Ok I have seen these parents a lot, from what I can tell they seem to be getting more common you know the parent that no matter what their child does they are still an angle. I think its wrong if my child did something wrong I would dicipline them how else are they going to respect people and know to choose "right" instead of "wrong"
So are you one of those parents or do you know any of those parents. AND PLEASE share stories of what the parents swept under the carpet.
2007-12-23 14:49:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
lol tink thats funny but I was talking more about parents like my neighbour.
Her son has been sent home from school numerous times for beating up kids (hes starting it I know- he attacked me once) but she refuses to believe it is him who is at fault and so will not dicipline him.
2007-12-23 14:59:01 · update #1
I have my own story. When I was a child, I was talking on the phone to my friend. She was having a birthday party and I asked her what she wanted for her birthday. She asked me to hold on. What I didn't know was that she didn't want me at her party and was trying to un-invite me without her parents knowing because they would be angry at her. Next thing I know, the line goes dead. I call her back and her mother answers and yells at me and tells me they never want me in their house ever again... blah blah blah...
Later her mom speaks with mine and tells my mother that I said "f*** off" (big deal back then so her parents un-invited me basically)
I didn't say it though.
A week later, the girl admitted it - but the parents refused to believe her. They said that she wanted to play with me again and so she was lying about saying it.
2007-12-23 15:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by belizeable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the neighbor's child probably has unchecked emotional problems; hence feels the need to bully people and other kids to get attention. for some, negative attention is better than none. this boy needs HELP not a spanking... and he probably needs love and attention in his life, too...
on the other side of the coin, i've seen parents who give their kids things insead of guidance, encouragement and support. they leave them to fend for themselves, because they are too busy to give them the most precious gift of all -- their time. i was even guilty of that once in a while as my kids grew up. sometimes we have to stop, smell the roses, and think about how we are living, and what we can do to change.
parents are also very inconsistent with their kids.. they set a rule for the kid, and before the kid breaks the rule, you'll see the parent breaking it for them! same with punishment -- the child is punished and every time the parent "gives in" and lightens up the punishment. so the kid knows that even if he misbehaves, it's likely he won't be punished for long at all...
i could go on all night, but im getting tired! take care.
2007-12-23 19:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAH--I am the opposite of that. I was very harsh on my boys, and they consequently grew into productive, thoughtful adults, with not a minute in jail among them!!!
If they messed up, they PAID for it. They are now 24, 25, 27---a soldier that just came back from Iraq, a salaried manager at Mc D's, and a political journalist-in-the-making at college.
You too can have great kids like this.......with some old-fashioned swats on the azz when they do wrong!
2007-12-23 15:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not like that, but I have a friend that is, well more she is not very firm, and I have gotten angry with her as it has involved my children. Her oldest is 6 and my daughters are 4, well her little girl is a mean brat. We were at their house for a play date and this little girl took the swing and pushed it so it hit my daughter in the face, it was pretty hard too, and my daughter came crying with a bruise forming already beneath her eye, and all this girls mom could say was that wasn't very nice I think you should say your sorry, well she did, and then ran off to play. I mean if my daughters did something like that, they would have a time out and they would need to make a sincere apology.
2007-12-23 17:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck NO. I am nothing like that. I know that my child is not the smartest or perfect or the prettiest. I don't sugar coat anything. For example my daughter has a 3rd grade reading and understanding level in the 1st grade but the child has NO common sense and sometimes walks into walls. All book smarts and no common sense-I am hoping that before she is 12 she figures all that out. LOL!
2007-12-23 14:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mom who has called her kids school and ask them to place a harsher punishment on my child when he acted up at school. I don't let them get away with acting up. They need to learn to be respectful and to make wise choices. It's my job to teach them.
As for the other side. I have known several parents who are always making excuses for their kids. It's never their kids fault, etc.
Once example, a neighbor. Her 2nd grader was calling kids names, picking on them, being mean to them at the bus stop. My kids finally got tired of it and jumped her case about it. Next thing I know here are her parents at my door step giving me the "she's only a second grader" line. Bullshit! If you let her get away with it now she is only going to get worse and to add to that she's going to think she can get away with it. I told her parents if your kids thinks she is big enough to treat others that way then she gets what she has coming. If you won't teach her any better someone has to and it may as well be one of my kids!
They haven't come back to talk to me since. Oh well.
2007-12-23 15:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law kills me. She will make excuse after excuse for the behavior of my son. 'Oh he's not feeling well. He shouldn't be in trouble.' Let alone for my husband. He wasn't the best teenager in the world--far from it. There's excuses from her and of course none of it is her fault. It's because of his dad [they're divorced] or because he got into drugs--I wonder why? Anyway, that's annoying to me. If my son is behaving badly--he's behaving badly. No excuses. I don't care if he's tired. I don't care if he's cranky. You don't misbehave.
2007-12-23 15:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 13, and I'm disciplined, and understand right and wrong. They're rough on me at times, but I love how they're shaping me into a well-rounded individual.
2007-12-23 14:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter IS an angel
2007-12-23 15:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋