Moms---please give me your advice!??

Question

My daughter wants to go play soccer, but she is worried that she will get hurt. She is afraid that she will break a leg or get scars, but she still wants to play soccer. She told me that she wants to play soccer like her older sister, but doesn't want to get hurt. She saw her older sister get hurt in a soccer game and now she is scared to death, but still wants to play! What should I tell her. These kids are between ages 5-10. Oh, please don't say that it's not likely for her to get hurt in a kids' game because I've seen some pretty nasty accidents in a kids' soccer game before. So I can't tell my daughter that she won't get hurt, because she might. I don't want her to get hurt, but every sport does have a few risks if you know what I mean. And if she gets really into soccer in the next few years, will the possibility of her getting hurt increase? What would you do in this situation?

I am as scared about her starting soccer as she is actually. Her main concern is getting scars. Should I try to convince her that she won't get scars? Can you end up with scars while playing soccer? I thought you were more likely to just get some bruisues, but I dont know........

I'm just worried that if gets hurt she will never try to go out for a sport again. Please help

Answer 1

reassure her that if she were to get a cut that could scar you could use mederma to lessen the appearance of them. also make sure she gets into a good program that has smaller age groups so that she won't be playing with kids that are much bigger than her. plus if she practices a lot and gets really good at it she'll be less likely to get injured.

Answer 2

All you can do is praise her for her enthusiasm, and tell her that you dont know if shell get hurt or not, but if she were too, that it wouldnt last and she can get right back up and try again. Allowing her to be afraid of getting hurt or trying to protect her from it will just make her miss out on alot of fun. Reassure her that you and the coaches will be there to watch her, cheer her on and take care of her if needed. As far as the scars, that sounds like an apperance concern, so maybe you can show her some of your old scars and tell her the stories about them and how you managed to get thru it and it was okay, or how much fun you had doing whatever you were doing when you got those scars and that your glad you were able to overcome it and have that experience. ie(learning to ride a bike falling, gettin hurt it leaving a scar but you still learned how to ride a bike....whatever the situtation) introduce her to some other kids her age or even just a year older that have already played. Make play dates with them at a park, and bring a soccer ball for them to kick around.
Good luck, hope this helpful!

Answer 3

I started playing soccer at the age of five. I played until I was 16. I'm not going to lie - soccer is one of the most brutal sports out there. Even at a children's recreation level. When you are younger, the chances for injury are less but I've seen many injuries at all ages.

Personally I have suffered from over 12 sprained ankles, torn ligaments, bruised bones, cuts and scrapes, and fractures. However, I would do it all over again. The injuries heal up but the memories of the games never vanish.

You can't promise she won't get hurt. But you can't live in fear of being hurt. You might as well wrap yourself in bubble wrap and bounce around the rest of your life. See what I'm saying? I think she should go for it and play. If she does get hurt, once the tears are gone she be begging to get back out on the field to play again. It is harder as a parent because you don't want your child to get hurt, but sometimes you just need to let them go and have fun.

P.S. I was goalie. That is the most dangerous position, followed by offense and midfield. Defense is the safest position so it might be good if she starts out there until she gets the hang of the game.

EDIT-
Scars: I've never scared from a soccer injury and I don't know anyone that did. You really have to rip your skin good or cut it deep enough to get a scar while playing soccer. Many cuts will heal and vanish within a few weeks.
A lot of the cuts com from running into one another but if you are with a good league they will check the girls before the game starts to make sure they don't have jewelry, sharp cleats, or berets in their hair. These items can cause cuts and therefore are usually banned. Other instances are when you get hit with a ball in the face. That can cause your teeth to cut your cheeks. Additionally, if they play on rough grass, falling down can sometimes cause abrasions to the skin on the chin, hands, knees, or elbows. It is very unlikely that it will scar though. If she does scar, being that she is young, it is very likely that the over the counter creams will eliminate the appearance of it.

Answer 4

Don't lie to her. Tell her that there is a chance she will get hurt or scarred by playing soccer. Tell her that she can get hurt or scars just by tripping over her own feet when walking too! It is important to try new things and to work out her fears. Just be supportive.

Answer 5

I would tell her the truth. I would tell her that when one plays any sort of a game that there is a chance of getting hurt and possibly getting scars too.
While I myself am not a fan of any sort of games, if she wants to play at least let her have the chance to play. You might want to have her talk to the other soccer players about how they felt when they were first getting into the game. They have experience and can help to alleviate her fears ans perhaps give her the confidence that she needs.
Let her know that you will support her decision - no matter what she decides.
Good luck to you and your daughter!!!!!

Answer 6

Tell her that she can play soccer if she wishes but that she has to understand that sometimes you can get hurt - like if you fall down, get kicked on accident, etc. This comes with the sport. She has to understand that. What else can you tell her?

Answer 7

it is possible for her to get hurt in gym class......or just walking down the street. I would encourage a child to get involved with organized sports, they build character, self esteem, and a sense of camaraderie.....the chances of getting seriously hurt playing kids soccer is very low. No one wants their child to get hurt...but you can't keep them in a plastic bubble either. My sons all play hockey, as did I when younger. I believe having to co-operate in groups of my peers outside of school has made me a better person, as it will my sons. Soccer is an excellent game, good fun, and exercise. It isn't as if she wants to be a tight-rope walker!


*who is the tool giving out the thumbs down??? these are all good answers.....

Answer 8

I would let her play. We take risk everyday , crossing the street, riding in a car, flying, the foods we eat, there are risk everywhere. She is building this up in her mind bigger than what it is. Yes , she will get hurt, but how bad does she want to play.We can get hurt in our homes, schools anywhere, so you were hurt when she was born, did you stop having children. I would let her make up her mind and stand behind her decision.That is part of growing up. I wish her the best whatever she decides.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Dont push her, I think if she decides not to go out for the soccer sport, then dont push her into it, She wants to go out for it, because she thinks she can be big like her sister, and she wants to show her sister that she can do this,
Ill give you an example, I weas soo jealous of siser that i wanted to do everything she did, Soo one day, she was 17 years old , and i was 12, I caught her drinking a rum and coke in the pool, with a girl friend of hers, And i wanted to do it to, I took a sip, and i acted like a brat and ran into the middle of the pool with the glass in hand yelling about it, and who is the one who got caught??? Yes it was me, But anyways, i told my parents that she made me do it, Which was not the truth, I wanyted to taste what i wanted, because my big sister was doing it too, She got into trouble too, but anyways, thats the example, see