For a child, is a divorce or a conflicted marriage is better?

Answer 1

That is one difficult question to answer. A forced marriage that is only clinging together because there is a child or some notion of embarressment will only make for a child learning that arguing with their future spouse is the right and only way to live. It's cruel and torturous to punish everyone because everyone is affraid of the change to come. Treat your marriage like a business, when the business fails sell the stock and file bankruptsy, don't continue trying to salvage a moneyhole. Get what I'm saying?

I come from a divorced family. We do survive, quite nicely....believe it or not. No one died, no one got arrested and no one was blamed for the dissolution. As long as the child knows their oparents still love them, that child will be fine. Even if the child doesn't understand......be patient, eventually the child will grow up and see the logic in why the situation came about.

If you stay together and can't stand one another possibly ignoring the child because the both of ya' are so centered on the selfish "me", that child will seek guidance somewhere else. Be it the preacher, the teacher or drug manufacture.

Just imagine yourself as the child watching your parents fight. What would you have wanted, even when you argue quietly, your children still hear it and absorb it.

Answer 2

It is best for the child if the parents learn to solve the conflicts and stay together. There are degrees of conflict. If mean that one parent is abusing the other, then divorce is definitely better. If you mean that all the parents do is fight and have lost the ability to communicate, then divorce is probably better. If you mean that the parents are going through a rough patch or aren't perfectly happy together, then they need to grow up and see it through. Divorce is extremely traumatic for children and needs to be avoided if at all possible.

Answer 3

Strong question!
Without knowing all the details. If the marriage has no way of getting back on its feet and the couple are just conflicting with no hope, then divorce.

If it is just something that has just started happening you may be able to reconcile just what the problem is.

It isn't very nice for a child to keep hearing his mom and dad at one another's throats.

You could either see a marriage councellor or find advice from another source yourself - doctor - don't know - perhaps a real good friend who knows you both.

Answer 4

if by conflicted marriage you mean fighting and arguements then divorce is better. im 15 ill be 16 in a week and my parents divorced when i was 8, i cant remember much from when they were together but there were a lot of fights. For children divorce is definately easier than a conflicted marriage.

Answer 5

Divorce. My parents stayed together MUCH longer than they should have for the 'sake of the family.' The damage was I never knew what a healthy relationship looked like until I was 17 and they both remarried. At this point though the damage was done and I went through a string of very unhealthy relationships that mirrored that of my parents. Fortunately I was able to get counseling and a fresh perspective - but it took a while.

Answer 6

well Divorce is a long lasting situation...fights can always diminish if there is someone to help a marriage... specially the one that makes the mistake,but there's no forgiveness and there's no willingness's for being better. I guess every body or almost every body wants the easiest part of life, problems aren't solved by separating from them but to become wise enough to defeat those problems...and give a good example of friendship among relationships to the next generations...but then again, "who cares" it's easier to leave the kids without one parent. no wonder there's decay in the nation...no family values, because there are no real families, but well who cares? do you?

Answer 7

I divorced 15 years ago, my Children stayed with their Dad, I see them regular but it has done them no harm,they are happy grown up's with family of their own now, A child should not be around when there is a lot of rowing going on, best to tell them the truth, put an end to the marriage, stay civil to each other in front of the child, & NEVER run or blame the other one down to the child,

Answer 8

You I am divorce from my boys father
what I did that I though at the time was best turn out to be the true, I talk to my children I approach them about their fellings
conserning the separation we discuss it and after a while I point blank ask them what do they think about me making the final decission which was the Divorce suprise to say their answer was go a head mommy because you have been happier since the separation
I beleive that our children are much better to be our counselers than adults , I know that I have try never to say anything mean about their fahter to them and I have constantly support them in havign a relationship with him because they were closer to him than me
but at the end they did want me to be happy and they know that they were not divorcing their pa but I was
Talk to your child about what he/she think, I know conflic in a home is not the best place for a child, think about it this child deserve to be happy and feel safe when she/he is at home so please talk to your child about how he feel conserning his parent situation
Goodluck

Answer 9

This would depend on the degree of conflict in the marriage. Constant arguing or any violence or spousal abuse is definitely worse than divorce. Periodic arguments with no violence may be preferable to divorce.

Answer 10

Divorce, an AMICABLE divorce... with parents who use a mediator (if they must in order to compromise with one another to raise their children apart, peacefully) to help negotiate difficult situations would be healthier in the long run. Putting your child through a messy divorce, and battling in child custody court, etc. etc. etc. would obviously not be healthy.