Wives, have you every struggled with romantic feelings for another man?

Question

I think, 'emotional permeability' ... is a big issue for wives. They don't really intend to have, or want romantic feelings for other men. But, their boundary setting skills malfunction.

When you share too much personal information (even innocent info) with an attractive man can you go beyond meeting your social needs for 'congeniality' ... break through that 'social instinct' boundary ... and permeate into the 'sexual instinct' realm of your mind - the 'home' of romantic feelings.

Has this every happened to you? Did you talk about it with your husband? What happened?

Answer 1

I think it happens with many women, but not many admit it. I say, "You can look, but you can't touch." I have talked to other men. I am guessing my husband has probably talked to other women. However, I know when the "talking" has went too far. This has happened to me, and yes, it was hard to break it off. I realize that my husband is the best guy for me; that is why I married him. I think knowing that you still have "it" to other men keeps things interesting in your marriage. I take it as a compliment when other women find my husband attractive. I have confidence in myself that he will never stray. We are all human, and we have sinful desires. You just have to keep your hands to yourself and your spouse. I do not mean to sound self righteous, because I am very weak. If my husband wasn't so good to me, I would be "touching" another man in a heartbeat.

Answer 2

I wouldn't call it "struggle" but yes, I've had romantic feelings for another man before but I know my boundaries and once it gets to that point, I avoid the situation like the plague. As for your second question: No, I haven't told my husband about this. Knowing my husband, telling him something like this would do more harm than good. Besides, it's something I can handle on my own without having to tell my husband.

Answer 3

I just divorced a little while back. I had a friend once, who wasn't attractive to me at all. My ex-husband looked ten times better then he did. Yet, once we started talking I couldn't stop talking to him. He became more and more attractive to me. Over time I began to develop feelings for him. I never made anything of it. My attraction never really stopped for him until my marriage ended. I believe that I wasn't happy being tied down and he was my relief from conformity. I think any woman who has romantic feelings for another man other then her husband or boyfriend just isn't satisfied with the relatioship she is in at the time. I don't think the feelings for the other man are real, there just clues that she needs to make changes in her marriage or life.

Answer 4

I would like to say that in the two years that I have been married I would have to say that I have not found one man as attracting as my husband. He deserve my all in all.

Answer 5

If and when my husband every decides to divulge his Private thoughts to me then and only then will I tell him about my day dreaming of a certain person.

Answer 6

Feelings for opposite sex is natural phenomena. Expressing it instantly is also natural. But it should be stopped there only. No effects on family life should be there.

Answer 7

No never, My husband is my best friend and I tell him everything!

Answer 8

i think that ur watching alot of indian movies..r u married ..if u r!!!r u in doubt that ur wife maybe betrying u??!!
...answer: this depend on her husband if he was stupid , he would let his wife to meet his friends..or here friends(males)..

Answer 9

yes

Answer 10

never, my husband is enough for me!