Parenting - December 2007

Wether you like it or not parents, almost half (47%) of the teens in the united states admits to having pre-marital sexual intercourse. You can look on yahoo answers and read all the questions from kids, a lot of whom are in middle school, and see how sexually advanced they are. Why do you think so manny middle schoolers/high schoolers are having sex as young as 12 and 13 years old? Thats just kind of schocking to me, Im only 18 and I remember back in middle school sex was the last thing I thought about, then again I went to a very small private school with about 20 kids in the whole school. I know a lot of parents are going to say, "Oh its not my child, she/he doesn't do those types of things", but if 47% of teenagers are doing it than more than likely some of you parents out there, your kids are having sex or some sort of sexual intercourse. I know it has a lot to do with environment and peers. In about 10-12 years I really want to have children but Im really afraid at the

2007-12-24 11:54:37 · 13 answers · asked by Queen of the World 5

I live in NE and the father lives in MO. He wants joint custody but I don't want him to be able to take my child through Iowa down to MO every other weekend or whatever the case may be. My friends have told me that in NE, you cannot give joint custody to a parent who lives outside of the state because they cannot legally take the child across state lines, at least not without the other parents permission. I was just wondering if there is any truth to this or if anyone else has been in a similar situation.

2007-12-24 10:47:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 10:30:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 07:30:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 07:14:48 · 17 answers · asked by Amish 1

My daughter wants to go play soccer, but she is worried that she will get hurt. She is afraid that she will break a leg or get scars, but she still wants to play soccer. She told me that she wants to play soccer like her older sister, but doesn't want to get hurt. She saw her older sister get hurt in a soccer game and now she is scared to death, but still wants to play! What should I tell her. These kids are between ages 5-10. Oh, please don't say that it's not likely for her to get hurt in a kids' game because I've seen some pretty nasty accidents in a kids' soccer game before. So I can't tell my daughter that she won't get hurt, because she might. I don't want her to get hurt, but every sport does have a few risks if you know what I mean. And if she gets really into soccer in the next few years, will the possibility of her getting hurt increase? What would you do in this situation?

2007-12-24 07:09:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to teach my 6 y.o. that you need to write thank you's to show appreacation after recievng a gift. Is ok for me to write a simple thank you note, make copies then have him fill in the names ( ie, nana, auntie, etc) then sign his name at the bottom, so he doesn't get overwhelmed?

2007-12-24 06:51:39 · 15 answers · asked by sweetpea 1

When they have just eaten or want something else to eat,
Mine do and I lost custody recently, this was one of the reasons in court,
Apparently I don't feed my kids
Do yours do this ??

2007-12-24 06:20:33 · 10 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6

We live in a regular housing area nothing fancy or run down. I have seen a huge rise in people begging for presents for their children around my area. They want things like an XBOX (for free) Video games, cameras....etc nothing that is a necessity. I believe it is rude to actually go up to people and ask them to provide for your children with toys...how about food or similar? Some actually do this through the computer asking for "donations". I was literally in Toys R us when a man and woman approached me asking me to buy their "sick" child a $26 DVD. Im not rich nor do I dress like I am rich. How would you react if someone came up to you or even in your neighborhood handing out fliers for free gifts?

I mean I do, donate so many toys for legit donation centers and actually I adopted 2 childrens names off of the Christmas tree to donate gifts for but this is ridiculous.

2007-12-24 05:44:59 · 18 answers · asked by Rina 5

... they are not going to Church or visiting or should they be allowed to slum around in pyjamas half of the morning and then throw on any old thing.
I always dressed my boys up smartly for Church and then they could change into something more casual but still smart (often a new item) for visiting my parents and so on.
I think that it shows respect to visitors if the children are dressed nicely for Christmas - and it gives them a sense of occaision too - after all it is a birthday.
I may not bother going visiting this year as I don't like to see Christmas downgraded by it being all about food and presents without respect for *guests*.

2007-12-24 05:32:19 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it bad to spank? i tried once but it made me feel like i was the owner of a dog and my kid was the dog!

2007-12-24 05:13:28 · 29 answers · asked by Kayla L 1

When do you open presents in your family? On my side of the family we open our presents on Christmas Eve(tonight). So we spend Christmas Eve with my family. Then my daughters open their presents from "Santa" tomorrow morning. Then we go to my husbands' side of the family and open more presents because they open presents on Christmas Day.


I know I posted it twice in two different sections but that is to get more answers.

2007-12-24 04:21:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

On a day to day basis how much sugar is concidered too much for a child to consume?

2007-12-24 02:30:52 · 10 answers · asked by missology 101 2

My husband wants me to tell our twins (a boy and a girl) about Santa this Christmas but there only 7 yrs old. I want them to believe but he doesn't. What should i do....

2007-12-24 00:48:37 · 22 answers · asked by ME! 3

2007-12-23 23:42:35 · 17 answers · asked by dale i 2

2007-12-23 20:38:15 · 23 answers · asked by TT 2

2007-12-23 18:28:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i watch a six month old girl her parents are my next door neighbors and they let me bring her over to my grandmas and my grandma doesn't listen when i say she can't go to sleep pass a certain time and she always rocks her to sleep how do i stop her from doing that.? and another thing she likes to tell me all these mexican myths and how do i tell her nicely that they aren't working and she always tells me how to do my job. and i get sick of it! so help what do i say to her..?

2007-12-23 16:50:09 · 9 answers · asked by Kendra L 1

Ok I will make this as brief as possible. i am the step dad in our situation and have no kids of my own. My fiance and I have been together for a year and a half and she has three children 7,5,and 1. In the year and a half that we have been together I have been the childrens dad and that is what they call me. Their Father/sperm donor has had contact with them a total of maybe eight times never for more than an overnight. They have been acting worse for some reason these last few weeks and for some reason it has continued to go downhill. Their father told them that if they continued to act this way that santa would skip them and they would have no christmas at all this year. (spare me your beliefs on santa I am an adult they are children) Both me and their mother have been telling them the same thing but i thought it really was more of a motivation thing. I still went out and spent a few hundred on gifts and now their father says skip it and their mother says its up to me.

2007-12-23 15:38:01 · 13 answers · asked by soccerstar1141 2

I need your advice or words of encouragement. I'm very concerned about leaving my little one (17 months). She's always been with me since the day she was born and although I feel like it is somewhat of a necesity for me to go to school for a good career in which I can work part-time and still contribute greatly financially, I can't help feeling extremely guilty about leaving her during the hours I'm at school. My mom or my husband will watch her while I'm at school, so that's not a concern, but when my oldest was younger, I was going to nursing school and I have always felt guilty about that because I felt like I didn't spend enough time with her because I was so consumed with school. I graduated and began working only to find out that I hated it, so years later I am basically in the same position and fear not spending a lot of time with my youngest. We're not doing well financially so that is why I decided to go back to school for a better career for my family that I don't hate.

2007-12-23 15:35:59 · 12 answers · asked by LuckyMom2 2

I have a 12 year old daughter. I don't hit my kids or mistreat them in any way. I probably and too nice to them. Every now and then she becomes a little rebellious and disobeys me. I asked her to pick up a few items she left out before going o bed. She refused and would not do it. I asked her again more sternly and then gave her a final warning. Still she refused. So I intentially raised my voice in a loud fashion changed my epression and demanded that she do it (I think my "yelling" would have waked the dead). She got up and put it away. I then let her calm down a bit and sent her and her brother to bed. I heard her sniffling in her room. I was so tempted to go in and console her, but I felt doing so would negate my authority in her eyes and lose credibility.

She is a good kid. I just feel bad I have to do this. But it was the right thing to do right?

I know that what this really is, is the beginning of her need for independence as a teenager, but it so tough.

2007-12-23 15:27:56 · 32 answers · asked by Colonel Chaos 2

Ok I have seen these parents a lot, from what I can tell they seem to be getting more common you know the parent that no matter what their child does they are still an angle. I think its wrong if my child did something wrong I would dicipline them how else are they going to respect people and know to choose "right" instead of "wrong"

So are you one of those parents or do you know any of those parents. AND PLEASE share stories of what the parents swept under the carpet.

2007-12-23 14:49:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

when do you think you should let that child know that they're adopted?

2007-12-23 14:27:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well I can't give my kids much sweets because we are vegatarian but I dont really want to give them any except for special occasions like birthdays, great achievements and such. Sweets are not apart of my family traditions, my mother never let sweets into the house except for at Christmas and suprisingly or not I was the only one of all my friends never to have got a filling anyway do you plan to give sweets sparingly like me or like other parents to give sweets everytime the child crys or something else. I'd love to hear your responces thank you!

2007-12-23 14:20:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you try to control how your child dresses? Do you? (If you do, how old are they?)
What if they dressed like this?
http://www.flickr.com/photos/woesinger/1141654819/
Just totally freaky and punk-ish. Would you interfere? Why/Why not?

So your answer should be like this.

Whether you would or wouldn't try to control the way they dress-their age if you would try to.
Whether you would try to stop them from dressing like...well, you know. And why or why not.

It doesn't have to be in those words, of course. :)

2007-12-23 13:49:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

How old are they now? Also, if you had one child who got Cs and Ds and one child who got As and the occassional B, would you let one date before you let the other? On a scale of 1-10, how strict are you? Why did you rate yourself this way?
(The third question is just to find out if you're stricter or more relaxed than my parents, so plase be honest)

2007-12-23 13:31:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

With all the technology available to this generation and future ones, is the an expectation of "it is mine, I want it now, I don't have to earn it"? In the past, we were taught hard work will be the payoff, but now everything is at your fingertips.

2007-12-23 12:48:43 · 12 answers · asked by dragonlady 1

2007-12-23 10:40:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

One of my inlaws is a single mother and has her child in daycare for up to 12 hours each day. I left my career to stay home with my child. Lately I have been hearing about the so-called "benefits" of daycare from a couple of my inlaws. Like "oh Janey is walking early because she sees the other kids at daycare" or "Janey plays so well with the other children because of daycare". I'm just getting frustrated because I want more credit for what I do! I don't think there are ANY benefits to daycare for a toddler. Anyone else ever get strange comments from family about staying at home? Oh another comment I've gotten from a working mom was "I don't know HOW you do it". Like it's so bad to stay home or something. Okay, I had to vent! Thanks!

2007-12-23 07:42:03 · 17 answers · asked by Carrie 4

I also have an eight year old daughter...She obviosly knows the difference between girls and boys but should she really be exposed to this...

2007-12-23 07:25:03 · 9 answers · asked by J F 1