should i spank?

Question

is it bad to spank? i tried once but it made me feel like i was the owner of a dog and my kid was the dog!

Answer 1

I wish more people would spank their kids. This world would be better off.

The main reason why people are against spanking is because they are afraid to upset their kids.

Then you have the people who say that it's abuse. Like Glenn Beck said:

"You can spank your child without abusing them just like you can hug your child without molesting them."

I was spanked as a kid. I never smoked, drank, did drugs, had sex, or got in to any major trouble like most kids do these days.

Spank your kids. Otherwise the world will...just not literally.

Answer 2

I dont know spanking honestly never worked for any of my siblings or me. Spanking is good for immediate reaction and will definitely stop kids for a short while but after a few hours kids tend to just go back to what they were doing and forget. Its kinda like this. 5 minute of fear 3minutes of pain and 1 hour of aftershock then they just go on for a week. Here is how it is when TV is take away for a week 5-10 minutes of guilt time to think what they have done and 1 whole week of boredom at home with nothing to do. I know how it feels I am 12 years old.

Answer 3

It depends on your child and your prefrences. I was spanked as a child... and I turned out ok...
I have chosen not to spank my daughter, because frankly I don't like seeing a child cry out of fear or pain. Standing in the corner has worked awesome for my daughter. She relitively well behaved (though she is still a 3 year old) and pretty much listens to me all the time. Once in a while she'll have a day where she's super-rotten and doesn't want to listen, but other than that she's great. I don't believe there is anything wrong with a good hard smack on the rear, just don't break out the belt!

Answer 4

"it made me feel like i was the owner of a dog and my kid was the dog!" That's because as a human you SHOULD be more intelligent than apes who hit their offspring. Hitting your children only proves you don't have the intelligence to parent effectively without resorting to physical violence. You need a discipline plan (time outs DO work) and stick to it CONSISTENTLY.
Edtied to answer the first response:
"I was spanked as a kid. I never smoked, drank, did drugs, had sex, or got in to any major trouble like most kids do these days." I too was spanked as a kid. I started smoking at the age of nine and continued until I was 31. I drank like a fish in highschool as well as did drugs...cocaine was my drug of choice. I had sex starting in my late teens and an abortion at 21. So I just blew your theory way out of the water sweets. Spanking doesn't stop "bad" behavior.

Answer 5

Occasionally you might need to. If you have to do it more often than once or twice a month, you might have a real problem and need to do some thinking about your relationship with the child.

Also, "spanking" should mean a few swats with the palm of your hand, on the kid's clothed butt. No hitting with switches because you can really injure someone that way. Also hitting anywhere except the butt can really injure them - the butt is padded! And no bare-butt spankings. That sexualizes it, and when your kid grows up he may want to do kinky things with a dominatrix.

Answer 6

I don't think spanking per se is bad. However, a number of factors need to be considered. They would include: The age of your child; the offense your child committed; the effectiveness of other punishments such as grounding with this child; and your child's attitude after committing the offense (is he/she sorry about what they did?).

I personally do believe spanking can be a very effective punishment in some situations. If you decide to do it, I recommend you use nothing but your hand. Take the child somewhere private, take down their pants, bend them over your knee, and spank on the seat of their underwear. This is a good way of driving home to the child that they have crossed a line with you that you don't intend to tolerate. It also shows that you the parent (adult) are the one in charge in your family. Sadly, that is a lesson alot of kids in this day and age don't seem to have learned.

Answer 7

What age was your kid (dog)?

If your kid is old enough to understand the spanking, and as long as it was age-appropriate, then spank if needed.

If you gave him/her a "time-out" and the kid bawled; maybe tht would make you feel bad too. But would you, therefore, never try "time-out" again?

As for your dog ... maybe you should consult a dog psychologist.
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Answer 8

I have a daughter thats 1 years old, but I have read every book out there. When my daughter gets older I have to decide if there should be time-outs or spankings.

Answer 9

NEVER ever spank your kids.

This will teach them nothing, only to be scared of you and cause problems in later life. If you think it helps them, then your wrong.

I was never spanked when I was little. Both my mother and my father felt this was a cruel punishment. And I've turned out great. Spanking your child will make them think you don't love them, and will make them thinking hitting is right. Remember they copy what you do.

Spanking your child is just an accuse to not think of a better solution. Parents can find much better ways to punish their children then hurting them.

It's sad people still think this is acceptable. I wouldn't spank your children, you are doing them no favors by doing so.

You teach them fear, not what is right or wrong.

I hope you make the right choice, for their sake and your conscience.

And also, can none of you parents think of a better way they scaring your children and hurting them? be a good parent. I'm not saying you shouldn't be strict when you need to, but that you should actually THINK for awhile.

I just think it's wrong.

And good point grreengirrl. What is worse is that a child is defenseless. They can't fight back. And if they do, then they will get in worse trouble. But how is it right for a parent to hit, and then the child can't? You teach them nothing.

And imagine one day your child talking to their friends, really upset.
"My mommy doesn't love me. She hits me whenever I do anything wrong. She doesn't understand me."

Learn to teach your child without physical punishment. There are other ways.

by 2007, we are past this, and better then this.

Answer 10

There is a difference between spanking and abusing and I am sure you know that line. I was spanked and turned out normal. It's the problem with youth today, they arent spanked enough!

Answer 11

Spanking is not 'bad' per say, however if you are having doubts then I would suggest you choose another way to discipline your child.