i'm 17. my mom made some decisions that caused me to move about 16 times in a 10 or 11 yr period. there was this place we stayed and i liked it there. made friends, enjoy going to school then we moved and i became a loner again. i understand why we moved and i'm thankful for what i have but i just can't stop thinking about it.
i thought parents want their kids to be happy.
my 14 yr old sister only moved 3 times
2007-12-28 06:44:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I understand all about the moving. My parents were in the military and every 2-4 years we would pack up and move yet again. Makes it very difficult on a child to learn to make friends and actually be close to someone. But you do have to realize that you parents are doing the best they can. And sometimes there is no choice, you have to move. All I can say is talk with your mom about all the moving and let her know how it makes you feel. She can't talk to you about it if she doesn't know your having such a hard time.
2007-12-28 07:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Erika 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand, my parents moved five times in one year. It sucked. Hang in there and hope that if and when you become a parent, life is so different for you that you can provide your family with the stability you want so much for yourself. Thats what I did and its been pretty good. I think most parents do want their children to be happy, but life does not allways make that possible. Decisions have to made that can be hard and painful and consequence is something that cannot be considerated at the time. Your time will come.
2007-12-28 16:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Otoe Dawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, this is a TERRIBLE thing to do to kids.....PERIOD. However, I want you to know that some kids from military families do very well in life. The moving around forced them to make new friends and helped them have an open mind in dealing with life, in general. It is totally OK to question your Moms decisions because they have affected you. You can decide if this is the way you want to live your own adult life. If you do not, then I suggest you learn from your Mom's experience and live differently. What you will find later on is that this moving has left you with some "gifts"...it is up to you to find them. It has also had a downside. You get to choose where you put your focus.
2007-12-28 15:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your parents have to make decisions for u now, but when you're 18 you can always go back to the place that made u feel happy and u had friends. I'm sorry for what u went through. I'm sure ur mom wants u to be happy but there's gotta be a good reason why you're moving so much, maybe its just for the better, so that means she loves you and cares for u.
2007-12-28 15:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by acia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving around alot is hard on any child and it seems the older you get the more difficult it is to make friends. Perhaps you could try going to youth groups or after school activities. You will make some new friends eventually. Perhaps take your little sister with you to some youth groups. It will get better with time and you just have to let go and try and move on. All the best!
2007-12-28 14:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Natz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rough. Don't know the situation, but if you liked it there and you are seventeen, you'll soon be old enough to make your own decision. Maybe you can reconnect with the friends you made, or move back on your own.
2007-12-28 15:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be places on earth that feel good to you. And if possible you should live there. That is just the way it is....usually kids don't pick up on this. But you have; so when you can you should try to get back to were you felt good.
2007-12-28 16:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience when I was growing up...It is a hard thing to have to go through but the advantage is that you have learned to adapt to changes and will be stronger for it. So, even though you have sad feelings about it, remember that you also gained from your experience.
2007-12-28 15:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by psychtx444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've found a skool you really like, tell your parents you really don't want to move, we all get hard times when we are loners in skool nd you feel like you wanna bury urself in the sand, just wait. things will get better, just think... its not long til u finish skool for good, i nearly always fell like a loner in skool. i'm in year 9..... it'll take ages before i can finish skool. just make friends and if they don't like you tell them to p*ss off.
2007-12-28 14:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by HannuhBanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you understand why you moved
then something obviously was wrong, parents should really wish the best for their kids.. if they don't then they shouldn't be parents
but you made it out that something was wrong?
if so when that's why you had to move, have you told your mother about it?
2007-12-28 14:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋