Why is it that good number of people favor divorce as the solution for troubled marriages?

Question

Just want to know if divorce has a lot of advantages than its negative effects on children of divorced parents.

Answer 1

The reality is that no one should ever be happy to be divorcing but it really depends on what kinds of issues a couple is facing in a marriage. Some things you can work on and some things are justifiable reasons for a divorce. Most women don't leave their husbands because their men burp, don't help out around the house, spend too much time at work, and choose to be with their guy friends on the weekends... Most people get divorced because of truly devastating acts... adultery, abuse, self destructive or violent behavior, alcohol use, drugs, etc. I can tell you from experience that you can do just as much psychological damage to young children by staying in a bad situation and environment as you can by choosing to leave and to create a new one.

Answer 2

For the most part, it`s an easy way out, a way to hurt the other person after being hurt for so long. Nowadays people dont want to fight for their marriage, dont want to forgive mistakes, dont want to compromise because they dont want to look stupid or whatever, thing is that both partners have to want to fight for their marriage. The effect on the children is terrible, I know grown people whose parents when divorced when they were really young and have confessed that they wish or hope that their parents would someday get back together. The only good advantage of a divorce is if it was your way out of an abusive marriage or a chronic cheating spouse.

Answer 3

People choose divorce because it is usually the easy way out. I'm not saying divorce is easy, but it's easier than going to therapy or trying other things to work it out. As far as advantages, the only one I know of is if you are divorcing someone who makes a lot of money without a prenup. Otherwise, don't know.

Answer 4

Irreconcilable differences are just that ...irreconcilable. Many people get married in a hurry, then find that they are incompatible. Others just can't make up their minds exactly who they "love". Others get married so that they can divorce for money. Marriage is no longer the sacred joining of man and woman, that it used to be. The advantage of divorce is that both parties are free to go out and do it again.

Answer 5

Because there a good number of people out there who realize we only have one shot at life and we need to make the BEST of it. If we aren't happy in a marriage, or there is abuse and lying and cheating, why would we screw up our one shot at life to be miserable for the rest of it? In most cases...not all...divorce is actually better for kids involved. They will be miserable if their parents are miserable. They don't learn by "Do what I say, not what I do"... They learn by example. It's our job as parents to teach our kids right from wrong, morals and values and communication. If we can't communicate with our spouse, how will our children learn effective communication?

Answer 6

Divorce hurts everyone. The problem is people marry too lightly because of the possibility of divorce. I've seen people choose are car with more care than a spouse. people marry without a clear definition of love. In my time everyone had two parents, divorce was for Hollywood. There was more romance, people truly cared for one another and values were passed down.

I fear for the future.

Answer 7

I waited 42 years before I married
I got all the DAWG out.
Never was I liar or a cheat but chose no to play
married by having some girl call me her and I call her
her my woman (girlfriend)
You see, I believe that why people get divorced, BECAUSE THEY PRACTICED EXCHANGING BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND. NOW I LOVE YOU NOW I DON'T. NEXT!!

Being brought up to think that you need a partner (boyfriend/girlfriend) teaches you that it is easy to
be in and out of love. Then when you get married you
go the same rout and everyone gets hurt because two
and three (children) families are involved.

There are NO advantages in DIVORCE

AS YOU HAVE ALREADY READ IT IS MOSTLY DONE FOR FINANCIAL GAIN.

Answer 8

I don't think the problem is rushing into divorce as much as rushing into marriage. If people would take the time to make sure the person they are marrying is compatible with them, the divorce rate would be much lower.
Divorce is something that can never be totally eliminated. But it doesn't have to be as common as it is.

Answer 9

Jhong,
My wife and I made a life committment to one another before we married. That was a conscious decision that we made and since we bacame Christians it does not matter that we made that committment to one another it also includes GOD. HE is a part of our relationship. My parents have been married for well over 50 years and they are awesome together. She is totally disabled and yet my dad is always there for her. I am as crazy about my wife as I was over 30 years ago when we first married. We have three children, a grandchild, nieces, nephews, and a slew of other relatives to share. Our church family is an important part of our lives also. I think GOD for bringing my wife and I together each and every day of my life. DIVORCE is another "quick fix" for people who don't want to work on their relationship or anything else. GOD does not favor DIVORCE for a reason. It is satan's way out. Have a great evening.
Thanks,
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Answer 10

I think that you have to look at the reason for the divorce. If there is any kind of abuse in the marriage... then that is the best for all involved. I stayed in my marriage, I got counselling from a Women's Shelter and got out !