I live in NE and the father lives in MO. He wants joint custody but I don't want him to be able to take my child through Iowa down to MO every other weekend or whatever the case may be. My friends have told me that in NE, you cannot give joint custody to a parent who lives outside of the state because they cannot legally take the child across state lines, at least not without the other parents permission. I was just wondering if there is any truth to this or if anyone else has been in a similar situation.
2007-12-24 10:47:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I've tried to look it up, but it's too confusing and I don't even know what the law would be called, theres about a million of them!
2007-12-24 11:12:59 · update #1
I understand totally!!! I have two children of my own as well. DO NOT GIVE HIM JOINT!! If you trust him"sure" if any doubt, I say go with that. You going to wake up and think he supposed to be there at 9:00 A.M. and it's now the next day. Each state has diffrent laws, some favors and some don't. It's up to you.
2007-12-24 11:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by selfishladyred 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he petitions the court, then the court will have to dcide what is best for the child. I will tell you what schedule my best friend has with the father of her baby. He lives in Texas, we live in Wisconsin. The judge decided that the father would be allowed visitation for two weeks every two months. So every two weeks the father has to fly up here, get his daughter from the airport(their meeting place) and get back on the plane. He has to pay the sosts of the flight and her CS was reduced because of his travel costs. She is young still (3) but when she is older, he will buy the ticket and she will fly alone. Just to give you an idea of how this may work for you. But everyones case is different.
2007-12-24 10:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by TLS (Caitlin is coming! 5/15/08) 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand totally!!! I have two children of my own as well. DO NOT GIVE HIM JOINT!! If you trust him"sure" if any doubt, I say go with that. You going to wake up and think he supposed to be there at 9:00 A.M. and it's now the next day. Each state has diffrent laws, some favors and some don't. It's up to you.
2007-12-25 01:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sridaren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of 2 instances where one parent lived in one state and the other parent lived in another state. My good friend was divorced from her husband when their daughter was just about 2. She remarried about a year later to a man who lived in California and her ex lived in Michigan. Their custody arrangements were she kept the daughter full-time until she turned 6. At age 6, the daughter would travel by plane, accompanied by a friend or family member to spend 1 week in the summer with her dad in Michigan. As she grew older, the summer visitation became longer and when she was old enough, she traveled as an unaccompanied minor between California and Michigan. In the second case, my cousin has custody of their 3 daughters who are 6 and almost 2 year old twins. He lives in Texas, she lives in Michigan. Their visitation arrangements call for her to take the girls to New York City for 2 weeks in the summer where her ex's parents live. He travels from Texas and stays in a hotel, she travels with the girls and stays at her ex-in-laws. He visits the girls at his parents' home for 2 weeks. Kind of an odd situation since his parents aren't happy with him since the divorce came about because he cheated on my cousin numerous times both while dating and while married. Last summer he brought his current girlfriend to New York for the 2 weeks and his parents were furious with him. I think in many cases where parents live in different states, the custody isn't typically joint in the sense that the kids travel regularly between both parents on a frequent basis. Usually the visitation calls for an extended time period, often in the summer to accomodate school vacation. With my friend's daughter, by the time she was about 10 until she turned 18, she would typically spend anywhere from 4-8 weeks in the summer with her dad in Michigan and sometimes would also be in Michigan over Christmas break for a week.
2007-12-24 14:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best bet is to check the laws in your state and/or where your current custody arrangement exists.
My ex lives in another state and we have joint 'legal' custody--i.e. we both make decisions--educational, medical, religious etc., but I have primary physical custody.
Good luck!
2007-12-24 10:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Salam
I thought they where one nation under God? What happened to the principals of such a great nation were they cannot even group themselves together anymore but seperate and cause torment for each other? Surely something of the 50 broke up and decided to seperate all the way down to the family values that you are having problems with.
2007-12-24 11:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just call a family lawyer and they should be able to tell you over the phone without charge.
2007-12-24 11:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should see about speaking to a lawyer. There are often ones that you can have a first meeting with for free.
good luck!
2007-12-24 12:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kali's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some legal advise that way there is no mistake in interpitation
2007-12-24 15:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋