to push you in this direction.
If you don't want to be with him anymore then you need to break it up before you go and do anything. But this posing another question. Is it worth seperating with your spouse just to have sex with somone else? Because if you go down this road there is no turning back.
Another alternative is sit down and talk to your spouse about this. See if he is feeling the same way that you are. Try some new stuff to spice up your relationship if you want this to continue. You could even try somthing extream as having a three-some. But that is treading on thin ice if you are not careful. Trust me I know from experience.
The bottom line is, You need to sit down with your spouse and talk to him about this. Let him know that you are wanting to sleep with another person and see if you guys can correct the problem. Who knows it could open a totaly different door for you two. Or it could close the current door that you have open.
2007-04-04 18:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to reconsider. You took vows years ago. Try marriage counseling to perk up the marriage. You will get caught eventually, and destroy the faith that your children have in you.
2007-04-04 18:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat. You've made it this far! If there are issues with you and your husband try talking them out.
2007-04-04 18:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You made a commitment. You have a covenant. Honour it.
Why don't you make your marriage work? It is not impossible.
2007-04-04 18:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat. Don't do to others what you don't want do to you.
2007-04-04 18:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by kik0ish 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋