2007-12-27 12:47:01 · 14 answers · asked by Gophills 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What can i do to make this situation better
2007-12-27 12:47:57 · update #1
How was your relation before? If it were a good relationship then remind her of it and ask why she feels that this new attitude is needed. The feeling that she is having is being brought on by something that need to be addressed, I would try to weed out the nonsense and get to the root of the problem , it rough being that age and realizing adulthood is upon you. All the Best and remember how it was to take on adulthood, it may help.
2007-12-27 13:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know although she is a young woman you are available to talk if she needs to. She is not a child any longer but a young ADULT! Sometimes the best thing to do is back off and do nothing. Never confront her when either is upset, do not lecture or preach. Listen to her more than talk and respect what she has to say. She is her OWN person and has her own beliefs even if they differ from yours. Treat her as an adult not a child. In the end how she lives or what she does is 100% her decision now. If you want any influence in her life you need to patch things up. It's up to you to take the first step. Schedual an adult activity together spa, makeover, luch at a very good restaurant etc. She knows she has all the power in her life now and may not be sure how to handle it.
2007-12-28 04:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by MadMike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! i am sotired of rebel teens being called drug addicts and need to be put out SHE IS 17! In her mind she thinks she can take on the world and shes fully grown this is what happens. My mom thought the same thing I wasnt on drugs but she swore I was she put me out thinking I couldnt make it on my own and I sure as hell did! Sit down with her and talk about things like curfew dont just say your 17 this is what it will be the more you dont let her have her say or make her feel included in the making or revision of rules the more she will rebel. And by the time she is 18 it will be worse. If you trust her and that she wont run off and get pregnant because lets face it teens and younger are having sex wether we like it or not im not saying support her hvain sex but talk about gettin on the pill if you think she may or have been using drugs talk with her about it but in a friend kind of way that makes her feel comfortable. if she has tried drugs but isnt anymore dont lay into her we all at some point in time tried somthing. instead be proud of the fact that she no longer isnt. The more you try to contorl her behavior and her the more she will push away. I know what its like to be accused of things I wasnt doing and that hurts more. You are still her mom and will still worry but would you rather worry with her living at home or after she turns 18 and left home because she couldnt take it anymore and you dont know where or who she is with.
2007-12-27 15:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by girlie1921 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what she'd be doing at this age in nature. Taking care of her offspring. That's a lot of the reason why teenagers are that way. Evolution has them acting protective and defensive for their offspring, but since there is no offspring, it's just seen as teenage rebeliousness(sp). The book explained it a lot better than I am. Also, she's an adult. That's how adults act.
2007-12-27 13:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa Marie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have given no detail so it is impossible to advise or comment intelligently. It could be problems with friends or health or relationships or drugs or none of those things and something else altogether different. Have you thought she may find her home life unduly restrictive compared with that of her friends and maybe you should loosen up a little? It may be hard to get to the root cause of her behaviour, but do look at yourselves as well as at her and her friends and what she does outside the home.
2007-12-27 13:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by tiger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im 18 years old. dont listen to people saying its drugs or bad friends. she might just be irritated at something going on and acting out because of it. Dont be so worried about it shes 17 for one thing and it doesnt matter that she didnt before. people change, situations change and i think you should understand that she is a teenager and its not abnormal for her to be like that. give her some slack. shes almost legally an adult and probably doesnt want to listen to rules anymore.
2007-12-27 12:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am 15, and my mother says i am rebellious but i am not really. just give her some lee way and freedom. but don't ignore her. school could be a problem now for her too. shes probably really stressed out about college.
2007-12-30 14:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by feenafee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 17. She is flexing her independence and seeing what she can do. It really is normal. Pick your battles carefully, and stick with what you truly believe is important. Stick with education, curfew, drugs, drinking, etc. However, things like hair and make up and clothes and all of those other little things can be let go. It really is typical teenager stuff.
2007-12-27 12:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 17 and he is rebellious, too. We have to be patient.
2007-12-27 12:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by ROBERTO S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend quality time with her.
Go to the mall, out to eat.. you two need some serious bonding,
Good Luck
2007-12-27 13:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋