Parenting - December 2007

Hi, my name is Gretchen and I am 18 yrs old. I just wanted to share with all of the parents out there who are raising teens that we actually do care what you think of us. Yeah, I know we can be pretty cold and seem like whatever you say doesn't effect us, but that isn't the case. We act that way because we are scared as hell. We are in that freaky place called high school where we are desperately trying to fit-in and many times the only way to do so and not get hurt is to act like nothing is bothering us. If your teen is emo or goth (www.urbandictionary.com for those who may not know the full spectrum of those words) PLEASE do not be dissapointed in them. I may not be myself, but I have pleanty of friends who are, and they are the ones who care what their parents say the most. There are very few cases that I have seen in which when a parent insults or compliments their teen it does not effect them at all. So please keep that in mind when you speak to us. We do care, I promise.

2007-12-28 06:55:06 · 11 answers · asked by gretti 1

i'm 17. my mom made some decisions that caused me to move about 16 times in a 10 or 11 yr period. there was this place we stayed and i liked it there. made friends, enjoy going to school then we moved and i became a loner again. i understand why we moved and i'm thankful for what i have but i just can't stop thinking about it.
i thought parents want their kids to be happy.

my 14 yr old sister only moved 3 times

2007-12-28 06:44:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been maried for 4.5 years its been a rather rocky marriage and we have a 4 yr old daughter together.
We have were seperated almost a year and for 6 months i worked abroad in Ireland.During my stay in Ireland i started briefly seeing someone else to get bad into the being single mode.I recently found out after i got back together with my hubby that im almost 13 weeks pregnant according to the ultra sound.Which would mean that i got pregnant 3 weeks before i came back to the states and would make the Irish guy the dad?I met this Irish guy in a local pub where he was very charming and nice.He works with his dads families contracting business traveling ect, and also dables in pro-fighting or just fighting(sometimes legal and sometimes not so legal).He seemed like an okay guy to me and was sweet to my daughter but my friend who is from his town says part (about half?)of his moms/dads family are Gypsies and cant be trusted?I have the number for his mothers shop do i call?

2007-12-28 06:35:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 06:25:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I gave birth to my son 6 months ago--a miracle child primarily because at 39, I wasn't sure if I would ever have a child. My doctor told me that this guy would be it because of complications and other health related issues. He is such a blessing!

The thing is that my sister-in-law and my brother are trying to have a second child. My other brother and his wife have 2 children as well. Though I am hopeful for my sister-in-law to get pregnant and have a sibling for my niece, there is a part of me that is jealous that they may be able to have another child. I feel bad that I feel this way. I know I should feel blessed that I could have at least 1 child because so many women can't even have that.

Is this a normal thing for a woman with one child to feel this way--this longing for another child? I feel so conflicted--sad about the not having another child thing --and then shameful that I'm even thinking this way to begin with. Any insights?

2007-12-28 05:34:41 · 46 answers · asked by sidnee_marie 5

has any1 got any? how were u brought to your correction? have any parents got any memories of spanking their offsprings?

2007-12-28 05:24:51 · 29 answers · asked by sweet surrender 2

I've found the perfect toddler bed for my son that we both absolutely love. Problem is, it states that its for three years and up. I was under the impression that toddler beds were for basicly 18 months and up, give or take depending on the child. Why would it be for 3 and up? It's a basic toddler bed with rails and its low to the ground, etc. So should I go ahead and get it or what? My judgement is that it would be safe for him but being a mother I don't want to go against an age guideline and my son get hurt. So anyone out there ever go through something similar and what did/would you do?

2007-12-28 05:19:14 · 26 answers · asked by boo kitty 4

A generation ago, young people took it for granted that they would marry and soon after baecome parents. Today's young couples seem to be putting off parenthood well into their marriages, and a significant number are not having children at all. Discuss the advantages and disadvantages of having children.

2007-12-28 05:11:00 · 9 answers · asked by neil v 1

is my dad being unreasonable? i live with both my parents. my best friend invited me to go with her to ottawa thats only 3 hours away by drive for 3 days on new years eve. we're taking a bus there and staying in a hotel. im 18 years old turning 19 in 2 months. my mom said its okay but my dad said that bad things happen on new years eve and that i cant go. i said he could talk to her parents about the trip but he still says no. i said he could have the number for the hotel if he wants to get in contact with me but he still doubts. every year at my house on new years eve we always do the same thing..stay home and watch a movie and he says we should do the same. he says i cant even go out to a party my friend is having cuz bad things happen on new years eve. he says he trusts me but he just doesnt trust the people out there. and just the other day he said to me "why cant u grow up?".ggrrrrrr im sssoooo mad i really wanna go on the trip what do i do? advice please!

2007-12-28 05:01:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 11 year old daughter who really wants a job. Of course it would be for only two to three hours after school,and it would be her own buisness. She would be doing things like :dog walking;selling cakes and cards and other simple things. She would be working around where she lives and will have adult supervision most of the time. She is very responsible,trusworthy and mature for her age.
SO SHOULD I LET HER TRY???????????

2007-12-28 04:50:47 · 32 answers · asked by Sweet pie 2

This young couple has no one here in town and at the time I accepted, I was really strapped for cash but that is not really the situation anymore. I watch their baby 5 days a wk that include weekends and charge them $90wk.Everyone who sees me home with this baby on weekends including my family tell me that I am dumb to watch her on weekends and especially for that little $. I feel bad to tell them no more b/c like I said, they have no one but the baby requires too much attention and constantly cries which disrupts my family(we have no babies in my home).Ppl tell me that this couple are not dumb, they know there is no one who is gonna do weekends for that price. Am I being foolish?

2007-12-28 04:38:41 · 12 answers · asked by Blue 4

Where is your daddy ? Now only i saw him correcting
exam papers.
Son : Went to correct his hair .
Mother ; '''''''''''''''

2007-12-28 02:32:59 · 7 answers · asked by thalathamarai 1

the reason is that i asked this question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvqY9XvoT.xmkeTIVo29az0jzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20071217125023AA7tiZ7&show=7
and most of the answers were that 8 was too old to wear a nappy for ANY reason.

What is the highest age it is acceptable for a child to wear a nappy?
What things is it acceptable to put a child in nappies for?
Do you think that it is acceptable to put a child in nappies at an older age if it is a pull-up so they can change it themselves?

i will not chose your answer as the best answer if you have not answered all three questions and in detail.

2007-12-28 02:11:22 · 12 answers · asked by myviewofstuff 2

I babysit two kids, a 1 year old and a 4 year old. I like kids but sometimes I do get annoyed with them, like I'm sure a lot of people do. But anyways. The 4 year old, only drinks fruit punch/kool-aid, and that is all his mother gives him.
He does not drink water, or milk.he always brings over this big container of punch for him, every week. I only let him drink in the kitchen so that he won't spill it on my carpet, but he constantly is getting up and going in and out of the kitchen when he is thirsty....it is kind of crowded in my apartment, so i just want him to drink all of the kool-aid at once that is in his cup and come sit down.
My husband comes home from work , and he gets a cup of kool-aid and the 4 yar old sees him gets some, so then he asks me for some, and I say no, you already had enough kool-aid today. Then my friggin' husband barges in and says "The boy is thirsty let him have some kool-aid." He made me mad when he did that,bc for one i'm the babysitter....

2007-12-28 01:37:06 · 15 answers · asked by Aneres 3

I've already got Meggie, need some more idea's plz.
If anyone like's, they may add something like,"Meggie bear, Meggie poo" Something cute if you want. Fanx <3

2007-12-27 21:04:59 · 11 answers · asked by The J 1

I was just watching one of those stage mom reality shows...it was boring but nothing else was on. Anyways while they were showing these girls (ages 2-12) in the competition I was shocked when I heard one of the moms say there was a swimsuit competition. I was expecting these little girls to come out in a one piece bathingsuit with little duckies or barbie on it or something but these children were wearing pink and white two piece bikinis...WTF!!?? Its about that time that I noticed that the crowd watching these "pageants" were made up of the parents of course but also a bunch of random guys who seemed to be there by themselves. Does anyone else see a problem with this?

2007-12-27 17:04:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need to find instructions, preferrably in drawing, of how to teach children to put their coats on by laying them on the floor then putting your arms in and flipping them over your heads!! I know motessori school teach this for independence.

2007-12-27 15:26:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I believe that there are other methods of disciplining your child.
But you know how children play up and do the same things over and over again. Maybe spanking them occasionaly when they've done something spantaneous (naughty).
What are your views in that?

2007-12-27 13:37:41 · 37 answers · asked by Giorgia 2

our grandson is 6 years old he lives with us he has ASD and some very challenging behaviour any ideas on how to stop him hiting us and throwing things at us and slaming doors in our faces and the fowl language is hurendious he isnt like this all the time but it is on a daily basis he is like two children one is this loving little boy and then from no where comes this terror that i cant get through to time out dont work he dont play with nowt so taking toys away is no good i cant reason with him when he is the terror and when he is back to our loving little fella he has no idea he has been behaving so awfull we are all getting so stressed out and any advise that any one out there has would be realy apresiated he was in hospital on christmas eve to have all his top teeth out he vomits on a regular basis and the acid has made his teeth roten thats just another one of his problems

2007-12-27 13:10:44 · 6 answers · asked by darlonana 1

2007-12-27 12:47:01 · 14 answers · asked by Gophills 2

I'm looking for deep, introspective, intuitive answers...not generic, simple answers

thanks :o)

2007-12-27 12:20:23 · 8 answers · asked by *EmmaSurella* 2

Hi
My husband and I have a three week new baby boy. It took us a long time and effort to get pregnant - we both wanted this child for a long, long time (been married 10 years). Now that the baby here I can't believe how my husband is acting....He still works late, still enjoys relaxing with a few beers and then wants to handle a newborn - not drunk but he's not himself. I find this behaviour shocking - didn't he think his life would change? After 3 weeks he finally felt he was ready to change his first diaper but I wasn't allowed to help.....I listened to my baby cry for 2 mins. before I forced my way in....he wont let me suggest anything. Not sure how to get through to him - he's driving me crazy (even more crazy than the usual hormonal crazies I've been feeling ie. very protective of my new baby). Or, is it me? Do other husbands act like this? Feeling worried and nervous about this whole situation.
thanks for any advice

2007-12-27 12:09:39 · 21 answers · asked by luvmynwf 3

What's the going rate these days from the tooth fairy? I have NO idea???

2007-12-27 11:45:46 · 26 answers · asked by Sassy Pants 3

I have a friend with a child that has Downs Syndrome and I think this child is an exceptional human being! She is friendlier
than most adults I know and I really enjoy being around her. She makes me smile when I have had a rough day.Every day is happy for her. I think God gives these "special" children to special people because they teach us so much. Any of you special parents care to share something about your precious gift from God?

2007-12-27 11:29:05 · 9 answers · asked by Bird lady 4

a girl was babysitting her older sisters baby because she was tired from work. so all goes well for the first few hours. Then the mother of both the older sister and the girl shows up holding hot tea (the mother mostly babysitts the child) Since the mother was getting ready to eat she said she would feed the baby also. the girl agrees and tells her she is going to go use the bathroom "quickly" . while in the bathroom the girl hears a splash and then crying so she thinks that the toddler accidently spilled her drink but then she hears heavy crying so she rushes down stairs and tells her mother why is the baby crying so loud and the mother says '' she spilled my hot tea on her arm". when the girl looked at the baby arm it was burned, a piece of the skin was gone frightened and amazed at the burn she calls the childs mother. When she arrives she blames it on the girl becuase she left her in charge but then blames it on both of them for not removing the tea so who's to blame

2007-12-27 10:55:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just want to get a few people's input on this subject... any amazing sites out there that you can also find regarding this question?

2007-12-27 10:32:42 · 16 answers · asked by TashaD 2

I have a 10 year old stepdaughter who doesn't really know how to share. Why? cause she is the only kid that her dad had rasied since she was 3, I have 2 kids of my own and they know how to share! She just dosen't like to share at all! what can I do to make that problem stop?

2007-12-27 10:31:50 · 8 answers · asked by I love my angels 6

I can understand why families had more children in the past. They needed children to work on the farm and they had more health problems that could lead to a death of a child. But in this day and age there is no need to have more than 2 children. When you have more than 2 children, you have less quality time to spend with each child. I guess those parents (with more than 2 children) choose quantity over quality.

Why do people have more than 2 children?

2007-12-27 08:57:19 · 24 answers · asked by kidfree 4

I myself am 19 years old and me and my bf have decided that we do not want kids in the future, but my mom keeps telling me that I'll change my mind.
My question is to the mothers, Did you always know you wanted kids and if not when did you realize?

2007-12-27 08:41:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why does society in genral expect children to be controlled?
Not in a bad behaviour way, but in their daily routine.
Why do they have to sleep, eat, and play when it is convenient to their parents?
I have so many people who have a pop at me for doing things like feeding my children when they are hungry. If your child woke up in the night and couldn't get back to sleep because they were hungry, wouldn't you feed them? It has happened to my eldest a few times and I have fed her, which some people have absoultely slated me for. The thing is it only took 5 mins and she was back asleep, if I had left her to cry about it then we both would have been up all night.
And whats wrong with feeding a baby on demand? I eat when im hungry, not when someone tells me I can eat!
I don't have any strict routine with my children, I follow their signals, but they have fallen into their own routine that they are happy with and I must say is pretty good. They sleep 7pm-6am most nights.
Opinions?

2007-12-27 08:38:54 · 12 answers · asked by Mummyme 3