when do you think you should let that child know that they're adopted?
2007-12-23 14:27:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
From the beginning, there are so many great children adoption book you should buy one.
Heres a great one:
Over the Moon: An Adoption Tale
2007-12-23 14:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right from the very begining, never hide that fact from them. You don't want them to feel like the adoption was a bad thing. The more open you are with them about this, the less betrayed they will feel. I tell my 3 month old at least once a week that he is adopted. Also I tell him that my wife and I are the lucky ones to be able to raise him, not the other way around.
2007-12-23 22:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by spmmy2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is adopted & he says he can't ever remember *not knowing* that he was adopted. It's always just been a part of who he is.
I have some nieces & nephews who are adopted, too -and- it's the same for them. Their adoption is a wonderful part of their life story that should be shared with them from the very beginning. How cool is it that their birth mom was generous, kind and smart enough to, when she knew she could not care for them, find a family who could?
2007-12-23 22:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two adopted children. We have told them from the very beginning that they are adopted. In fact, they thought that everyone is adopted, since adoption is the only thing they know! We use age appropriate language and information. Someday, they will each know their whole story. I don't feel threatened at all that our children want to know their birth stories.
2007-12-27 18:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Pale Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't adopted any babies, but I was adopted. My (adoptive) parents were proud about their new addition to their family. Just like parents have pictures of the birth of their new son/daughter, my parents had pictures of the day I officially was theirs. They kept the photos in an album (that one day became mine) out for me to look at at anytime. Seeing those pictures not only reminded me of a great event in my life and my parents' lives, but also reminded me of how grateful I was (and still am - I'm 31).
I do think that children would like to know from their own parents and not their friends, so if you choose not to tell them right away, make sure nobody else tells them first.
2007-12-23 22:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my cousins are adopted. a few of them. there parents told them at age 12. that is a good time. they get to know who they are. at that age. they can handle it. 11, 12, 13. unless they look completely off from the parents. one of my cousins is really brown and her mom is white. her parents told her she was biracial for so many years, but she didn't look it. they finally told her at 12. she still loves them. she is just now meeting her family. our family. she is 18. its bananas. tell them as soon as possible.
2007-12-24 00:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by crystal spring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the start, because theres nothing wrong with adoption but there is with lying about it.
2007-12-23 23:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as they can understand what that means.
2007-12-24 01:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋