I'm looking for deep, introspective, intuitive answers...not generic, simple answers
thanks :o)
2007-12-27 12:20:23 · 8 answers · asked by *EmmaSurella* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I didn't. I wasn't ready till my second child came. I think alot of us aren't ready till we have no choice. If you are in a stable relationship (I personally think that is marriage), can afford yourself and a child, and are ready to give up your life for 18 years, then maybe you are ready. Its not some easy answer. You need to talk with your partner about parenting styles before a child is even planned. You both need to open up about your childhood and how your parents raised you (it factors into your parenting alot). You both need to know how to communicate without yelling and hitting. You need to be ready in case you have a very rough pregnancy or even have to go on bed rest. (I just crawled out of bed after living there for a week. My 4th pregnancy has really wrung me out, and I'm still first trimester). Save up a few months expenses and talk about if you or he want to be a stay at home parent, work part time, or other arrangements. The best thing you can do is be prepared, but please realize a baby doesn't work on your schedule. It comes when it comes.
2007-12-27 12:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to explain.
When you look at a child, say at the mall, instead of thinking"what a beautiful baby" something will change inside you and you will imagine right there what YOUR life would be like with YOUR child.
I felt almost a pulling in my heart.
Both of our children are adopted from China. And our youngest was a waiting child(she was 3.5)
When I saw her picture in the agency website, I just knew she was supposed to be my daughter. She was my child.
2007-12-27 20:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by thechinamom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you ever know that you are ready to have a child and even though i love being a mum nothing can prepare you for the way all the responsibility of having a child changes you and your life from the moment your pregnant your not number1 any more your life is devoted to keeping that child safe.When i was pregnant with my second child it used to upset me because i thought it was impossible to love any one else as much as i already loved my first but you do and now 5 children later nothing prepared me for any of them but i don't have any regrets
2007-12-27 20:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are willing to put yourself second. You have to be fully willing to make sacrifices to ensure that your child is always your top priority. Obviously, this results in a lot less "you" time, but I can honestly say is very rewarding and indescribable to someone who is "ready".
Good Luck!
2007-12-27 20:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Trent&Lilah'sMomma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your done going out on weekends because you have a child to care for. When you have all your toys bought because you wont be able to afford them anymore because your buying baby toys. When you can afford to support it along with yourself.
2007-12-27 20:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by grasshopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me when you get to that time when you are in the hospital and the babby comes you are ready.you just have the most wonderful felling in the world.its amazing.if your not ready the why did god give you the gift of life?
2007-12-27 20:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Katlyn M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you and your husband are ready, in love, and have an exceeding amount of love to offer the child to be, when you and your husband know its right. you'll just know.
2007-12-27 20:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by ohcallmejade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the stork comes.
2007-12-27 20:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by James S. 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋